maggie409

If you don't mind buying the drinks the young dudes could be fun esp. during the hormone dump when you are losing fat quickly. There are some interesting videos on YouTube on the cougar phenomenon and how to navigate the age gap. As Bob Segar sang "she used me and I used her but neither one cared...we were getting our share."
The nice thing about online dating is you can delete the emails of those who are not your preference without them hanging around.
BTW, get a google phone number so you don't have to give out your real one until you know you really like the person. Great way to avoid serious clingers. Kik messaging is also nice to protect your privacy.
I know dating is not easy, but four years and a couple of serious relationships finally lead to my girlfriend and my time with her made all of it worth it. And in retrospect I had a great time dating, but I'm having an even better time now.

I got so tired of being alone that I did online dating. I only joined websites for chubby people (datingcurves). I met some scam artists, sleazeballs, some nice guys and eventually my boyfriend of nearly 7 years. He's seen me at my worst and I hope after WLS our relationship gets even stronger (and the sex better). . I honestly never thought I could put myself out there - especially being obese - but I did and as my sister used to tell me - you're not going to meet anyone sitting at home! Just be safe!

@@maggie409 - welcome to the forum. I'm five years post divorce, I took a year off to get my head clear before jumping into the dating pool, but for four years I was out looking for Ms. Right. Finally after a couple of serious relationships I found her. Just remember this is bit of numbers game. Last year I took at my three months on Match.com:
I sent 149 emails via their site
I received 61 back
15 coffee dates
6 real dates
3 multiple dates
1 possible match that had to be aborted because there were still issues to be resolved post divorce .
And finally She showed up and we have been going out for the last eight months and it keeps getting better every time we go out.
I kept track of the numbers because I know it's easy to get discouraged and think, what's the point? I'm not saying this is easy. To tell you the truth, I'm busy, but I put dating time in my schedule. It was as important as exercise to me. It takes mental energy to think about how I was going to make an online approach. Some of my tactics worked, others didn't. But I tried different things. Eventually it all came together.
So what about the women who didn't make the cut? I don't leave ladies hanging. If I don't sense there is chemistry, I just let them know. I find they knew before I did. The women respect guys who don't leave them hanging. Five of the women I met online are now Facebook friends. They were nice people, or I would not have even reached out to them.
Bottom line dating is a numbers game. If you think about the odds against finding the right person by simple random chance outside of college, well those odds are very long. It is work, but it's work with benefits and fun if you do it right.
But, Ms. Right was a year post divorce and only went out with one person...me. So she doesn't have any funny dating horror stories, but that's ok with me.
FYI - here my best unsolicited dating advice:
http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/336754-unsolicited-online-dating-advice/

Your starting stats are almost identical to mine. I lost 135 or so lbs. so our stats are still very similar.
I met my boyfriend on a dating site and we've been exclusive for about nine months. He knew before we were intimate, that I had lost alot of weight and bless him, he's only said how attractive I am and never has said anything negative. He loves to 'love' me, so I believe him when he calls me sexy. I'm a bit older than you...57. My BF is age appropriate...he's 61. I really think that at our age, beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder.
All I know is that getting plastic surgery has gone way down on my 'to do' list. If for nothing else, this man has shown me that 'body improvement' does not mean we are not worthy of healthy and loving relationships.

ok, yall have to forgive my husband's photo skills, but this chick here is wearing a size 6 dress!! woot woot!

Hi everyone! I have been on the site for nearly a year and single for about four months so I have decided to check out the singles forum. I have tried the online dating sites. I have met some nice people and a few nuts. I am from Texas and 52. I have lost 100 pounds and my body looks like is melting...lol. That's something that doesn't come up in many date conversations.

Hi everyone! I have been on the site for nearly a year and single for about four months so I have decided to check out the singles forum. I have tried the online dating sites. I have met some nice people and a few nuts. I am from Texas and 52. I have lost 100 pounds and my body looks like is melting...lol. That's something that doesn't come up in many date conversations.

