shantell500

Omg that is so funny. Shantell500

also to add. Today was kinda cool though, i realized I can Celebrate and go to the movies and I don't "have" to eat the food there. Currently drinking my Protein drink. Ha.
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Today was my husbands 30th birthday. I made New York strip steaks, potatoes, and fresh green Beans followed by german chocolate cake. And I didn't have one bite. Obviously. I'm 11 days post op. It was hard. Really hard. I've realized how much celebrations are surrounded by food. Then I took him to a movie. It was the first I think I've ever been to a movie and didn't get popcorn. That was hard too. I know I'll eat steak and pop corn again. But it's seriously like mourning a loss of a friend. Food was a friend. Anyway, hope you can all relate. I know this is worth it. There are just really hard times.
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Personal preference i kicked out big money this year on wls surgery so don't need to spend money on a trainer to loose weight.. What i need a trainer for is tone, weight lifting, crossfit intense workouts etc.. Plus I'm obsessive over that number on the scale and weight training will make it go up... So i need to be happy with that number first
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I read some interesting comments today and I wanted to make something really clear.
Out of all these people around the globe that are on this website, there are going to be some of us that have found post op, that this surgery was the wrong decision.
If you want this website to be honest and truthful, a source of good solid information for people considering surgery and a source of support for people post op, then everyone's experiences should be welcome.
The reason's I think this surgery was wrong for me has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with my post op complications!
And as for comments about people who regret their surgeries and have complications because:
• "houses were dirty"
• "they didn't follow instructions"
• "they haven't seen the great results yet"
• "they are just negative people and negative people are more vocal
So, just let me tell you this, some of us simply made a mistake.
We thought this was a good plan, we took advice, did our research, attended the seminars and weigh ins (in my case, two years attending).
We met our surgeons, we discussed our pre existing conditions, we spoke to our family and friends.
I myself have a counsellor, did CBT counselling for the entire two years pre op and am deemed emotionally and mentally sound. (just as an aside, my NHS CBT counsellor did not agree with this surgery).
I checked with my pain mgt team about the efficacy of my medications post op.
And it was still a mistake!
And so what?
It happens. And people like me should be able to explain these things without others trying to negate our admission of this mistake by offering excuses as to why we are unhappy with our decision.
I could have floated onto a cloud, had magical unicorns lick away my stomach, and woke up in paradise fully healed, sipping a cocktail in the sun and I would still tell you that this was a mistake for ME. And for many of my friends.
It doesn't matter how many years post op I get, I will consider this a mistake.
My house is not dirty, I followed instructions to the letter, I consider my bariatric discharge booklet my life guideline and I never variate.
I keep in touch with anyone and everyone in my medical care stream that might be helpful.
And complications happened. And yes, to many of us in our bariatric system. But again, it was not the complications that disturb us.
We all have different reasons for regretting it.
Most of us feel that we were misinformed, which doesn't help. My neighbour regrets her bypass because of her now permanent diarrhea and no improvement in her diabetes. She tells me that she has to think about food most of the day just to keep herself fed (choosing the right foods so as not to vomit), and she could have simply dieted harder if she had known she would have to think of food all day. She is three years post op and she still struggles with dehydration. Her hair never grew back after the initial drop out.
I myself am only 9 weeks post op and have had complications so I can't know what my future holds.
I miss eating quickly and simply in a way that doesn't have to be well thought out.
I want to be able to eat a full salad, maybe even with dressings, without worrying about which component might not agree with me.
I want to be able to eat any kind of meat I want cooked how I want in the quantity I want.
I want to drink beverages with my meals.
I miss a morning coffee or afternoon tea. I miss ice tea. (I know other people can drink it but I can't now).
I don't want to have to plan my food day meticulously or be different from others around me eating.
I want my medications to work again in the way they did pre op to control my fibromyalgia symptoms.
And I have definitely seen weightloss results. As I was lying there starving to death for seven weeks, I have lost all but 20lbs of my expected and required excess weight to satisfy my healthcare team. ( I am still only getting around 500 cals a day in, but have constant diarrhea so who knows how much stays in).
I now look "normal" except for the grey pallor in my skin and the nappy I now have to wear because of fecal incontinence (my IBS-d was totally controlled before surgery).
I am six dress sizes smaller but can only leave my house if I don't eat anything and wear adult protection in case of Water causing an "accident". Or in case I become faint from lack of food and fall.
So I do actually feel that had I read a forum entry like this, I might have thought twice.
And that's a good thing. If people are scared, that's okay. Let them hear more than just "don't worry, I was fine, you will be too!" Because maybe they won't!
So this is not about complications, it's about people.
One size does not fit all. Some of us should have simply accepted our weight, or worked harder to diet it off. Had I taken in only 300 to 500 calories a day for 9 weeks pre op, I would have lost all this weight anyway.
If you are happy, well done! If you are dead set on going ahead, ignore this. If you are a high BMI person (think 600lb life), God bless you, this may save your life, if you are a food addict, I feel your pain.
You will still have to diet post op! You will still have to exercise.
If you are undecided, then simply take a breath, think about it, really examine your food issues. Could you do more to lose weight? Could you move a bit more and eat a bit less?
Anyway, I am where I am and I plan to make the best of what I have left. And I intend to keep making sure that pre op people have a good think and post op people like me have someone they can talk to.
Thanks to everyone who is supporting me.
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Almost everything you listed you don't need.
The thing you will probably need the most you don't have on the list which is lip balm. Although, I didn't even need that really, when I woke up and said my lips were dry the nurse put vaseline on them for me.
They provide everything for you at the hospital. If you are going to a hospital that doesn't, I wouldn't let them cut on me.

