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I didn't read everyones comment..but I can tell ya I told my surgeon that I would be the odd one that this would NOT work on me..lol..he laughed at me haha...been there done that! I'm sure they hear this all day everyday.. yes I had my fears. its a mind game and you have to squash it. toss out the scales if you have to. I am 10 PO now I have consistantly dropped except for that 3 wk stall and it last almost a month then it was all fine. hang in there! don't worry follow your plan and trust it works..

Thank you for this, I totally agree! I've been careful to only weigh myself once a week but I think I may have to let go of that as well, or else buy a scale that gives the same weight every time! YEESH!
You're totally right though, my clothes already fit better and I FEEL better so that's truly what matter! Thank you

Thank you for this, I totally agree! I've been careful to only weigh myself once a week but I think I may have to let go of that as well, or else buy a scale that gives the same weight every time! YEESH!
You're totally right though, my clothes already fit better and I FEEL better so that's truly what matter! Thank you

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Deciding to have surgery IS a big deal and it should require a lot of thought. I too don't have any medical issues from being overweight, other than some back pain and being out of breath, but what I decided that I want to have a better life when I got older. I didn't want to be in pain or in the hospital because of something I could take care of while I was young. I'm 36 and WLS was the best thing I've ever done. Yeah, it was REALLY hard before and after surgery but I'm 3 weeks out and feeling really good. My fat brain tells me I miss pizza and cake but my correct brain reminds me that that stuff was what got me here in the first place!
Just take it one step at a time, be vocal and go to support groups. Post here, get advise from those that have gone before and don't worry about what others think. They aren't you and like my Doc said, being overweight is a disease, its something that is REALLY hard to control and WLS is merely another tool to help us to be happier and healthier.
Good luck to you!

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Deciding to have surgery IS a big deal and it should require a lot of thought. I too don't have any medical issues from being overweight, other than some back pain and being out of breath, but what I decided that I want to have a better life when I got older. I didn't want to be in pain or in the hospital because of something I could take care of while I was young. I'm 36 and WLS was the best thing I've ever done. Yeah, it was REALLY hard before and after surgery but I'm 3 weeks out and feeling really good. My fat brain tells me I miss pizza and cake but my correct brain reminds me that that stuff was what got me here in the first place!
Just take it one step at a time, be vocal and go to support groups. Post here, get advise from those that have gone before and don't worry about what others think. They aren't you and like my Doc said, being overweight is a disease, its something that is REALLY hard to control and WLS is merely another tool to help us to be happier and healthier.
Good luck to you!

The scale can make me crazy. So, I stay off of it. I can tell I am losing by the way my clothes fit and what I am doing. I am not going to weigh myself again before I go back to doctor for follow up at the end of April. The last time I weighed in was at my last follow up appointment. For me the number can just be an enemy. I am focusing on the non-scale victories. I have already enjoyed so many of those! (Lower BP, fitting in chairs, looking better, etc.) And really, if you think about it, those are more important than the actual number on a scale.
My advice: let go of the scale and embrace the new you. Let the new you focus on your improved health and quality of life!
Good luck!

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Deciding to have surgery IS a big deal and it should require a lot of thought. I too don't have any medical issues from being overweight, other than some back pain and being out of breath, but what I decided that I want to have a better life when I got older. I didn't want to be in pain or in the hospital because of something I could take care of while I was young. I'm 36 and WLS was the best thing I've ever done. Yeah, it was REALLY hard before and after surgery but I'm 3 weeks out and feeling really good. My fat brain tells me I miss pizza and cake but my correct brain reminds me that that stuff was what got me here in the first place!
Just take it one step at a time, be vocal and go to support groups. Post here, get advise from those that have gone before and don't worry about what others think. They aren't you and like my Doc said, being overweight is a disease, its something that is REALLY hard to control and WLS is merely another tool to help us to be happier and healthier.
Good luck to you!

I know how you feel, I am self-employed but I held off telling the people I'm closest too until about 2 weeks prior to surgery. I pick and choose who I tell about it because people have such strong opinions about it and honestly, it's none of their business.
My suggestion would be to say it's personal so they don't pry too much, but that's a tough question to answer, I'll be curious what others suggest about it. Good luck to you!

I had my surgery in Feb and had similar fears, but luckily I'm losing. You will do great! =D

Oh yeah, I remember times along the way when I thought that was it, that's all that was coming off! After about six months I would only loose 2-3lbs per month and they all came off after my period. That was brutal but what I really needed to do was step up my exercise (read: I needed to exercise!). Walking and resistance training are what I needed and at least I got the walking going.
You'll do great. Stick to your Dr's plan and try to keep your attention on fun things or things you want to do in the future.

Tell them you are having a hiatal hernia repair, which technically may be true since a good portion of patients have the hiatal hernia repaired at the same time as sleeve surgery. It really is none of their business, so you shouldn't have to tell them anything, but I have found that lying is far easier than being evasive and keeps the nosy people at bay. It's your health choice and your decision whether or not to tell anyone- if you want to keep it to yourself and fibbing a bit (which in this case may not even be a lie at all) is the best way to do it, then go for it.