"I know someone who just died after having it done just a year ago" (turns out after she lost all her weight she only drank beer and smoked cigarettes and ate very little and it was junk. She poisoned and starved herself).
"My mothers housekeepers daughter is very ill and they don't expect her to make it after her surgery." (Was more than a year down the road and her illness wasn't related to the surgery at all).

5 gallon buckets and lye works better.....leaves no trace. And that comes directly from a police investigator!
BTW, I have three cats and a good supply of batteries. Couldn't be happier.

So, here's the plan:
I have a flashlight and a shovel...

Congratulations on the weight loss and changing to a more healthy lifestyle!

Congratulations!! I am currently at 90 pounds lost. I'm so excited to hit the 100 pound mark plus it will put me in onderland and I seriously can't remember the last time I weighed less than 200 pounds.

@@maggie409 - I concur, you look great!

@@maggie409
wonderful wonderful wonderful
keep up the good work
i KNOW you will!!
kathy
congrats

Great job - you look wonderful!

Congrats @@maggie409 ! You look great and your story is inspiring...
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Congratulations! That extra 100 pounds was like wearing a two-month-old colt for a belt.
SparkPeople has this list of What Things Weigh:
http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=3421351

100 pounds is such a huge number. Heck it's an entire teenager! I began my journey on May 26, 2015 when I skyped with a nutritionist from BariatricPal. She set me on a path and plan for my pre-op diet and with much determination I never looked back. I still have 30 pounds to my goal weight and my plan is to make that by the end of the year. I used Dr Jesus Martin Lopez in Tijuana. My experience with them was sooo amazing. Dr Lopez is a talented surgeon and he is kind and cares about his patients. I have since recommended him multiple times and even traveled with a friend to have her surgery in February. I remember thinking when I had the surgery that I would be happy losing 75 pounds and making it below the 200 mark. Honestly any thoughts of losing 100 pounds or even making it to goal seemed impossible to me at that time. Goal weight seems possible now! Having gastric sleeve was the best tool I could have chosen for my weight loss journey. And please always remember that it is merely a tool. I am 10 months out and now consume between 1200 and 1300 calories a day. My weight loss has slowed to about 5 pounds per month. I have used the last 10 months and the new tool to develop new eating habits.....To change my mind and my attitude about food. If I were consuming the same 1300 calories in cheesecake and hamburgers I would NOT be losing weight. All calories are not created equal! I have not had a coke or Diet Coke in 11 months. Diet cokes were my weakness and much like an alcoholic I had to give them up completely. Probably three times I have had a bite or two of desert. But I have not touched candy bars. Not in the entire time!! My stats: start of pre-op diet 5-26-15; surgery date 6-15-15; high weight 268; age 52; height 5'0"; goal weight 130 pounds.

Of all the things I have given up in the last year, one thing I found I missed the most and have decided i will not give up is my morning fix of Peanut Butter and coffee. I didn't realize just how much this combination marked the start to my day. Before the sleeve I would have a whole bagel with a tablespoon of peanut butter on each half. Now I have one slice of Orowheat Oatnut bread with one tablespoon of peanut butter with my cup of black coffee. It isn't every morning. I probably have it 3 mornings a week. I don't eat much bread at all. One loaf of Orowheat will last me a month. Don't be scared of bread, just be aware of bread. I am coming up on some one year anniversaries for my beginning of pre-op diet and my surgery. I am very close to the 100 lbs lost mark. I have had bread in moderation and careful about the kind of bread and I have not exploded, imploded, nor has it hindered my weight loss or health. Sounds to me like you are being very aware of what you eat. Good job!

Of all the things I have given up in the last year, one thing I found I missed the most and have decided i will not give up is my morning fix of Peanut Butter and coffee. I didn't realize just how much this combination marked the start to my day. Before the sleeve I would have a whole bagel with a tablespoon of peanut butter on each half. Now I have one slice of Orowheat Oatnut bread with one tablespoon of peanut butter with my cup of black coffee. It isn't every morning. I probably have it 3 mornings a week. I don't eat much bread at all. One loaf of Orowheat will last me a month. Don't be scared of bread, just be aware of bread. I am coming up on some one year anniversaries for my beginning of pre-op diet and my surgery. I am very close to the 100 lbs lost mark. I have had bread in moderation and careful about the kind of bread and I have not exploded, imploded, nor has it hindered my weight loss or health. Sounds to me like you are being very aware of what you eat. Good job!

