Igastric

I am a slow loser too had surgery in April lost 50lbs ish hope you're doing well

There is one other thing which has been brought to my attention been back and forth between London and Rome Italy for the last 4 months so aside from my kids I haven't seen any of my family members since the sleeve so I occasionally post pictures on Facebook well I uploaded a picture last week all of a sudden keep getting calls form all sorts wanting to know if everything is well with me. I was a bit puzzled by the sudden interest in my will being
Well I have lost soon much weight from my face it looks like I have just been discharged from hospital after a major illness
Now am only 5ft2 and 148 My bum says overweight so what happened to my face now think what I need to do plum up my face

OMG!!! Yes, Yes, Yes to all of the above!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Boney Butt syndrome was one of the first things I noticed after sitting on a stool cleaning out the basement. OUCH! I couldn't sit comfortably for 2 days. And let's not talk about my bat wings ... forget clapping for me, the first time I shook my arms after a shower to get the Water off my husband seriously asked me if I was okay! But my biggest issue is definitely the loss of my boobs. I went from a 46F/46DDD to a 40D-ish. Talk about pancakes!!! I bent over at school the other day and totally had one breast pop completely out of my bra! I was sooooo glad it was my prep & no one was in the room. We are doing a flash mob at an assembly and we had practice Friday, so went & changed into a sports bra first. Unfortunately, even THAT didn't hold em down so well. Felt like I was gonna take flight between the bat wings flapping and the boobs wobbling all around!!!

Just noticed that my boobs can out us blobs on well forget to say that the nipples are in constant conversation with my toes

My kids love to slap my arms and watch them jiggle!! They think it's hilarious! I'm so used to it that I literally sit there and let them have fun with it! Lol

@@Igastric lol! That's hilarious!!
@@Lallylocks "lady garden" ha!!

So I have always been a meat eater and during this process was not worried at about hair loss cause a put my hair in braids for protection well took out the braids with the help off my eldest daughter she couldn't stop laughing cause my looked like Don king so off to the bathroom to cut it off did a good job if say so my self any how my 20 year old daughter the youngest comes from university and when she saw me proclaimed well mum isn't the Grace Jones look abit outdated
http://tse3.mm.bing.net/th?id=OIP.Me9a71dd65dceea76c6952cb05d7cc3c6H0&pid=15.1
http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=grace+jones&view=detailv2&&id=786CD74F64D97EA493CE12BCA5FF97B4E7AC0C90&selectedIndex=97&ccid=%2bbsG6GKL&simid=608032074104835187&thid=OIP.Mf9bb06e8628b2f13b0f7d12eccc12592o1

I can relate to quite a few of these!!! The bat wings clapping for sure! Oh and when I go braless my boobs clap for me too! It's a sad state of affairs on my chest! I don't mind the bony parts though, makes me feel skinny! ????

Just noticed that my boobs can out us blobs on well forget to say that the nipples are in constant conversation with my toes

Maybe we all expect our blobs to deflate someone but no one told me that my were going to go from 38F to to a 32B when am laid down it looks like pan cake.

Just noticed that my boobs can out us blobs on well forget to say that the nipples are in constant conversation with my toes

Just noticed that my boobs can out us blobs on well forget to say that the nipples are in constant conversation with my toes

My butt isn't boney yet but- today my boobs fell right out the bottom of my bra!
Looks like it's time to see what my new size is!

Maybe we all expect our blobs to deflate someone but no one told me that my were going to go from 38F to to a 32B when am laid down it looks like pan cake.

I think that since sleevers have restriction and are/should be eating healthy anyway, it would be a great idea to help you lose those last pounds.

I do hope that when you get a little further down the road and the confusion of what to do next will escape you ( maybe not losing weight, stalls or even maybe gaining some back ) as it has for most WLS patients @@scarletwitch19 I hope that some one does not say the things you have said to this person. I agree that there is confusion in her thought process and even some misinformation, but it is her feelings and thoughts that she has taken the time to write out hoping for understanding.
I would say that there are things about WLS that you don't know or have not been privy to because you never had to deal with them.
Not every one has had a lovely experience with WLS. Not every one is prepared even if they think they are for what you have to do to be successful or deal with the emotional, physical or mental changes that can and do happen to many after surgery.
I say never say never when it comes to how you may feel later on. Never point out mistakes that you think you may never make. And never say you must be doing it wrong...... And then laugh. Because the last thing that is funny is everything we have all gone through; good experience or bad to get where we are today!
It is hard work and plenty of changes and fortitude to continue in this journey!