I certainly had (and still have) the fear that I will gain the weight back.
My initial fears were:
My sleeve is too big...liquids were going right through me. I was able to drink over 100oz the first week of surgery. Oh, but then I hit the purees and I felt how restrictive my sleeve truly was. I'll have terrible head hunger. I was really worried when I woke up from surgery that I'd still feel hungry. Nope, not one bit. Not for several weeks. I feel more head hunger now, but physical hunger is still non-existent. I think the difficulty is distinguishing between head hunger and physical hunger. I can now easily tell. I'll eat till I burst the sleeve. This goes along with the hunger. I feel perfectly satisfied with 4-4.5 oz of food. I'm actually more satisfied than I was with 3-4 cups of food pre-op. That can't possibly be explained until you experience it. My long-term fear now is that I'll become complacent at my goal weight and return to old habits: less exercise, more carbs, calorie-dense foods. I'm very habitual and if I have a donut one day, I'll have it every day for weeks.
I've made it a big goal to keep realistic about my expectations with the sleeve. I try to never lose sight that it's a tool and doesn't given me free reign to eat anything that I can get into the sleeve.

Hello! I am about 3 weeks out from my sleeve surgery and I keep having this fear that it's simply not going to work on me and I'm going to be fat the rest of my life - does anyone else feel this way?
I mean, I am following all my doc's and nutrition guidelines and am exercising so there is no rational basis for my fear, except that, on a whim, I got on the scale a few days after a weigh-in at my doc's office and it gave me 3 different results, all were heavier than my previous results a few days before. It really kind of sent me into a tailspin. I mean, what if I just start gaining weight?
Please tell me someone else has had this fear! Thank you!

girrrrrllll Nervous isnt the word for it! Yesterday I had a full on melt down. I start my liquid diet on Thursday, surgery is in 2 weeks and 2 days. In preparation for the liquid diet I slowly phased out one meal a day over the past several weeks. At this point for the past couple weeks I'm only eating one high protien low carb meal a day, so the liquid diet should be no problem right? I started FLIPPING out, what if I can't do the pre op diet, what if I cant handle the pain of surgery, what if I ruin this tool I was given? OMG I was a wreck! But a great thing happened, a bigger support system came out of it, and I'm feeling better today. I hope you are too!

I felt the same way. One week post op I said to my BF ( who had RNY 2 yrs ago and has lost over 150lb) what if this doesn't work for me? She said what a good friend should say " your crazy you had 80% of your stomach removed you will loss weight ". When I start to freak myself out about slow wt loss I think follow the plan it has worked for others it will work for me/you.

I also have the same fears. My surgery is 4/23. I've been going through the process for a year, preparing for 4/23. Learning everything about VSG I possibly could. I watched every You Tube video, I read every book, I joined BP, and made some friends along the way. But I am down to 2 pair of jeans that I can wear, and only a couple more weeks to go. I saw my family at Easter, and not everyone knew about the surgery, so I came clean. My nephew shouted at me..."NO!! Don't do it!! It'll RUIN your life, or you will DIE. Just eat less and exercise more....come on, lets take a walk right now and get started today!! ". To say I was ticked off, is an understatement. He is too young to remember by struggles with maintaining my million losses. I know I've probably lost a million pounds in my lifetime. I just am so afraid of failure. I am a total rule follower, so I know I will lose. I just need this time to be different. This time when I get to goal.....I need to stay at goal! That is MY GOAL!! (get it!)

You're doing it for you. Embrace it. You will succeed!

Hello! I am about 3 weeks out from my sleeve surgery and I keep having this fear that it's simply not going to work on me and I'm going to be fat the rest of my life - does anyone else feel this way?
I mean, I am following all my doc's and nutrition guidelines and am exercising so there is no rational basis for my fear, except that, on a whim, I got on the scale a few days after a weigh-in at my doc's office and it gave me 3 different results, all were heavier than my previous results a few days before. It really kind of sent me into a tailspin. I mean, what if I just start gaining weight?
Please tell me someone else has had this fear! Thank you!

The surgery is a tool...not a magic wand. Having said that, if you follow the doctor's instructions, and pay really close attention to the feelings of satiety...not fullness, I think you will see that this works pretty damn good.
I'm banded so I can't say how you will feel after surgery but based on what I've seen others write who have had the sleeve, you eat less because the stomach is smaller. You still have to eat smart and likely walk away even if you still feel like you can eat more but...I found my appetite suppressed just enough to stick with around 1,000 calories daily and I weigh today, what I weighed when I was a 13 year old. Even when I got married, I was 125 lbs. and thrilled to be at that weight.
Good luck and keep us posted.

You are all such an amazing and wonderfully supportive group of people, I knew I wouldn't be alone in this and I thank you all for taking the time to respond and help ease my fears!

First off, good luck with your surgery! Mine went really well and I'm SO glad I did it and I am so glad that others have felt/thought the same way. The thing that I have started to tell myself is that 1) if I follow the rules it will work and 2) it HAS to work, I mean, my stomach is TINY now!

I had the same fears before surgery and for the first month after. I was banded and not very successful so I was really anxious that I'd be the anomaly and not lose with the sleeve either. And had been on every diet on the planet.
However, this experience was different in 101 ways and I have no doubt now that I will be successful. I AM successful. So I have no doubt that you will be successful too.

Thank you!

Thank you!

First off, good luck with your surgery! Mine went really well and I'm SO glad I did it and I am so glad that others have felt/thought the same way. The thing that I have started to tell myself is that 1) if I follow the rules it will work and 2) it HAS to work, I mean, my stomach is TINY now!