Of all the things I have given up in the last year, one thing I found I missed the most and have decided i will not give up is my morning fix of Peanut Butter and coffee. I didn't realize just how much this combination marked the start to my day. Before the sleeve I would have a whole bagel with a tablespoon of peanut butter on each half. Now I have one slice of Orowheat Oatnut bread with one tablespoon of peanut butter with my cup of black coffee. It isn't every morning. I probably have it 3 mornings a week. I don't eat much bread at all. One loaf of Orowheat will last me a month. Don't be scared of bread, just be aware of bread. I am coming up on some one year anniversaries for my beginning of pre-op diet and my surgery. I am very close to the 100 lbs lost mark. I have had bread in moderation and careful about the kind of bread and I have not exploded, imploded, nor has it hindered my weight loss or health. Sounds to me like you are being very aware of what you eat. Good job!

Of all the things I have given up in the last year, one thing I found I missed the most and have decided i will not give up is my morning fix of Peanut Butter and coffee. I didn't realize just how much this combination marked the start to my day. Before the sleeve I would have a whole bagel with a tablespoon of peanut butter on each half. Now I have one slice of Orowheat Oatnut bread with one tablespoon of peanut butter with my cup of black coffee. It isn't every morning. I probably have it 3 mornings a week. I don't eat much bread at all. One loaf of Orowheat will last me a month. Don't be scared of bread, just be aware of bread. I am coming up on some one year anniversaries for my beginning of pre-op diet and my surgery. I am very close to the 100 lbs lost mark. I have had bread in moderation and careful about the kind of bread and I have not exploded, imploded, nor has it hindered my weight loss or health. Sounds to me like you are being very aware of what you eat. Good job!

Of all the things I have given up in the last year, one thing I found I missed the most and have decided i will not give up is my morning fix of Peanut Butter and coffee. I didn't realize just how much this combination marked the start to my day. Before the sleeve I would have a whole bagel with a tablespoon of peanut butter on each half. Now I have one slice of Orowheat Oatnut bread with one tablespoon of peanut butter with my cup of black coffee. It isn't every morning. I probably have it 3 mornings a week. I don't eat much bread at all. One loaf of Orowheat will last me a month. Don't be scared of bread, just be aware of bread. I am coming up on some one year anniversaries for my beginning of pre-op diet and my surgery. I am very close to the 100 lbs lost mark. I have had bread in moderation and careful about the kind of bread and I have not exploded, imploded, nor has it hindered my weight loss or health. Sounds to me like you are being very aware of what you eat. Good job!

I assume you are talking post op. But either way, I got mine the first few months post op with Premiere Protein Drinks from Wal-Mart. They are 11 oz and have 30 gr of protein. Two of those get you the minimum. Also early on Isopure Protein waters from GNC were a lifesaver for me during the all liquid stage. Some people don't like the flavor but personally I enjoyed them. Especially over ice. They come in several different flavors and taste like kool-aid. If you mean pre-op or after the liquid phase, I eat lots of rotisserie chicken or grilled chicken. My favorite yogurt is Danon Lite & Fit with 12 gr of protein per serving. Also the chocolate on top flavors really satisfy my desert cravings when I have them. Grilled or baked fish is great also. Just be sure the package says "wild caught" and not farm raised. My other option for extra protein is in the deli section or your store. They are the Oscar Mayer P3 protein packs. They have nuts, cheese and deli meats. A great snack and each package has 11 or 12 grams of protein
My NSV... I got to shop on the right side of Catos last week!! Some super cute stuff

I am 5'... That's all. No inches. I am 5 months post op and I have lost 70 pounds. So glad I decided to have the surgery. I can actually see a 100 pound weight loss as a possibility.