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Just you ladies wait!!!
Skirts and dresses and skinny jeans and boots that fit and heels and cute little tops and more and more and more!!!!
It's so fun. I can shop anywhere and wear so many things. My skirts keep getting shorter and shorter though and I have to laugh about that!
Thrift store shopping is pretty awesome because it's so cheap and that way if you keep losing, no big deal!
Shopping now is so much fun. You will discover your style and it will be so fun doing it!
Here is how I dress now:

Skinny jeans!

Sun dresses!

Sexy little tops!

Whatever the heck I want!!! Haha. Okay this last one is a joke. ????

I have always wanted to travel to Europe, but I was afraid I would be too tired or not be able to be accommodated well due to my size. I am only 5 months out now, feeling GREAT and I just booked a Europe trip next summer for myself and my husband. Here's to celebrating new life!

I want to travel to Arizona and go on a three day hike to all the beautiful blue-green waterfalls on the Havasupai reservation. You have to hike about 8 miles to get to them and in my current state, it's out of the question. I can't wait to swim in those beautiful waters!! Also getting through a whole Zumba class without stopping to rest and shopping, Shopping and more SHOPPING in "normal" stores

What really gets me as I sit here thinking is why the hell was I not proud of the fact I walked an entire freaking orchard without getting tired or needing to sit down while pushing a stroller through ruts and crags and tall grass and carrying my huge basket of apples(don't trust kids to carry something so heavy and hubby had the other basket)?!? Why is my 1 fixation the fact that I went to crapville on my diet? Why is that my ender? Why am I so cruel to myself. Would I attack a friend like me who did the same or would I tell them how proud I am of how hard they worked? *sigh*. I guess I need to think about that awhile. Why do I mentally verbally abuse myself to the point I don't know how to go on after what a I perceive is this huge failure and how can I prevent from doing that in the future.

I have told one person and one person only: My husband. I love my family, but they tend to be know-it-alls and busy bodies, and I just don't want to deal with having to defend my decision or my eating choices for the rest of my life. The people at work are also great folks, but very gossipy and close-knit, with lots of the skinny women constantly advising everyone else on food choices (while nibbling on cake and chocolate all day themselves).
This is my body, my health, and my business. As @@gobeit notes, it is a medical decision, and I feel no qualms at all in keeping my medical history private.
I was worried, too, about eating at work, but so far no one has noticed a thing. I've said I'm dieting and watching my carbs, both of which are true. I eat cottage cheese, V-8, Soups, tuna in packets with low-fat dressing. We have had a couple of meetings where boxed lunches were ordered. I didn't eat the bread. Said I was doing low carbs (which is true!) which everyone understands, and it was no big deal at all.
I am getting my emotional support from my husband and other support on this website. I rely on my doctor's office for medical advice, but check here daily to see what other people's experience is. I've found this tremendously reassuring and helpful.
So, do whatever is best for YOU, but do give it serious thought. Once you've told a few people, the choice of keeping your medical history private is no longer yours.

I have told one person and one person only: My husband. I love my family, but they tend to be know-it-alls and busy bodies, and I just don't want to deal with having to defend my decision or my eating choices for the rest of my life. The people at work are also great folks, but very gossipy and close-knit, with lots of the skinny women constantly advising everyone else on food choices (while nibbling on cake and chocolate all day themselves).
This is my body, my health, and my business. As @@gobeit notes, it is a medical decision, and I feel no qualms at all in keeping my medical history private.
I was worried, too, about eating at work, but so far no one has noticed a thing. I've said I'm dieting and watching my carbs, both of which are true. I eat cottage cheese, V-8, Soups, tuna in packets with low-fat dressing. We have had a couple of meetings where boxed lunches were ordered. I didn't eat the bread. Said I was doing low carbs (which is true!) which everyone understands, and it was no big deal at all.
I am getting my emotional support from my husband and other support on this website. I rely on my doctor's office for medical advice, but check here daily to see what other people's experience is. I've found this tremendously reassuring and helpful.
So, do whatever is best for YOU, but do give it serious thought. Once you've told a few people, the choice of keeping your medical history private is no longer yours.