I believe since this is a forum where name calling and fowl language is against the rules but expressing your feeling, thoughts and ideas are aloud. I feel that the OP has every right to list the reasons she feels that it was a mistake for her.
It is up to us to learn what we can from her thinking process and see that we have the right education and fortitude to travel the WLS road if it is our desire.
I can think of many times when I laid in the hospital for 5.5 months that I regretted my choice. Not to mention the year and a half it took to feel somewhat normal because of the complications. But I looked at it as a choice I made to better my health and well being and glad even after everything that happened that I made that choice.
Would I have done it in my 20's or 30's. Looking back, oh yes! Would have saved me a lot of grief, health issues, expensive failed diets, verbal and emotional abuse from friends, family and strangers.
As I come up on my third year being healthier. I owe it all to this marvelous surgery that truly gives us who are lost as to what to do or at the end of our ropes, feel we will never be able to feel better again, live a full life and feel good about ourselves.
This surgery is not for everyone. People are allowed to have buyers remorse the rest of their lives if they want to.
This site is for education purposes. I feel sad that the OP feels disheartened at her choice. I appreciate her views and have read them and understand where she is speaking from.
It does not change my position on it. I am not going to try to convince her not to feel how she feels. It is what it is! So for the rest of us!
Forward we go! Just keep swimming eh! And hope that as time goes on she will be in a better place with her choice of WLS.

I don't disagree with everything this person said and I do disagree with the fact that people jumped all over her. I went from going to the initial meeting with my surgeon, 2 days after I thought about getting the surgery, to being in the OR two weeks later, so I disagree that you cannot make an informed decision in that amount of time. I was 29 when I had the surgery, so sort of young compared to this person's standards, and I understood the irreversibility of the surgery. My sleeve hates food...I barf at least 10 times a week. There is nothing wrong with my sleeve that would physiologically be causing its hate for all things that taste good and I know that for the rest of my life pizza, Pasta, bread, cheese, sugar, milk, cream, meat, some vegetables, most fruits and all kinds of yummy things come at the cost of a good barf if I choose to eat them. I won't lie, this sort of really sucks, but would I still get the sleeve? Absolutely. I think people who are considering the surgery need both the bad and the good and this person represents an opinion about why the sleeve may not be for everyone. Simply because we don't agree with her, doesn't mean she doesn't have the right to post a respectful (I saw nothing we should be offended by that was rude or hurtful or that was in poor taste, no bad words, nothing really awful) discussion about her own ideas.
Also, I don't entirely agree with the whole muscle/ fat thing, however I can say that at 126 pounds I have very little muscle left and if you look at me from the right angle you can tell that I am what people call skinny-fat. I look great in clothes, I look semi-decent naked thanks to plastic surgery, and I can run a wicked few miles...ask me to lift something though or do a workout that takes a lot of prolonged muscular strength and I am out of luck. Prior to surgery I was a beast...in more ways than one, but in this instance, I was strong. I sacrificed being small for being strong, I know that, and frankly I don't care a whole lot. Prior to surgery even when I was thin, I was always muscular, and part of this may be because a lot of dense Proteins make me barf now whereas in the past I never had an issue eating them. Is this a side effect of the surgery? Sure, I suppose so because my sleeve hates food that once upon a time my stomach loved eating and which contributed to me being strong.
Therefore, I am fine with this original post. I don't feel I need to agree with something for a person to have the right to say it and I can understand, from my own experience, where some of the sentiments that the poster made are coming from. For anyone who may be considering the sleeve, you need to read both the good and the bad to make an informed decision, so chalk this up to one tally mark on the bad side, and keep doing research. The sleeve is not all sunshine and daisies and while most of us love it, it comes at a cost....understanding that is just as important as recognizing the benefits.