This is just terrible
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You can cross the street before the red hand stops blinking

When, instead of your husband's shirt fitting like a glove, you can wear it as a nightgown and look sexy! :tounge_smile:

:PWhen you only have ONE chin!!

The gym....i suppose, is not unlike Church.
When seated the pews.....if we look around....we'll see a congregation comprised of sinners.
The gym......is filled with folks that need to be there for different reasons. We all work on what we feel are our areas of need.
Both are places where I find myself making headway when I stay focused on making my own improvements and not worry about the affairs of others.....and I hope that others there do the same.

Wowee honey! You really look great set backs and all! you know, you should be able to post how you feel so if you're whining one day, you can 1 get support for your feelings, and 2 (and most important) gain perspective. As I've been told a million times, my head is a bad neighborhood. I'll bet yours ain't that swell either:) so i think posting when your sad or anxious or disappointed is what you should do. it's like a taxi ride out of hell to a better day. The cliches hold true in this case- if you talk about your troubles, the good light is shined on them and as I said, perspective will come to your aid. Have a good one today my friend and a better one tomorrow... Nancy K.

Glad to hear your surgery went well! Welcome to the loser's bench--it's a lot of fun over here!
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One week to the day and I've lost 12lbs
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From my pre-surgery diet on June 1st (surgery June 7th) to June 22, I had lost 27 pounds. (I have not weighed this week) The more you weigh in the beginning, it seems that you lose more. Sticking to the diet laid out by the NUT and not cheating is certainly going to be my guidelines.. ( I really like the Protein shakes!)

I had surgery 6 days ago - and I've lost 31 pounds since starting my liquid diet on the 6th.

surgery date 6/7, 276lbs
today = 247lbs
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Yup everyone is different
My pre-surgery weight was 196 (the morning of surgery)
Month 1 16
Month 2. 13
Month 3 11
Month 4. 8
Month 5. 6
Working on month 6. 2 so far
I'm 14 lbs from goal
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Month 1: 28 pound loss
Month 2: 21 pound loss
Just heading into month 3.
Starting weight was 285 pounds
Best of luck with the surgery!
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Month 1: 17
Month 2: 12
Month 3: 11
Working on month 4 ☺

