Steph0625

Well I'd sure as hell be checking you out!

They're checking you out! You're adorable - and have great curves!

Things I have learned by going to the gym: Men find women that are taking care of themselves attractive. They find confident women attractive and that when you have the courage to go to a co-ed gym and work out in front of them, that shows great confidence..in essence, they think that stuff is hot. They don't care about sweat, running make up or even absence of make up...they aren't thinking that your butt is too big, what you are wearing, or any of that crap. If they are looking, they are checking you out. They are probably thinking, that is awesome that you are working out and taking care of yourself.
Maybe by working out, you might be releasing pheromones ...so they are only human. Ask them to spot you and find out for sure

you're adorable! of course they're checking you out!
aren't you checking them out too? :-)

Sometimes, a "big butt and thighs" are -
1. Not noticed because of your smile...
2. Not noticed because you're cute..
3. Not noticed because you're at the gym and you're really having a go and making positive changes and the like...
4. Not noticed because we're men and, as such, see the things we like rather than the things you see as 'faults'...
5. Noticed and are part of why you're attractive..
Don't try to work us out ladies..
For simple folk, we're quite complex...
Some of us are anyway...
You lot on the other hand..
Well, that's for another, much longer thread...
That I'm more than willing to be a part of...
Anyway...
@@Steph0625
Yeah, you're getting checked out...
But it's not just at the gym...
That is all...

So I've been overweight since I was a child, and lets just say I'm not used to guys looking at me - at least without thinking that it was just because I was overweight or they were disgusted. But now I feel like a lot of guys are looking at me in the gym and I have no clue if its because I'm attractive, I have sweat marks on my clothes (gross but it is the gym... lol), or whatever reason I come up with (such as my butt is too big) .
I get that a lot of my problem is with my self image, but how do I know if its because they find me attractive, or for a whole other reason. I'm just very inexperienced with male attention and how to react to it Guys, what is your input on this? Ladies, have you dealt with this before? Any advice is appreciated!
And its not like I'm wearing anything revealing, at least not in my opinion.
 

You look great, enjoy the attention. I use to have a nice butt like that but now it's flat, makes me sad. Now I have to build one back or start wearing padded panties like my sister... Hahaha!! Keep up the good work.
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Steph, come closer. I want to talk to you.
IT'S BECAUSE YOU'RE ADORABLE, YOU LITTLE CHOWDERHEAD.
Even the sweat is appealing to the males. They're admiring a woman who is serious about what she's doing.
It's not easy to internalize the reality. Until it's no longer so disconcerting -- and it will come around -- just smile and nod once in a while as people do when they're sharing an experience. Or not. Just don't allow a moment's thought that you're some sort of misfit.
"Adorable" is your word of the day. Tomorrow, too.

Steph, come closer. I want to talk to you.
IT'S BECAUSE YOU'RE ADORABLE, YOU LITTLE CHOWDERHEAD.
Even the sweat is appealing to the males. They're admiring a woman who is serious about what she's doing.
It's not easy to internalize the reality. Until it's no longer so disconcerting -- and it will come around -- just smile and nod once in a while as people do when they're sharing an experience. Or not. Just don't allow a moment's thought that you're some sort of misfit.
"Adorable" is your word of the day. Tomorrow, too.

@@Steph0625 You are attractive...
After being invisible as an over weight person, The attention from the opposite sex is weird...Right??? lol I still question myself if I'm dressed appropriate, If my zipper is down or do I have something in my teeth. Can we agree men are the same creature from puberty on...To the guy's, let me know if you are offended or agree with that statement lol
It takes time to wrap your head around attention. I had to learn how to take a complement.
Compliment scale:
Appropriate - Is appreciated. Except it and move on..
Hilarious - Makes for good stories to tell friends..Gives you a chuckle for the day.
Creepy - Need I say more.
I still have to laugh at how clueless I am about men. But if they look at this old chick it's a good day...

I'm headed out on my horse right now to look for shed antlers.
The best part....I got to buy a new saddle!
I can hop up onto the saddle without having to find a rock or log to climb on.
I have closer contact with my horse and can feel her subtle movements.
I have much better balance.
And as you know, riding is a great Pilates-like and leg workout.
To tell you the truth, I had WLS for her as much as for me. Her name is Kindle and I'm sure no one is happier about my weight loss than her. It's 100 pounds less she has to lug up and down the mountain trails.

I couldn't possibly reveal the train wreck of a body I make great pains to disguise every moment of every day to another individual, and I can't afford reconstructive surgery either. My only hope at this point is to find a wealthy benefactor willing to pay for a million procedures like some kind of WLS Disney film or winning the lottery.

Clean, white teeth and fresh breath. Every time I see a couple kiss passionately after waking up in the morning on TV, I think, there's no way that would ever happen in real life. I don't even want someone with morning breath to talk in my direction.

I'm 22 years old and have some of the same concerns as you. It's a little scary thinking about dating in the future and someone eventually seeing the problem areas you try to hide with clothes. I wish I could tell you that I don't have loose skin, but I'm just starting my weight loss journey and have no idea how much I'll end up with. Everyone's different though, so nobody can really give you a good answer.
I decided that my health was more important to me than my concerns over loose skin. I'd rather be healthy and do more stuff that I'm unable to do now because I'm overweight. I also had the surgery because of the type of career I wanted. Not many people want to hire someone who is overweight for a job that demands you to be physically active.
What it comes down to is, are you willing to overlook the loose skin in order to become a healthier you?

I'd rather have loose skin, look hot in skinny jeans and OK nekky than have fat filled flesh, be unhealthy, look/feel uncomfortable in my clothes and look like the Pillsbury Dough Boy nekky.
Just sayin!

This is kinda in the opposite direction of this post, but does anyone else feel like they get compliments from friends and family only because they know you've had the surgery? I can't really see the difference, but I've had a few people compliment me, and its hard to tell if they can really see that I'm losing weight or are just saying something because they know I've lost weight.

Arf! I did this for the first time EVER last month. I thought I'd NEVER be able to do it. 50 YO man jumping on a trampoline!

My own: The cheap vinyl molded lawn chairs that everyone sells no longer look like death traps ready to collapse on first sit, and the arms don't "grip" to your rear end when getting out of them either!

When you can get on a horse with out the help of a tailgate of a truck or a step ladder! I rode my horse for the first time yesterday since I had my surgery! I loved it and I think she did too!