I actually don't think the original post is detrimental to information seekers. The point of the forum is to hear multiple viewpoints. If reading this one post makes someone decide against surgery, they're probably not ready, otherwise they'd continue seeking.
I also think it is just these kinds of posts that can stir the most interesting conversations. For me, it's made me think about:
1) What this process is like for a teenager or young adult. I've always thought "I wish I'd had this when I was 18." Now, I'm not so sure. As others have said, I'm not sure I would have been equipped then to be successful.
2) The downside of having surgery done far away from your home. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad the Mexico option is out there. But I now think the ideal is insurance covers everyone, so you don't have to go out of country. I gotta think having your care team and support group nearby is a good thing.
3) I don't think even the best US providers are doing as good a job on follow-up psych care as they should.
4) Even though WLS has been around a while, patients and doctors are still "figuring things out." For example, there are new studies that suggest combining WLS with obesity drugs to improve results. Or a study suggesting treatment with growth hormone for six months post-op to prevent muscle loss. Or studies that indicate WLS does not impact depression. Conflicting studies about whether surgery leads to longer life for severely obese and/or those over 65. Or medical opinions that the BMI cutoff should be lowered to 30. There's just a lot we don't know about why this does and doesn't work.
My point is, these bigger issue questions are interesting (to me) and are usually only stirred up by raw posts. I'm glad we can also get advice from each other on cheapest Vitamins and share NSVs. But I'm also glad people feel free to share real fear and pain and anger. And I hope that doesn't change.

I want to start by saying that the personal insults really are unnecessary. The young lady seems to have enough issues without everyone here beating her into the ground.
When I was in Mexico getting surgery there was a 16 year old there with her mom who probably only has 30 BMI and that young girl was getting surgery. I thought what a shame to be having such a life altering surgery at her age. She wanted the surgery but you could tell it was mostly at her mothers insistence. Her mother had never been overweight, her two sisters already had the procedure and the mom was saying "just think how beautiful you will look in your prom dress now." I wanted to tell the mom "your daughter is gorgeous, she would look good in a prom dress is she weighed 300 pounds!" But I didn't.
My point here is that some people are just too young for such a huge decision.
As for the original poster... Follow your own advise. Having the small stomach doesn't stop you from implementing a strong exercise routine, lifting weights, and eating healthy. Start those things now. Get back on track. Be healthy for you.
Mostly be happy NO MATTER WHAT! Don't let your ego control your thinking. I have faith that you can overcome what demons battle with you daily. Good luck!! And God Bless!!

While I have made it clear that I think many of the "facts" presented aren't really facts but opinion. Another example - calorie math that 1pound = 3500 cals for example has a lot of flaws. I should weight about zero by now if it were true.
I also think that many of the responses were unkind, unnecarily harsh and missed the main point. The original poster regrets the sleeve, hasn't had long term success and is suggesting another way especially for younger/less obese people. You may not agree with that opinion, may not like the way it was expressed, but I think people do a dis service by "poo pooing" negative experiences.
I know of longer term sleevers who no longer actively post who struggle with weight regain and are disappointed too. Why don't you hear from them - they don't need the judgement and crap thrown back at them by people who are currently experiencing success.
I would not want a newbie to be turned off to considering WLS based on one persons experience, however, I do think the heartfelt message shared should give ANYBODY a bit of "food for thought" about the long term consequences of the sleeve or any other WLS.
You know, our attitude is often shaped by our results. I sometimes have minor digestive problems post sleeve - I don't even think about it, consider it a negative or complication because my overall quality of life has moved up the scale about a million points. If I didn't feel so positively about my results - i might view those "side effects" very negatively too. I also think that we have different experiences. I don't gurlge, burb, whistel or anything like that although when I am hungry my tummy is prone to rumble. Most new friends don't even know I have WLS surgery. I am just a light eater who goes easy on the carbs to maintain my "figure".
Anyway, the OP is gonna do what she is gonna do and I think deep down we all want the very best for her. Don't be so defensive about the rest. We all have to find our own path and the process ain't always pretty is it?