Hi Hun sorry u have to be going through this at a time you are supposed to be celebrating. I work at a private hospital and our patient registration department is open 7 days a week 24 hrs a day. So it might not be a scam. They probably contacted you today to give you more time rather than contacting you tomorrow when you have even less time to figure out how to get the money. However wouldn't suggest giving credit card info over the phone without giving a call yourself to the hospital to verify it was really them calling. Also depending on ur insurance and the plan ur on the 20% is required for both surgeon fee and hospital. The 3,000 u paid may have only been ur 20% copay for ur surgeon fees. However the fees for the hospital which include operating room, recovery room, hospital room and anaesthesiologist is separate. With my insurance and the plan that I am on it's a 80/20 split as well for the surgeon which ran me into 3,000 as well, however a flat copay of 250 for hospital regardless of procedure or length of stay. I would suggest you speak frankly to the hospital and let them know you were not prepared to come up with that amount of money and make a payment arrangement. I don't know any hospital that would refuse service when they are already guaranteed 80% of the payment. Shantell500

There is a difference between a "Fake, warm fuzzy persona" and just being a mature, civil human being. How sad is the world where people can't be nice without being called fake. I simply expressed how silly I think it is that we can't seem to make this work without people getting pissed and "leaving" every other day.

I am not sure why all the negativity seems to prevail here, and that people constantly say "well I'll just leave the group, then". Expecting respectful and civil behavior from adults is not unreasonable! No one should be treated poorly because they lack information or describe an experience that differs from another. I don't think being a "veteran" should be an excuse to be mean or condescending. It's not that hard to be supportive or simply ignore something that you find offensive or ignorant. If I have ever offended anyone with an insensitive remark, I readily accept responsibility for my comments and offer my apologies.
Just *another* opinion.

I started the BariatricPal forums to create a safe place for everyone in the weight loss surgery community. It is for pre-op and post-op patients, for patients of all types of WLS, and for anyone who supports the WLS community. I want you to be able to come here for advice, encouragement, support, and information without worrying about being judged.
I have a zero-tolerance policy for rudeness, and you can see the guidelines in the Forum Rules.
Recently, there have been several instances of members being disrespectful or downright rude. Examples include:
Stating or implying that a poster is doomed to failure or not ready for WLS because he or she asked a certain question or is engaged in a certain behavior. Telling people that your way is the only way, and any other way means the member deserves WLS failure. Discriminating against “newbies,” such as letting a newbie know that you don’t think he or she will succeed, or asking only “vets” to reply to a certain thread. (Reminder: you can always choose not to follow the advice of someone you deem unqualified to give it). The vast majority of BariatricPal members do a phenomenal job making BariatricPal the warm, friendly community that I dreamed of when I started it. Thank you! Besides being sure to be polite and respectful, here are some additional ways to help.
If you see an offensive post, please consider the following.
You do not need to respond. Instead of giving a rude answer and escalating the situation, you can simply choose not to answer. You can report the post by clicking on the “Report” option under the post. A forum moderator will look into the situation and may delete the post or ban the member if the member continues to post inappropriately. You can send the member a private message explaining that you felt the post was inappropriate, and explaining why. In many cases, you may be surprised that the member did not even realize he or she was being rude. Please also think twice before you respond to any questions or other posts. It is possible that you could write a post that is genuinely meant to be helpful, but the person could accidentally interpret your post the wrong way. Try to remember that:
It is very difficult to communicate a specific tone in writing. You may write something that you think is helpful and understanding, while someone reading it might take it as bossy or judgmental. Emoticons such as smiley faces can help. You can also add a sentence to explain that you are only offering a suggestion or sharing your own experience and that you are not trying to judge the OP. The OP might be in a vulnerable situation. They may be panicking about a worrisome symptom. They may be in turmoil about whether to get WLS. They may be freaking out about a stall. When they’re upset, it’s easier for them to misinterpret your well-meaning post. Thank you for doing your best to keep the environment at BariatricPal positive, encouraging, and open. We all need a place to go for help and support, and I want the entire weight loss surgery to feel comfortable using BariatricPal for advice and encouragement.

Last month I past my first major goal of getting below 300!
Today I reached next major goal of dropping from morbidly obese to obese! Yeah!
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