Be as kind to yourself as you are to your family! Do NOT beat yourself up over a slip or a bad day! You have a tremendous amount on your plate (pun intended) and you sound like you're doing great a managing it all. I would never have had the energy to exercise at 11 p.m. after all that! You're living a full, active, conscious life. If you make a mistake one day, that's just ONE DAY! And don't sweat that 4 pounds. My weight has always fluctuated 4 pounds or more in a day. You're working it and you will be fine!

I am stunned that anyone would think a public site on the internet would somehow be private!
A quick poll: How many of you found out about this site in the first place by Googling something related to WLS?
I know I did. And I'm SO grateful I found it! If it was private, I shudder to think how much knowledge and real peoples' experience I would not have access to!

I love sushi! When I was allowed to move from puree to soft foods, we went to a sushi restaurant.
But I ate only two pieces of sashimi (no rice), about half a small bowl of miso Soup, and a piece of agadashi tofu with some of the broth. It was heavenly and I was completely full and satisfied. On my plan, I am not supposed to have rice until 6 months out, so I am avoiding the rolls for now.

RE: Nothing to eat at fast food: I went in a pinch to Taco Bell. Got a side order of refried Beans and a side (very tiny) of guacamole. It was good and filling.

RE: Nothing to eat at fast food: I went in a pinch to Taco Bell. Got a side order of refried Beans and a side (very tiny) of guacamole. It was good and filling.

RE: Nothing to eat at fast food: I went in a pinch to Taco Bell. Got a side order of refried Beans and a side (very tiny) of guacamole. It was good and filling.

@@whisper43 I wanted to wear high boots that zipped. I did! I wanted to go white Water rafting in Colorado. I did! I wanted to wear a small prom dress since I never go to in high school (pregnant) and I put on a size 8 today only in the dressing room with my teen daughter but still counts! Next...well I don't have a plan for anything as of now, I'm just taking the blessings as they come.

Nope, nobody fat-shamed me.
But I hated being fat. I was embarrassed about it. Felt so disappointed in my inability to resolve my struggles with obesity and deal with it.
I certainly didn't need "feedback" to know I was fat, unhealthy, and miserable. And it wasn't like I wanted to live like that.
Duh.

I think it's awful. People need to live and let live. Making someone feel like crap doesn't create something positive. Even on this board you have many people who missed out on life because of being shamed. Still others on this board who are shocked to find that being skinny is not the magic cure all to happiness. I loved me fat and I love me 104lb thinner. It was loving myself warts and all that motivated me to care for myself enough to even consider this surgery.
Shaming had NOTHING to do with it.

The fact that I can't go to my child's performances at her school. The fact that I have to order food to be delivered because I can barely walk because I am so big. at 450 pounds and all of my life heavy it was either this or die.
Sleeved on 9-2. Looking forward to living a little longer.

Actually, I like the idea that someone can google a topic and find a post about it. Maybe something I have experienced can help someone else.
Honestly, I can't imagine that bariatric surgery is in the top ten things that crazies search under, however, I could be wrong!
That being said, I am not worried as I am sure I am not the only mother with a son named Samuel in this entire country.

I am stunned that anyone would think a public site on the internet would somehow be private!
A quick poll: How many of you found out about this site in the first place by Googling something related to WLS?
I know I did. And I'm SO grateful I found it! If it was private, I shudder to think how much knowledge and real peoples' experience I would not have access to!

Jealous about having a low BMI? Hmmm....I started with a 33 BMI (5'6" 200 HW/SW) when I was sleeved 6/30/15. I've lost 35 pounds so far and am rocking size 10 skinny pants. I eat healthy carbs and anything else I want in very small quantities. I'm eating in a manner that is sustainable for the rest of my life! I'm not trying to lose fast, I'm trying to lose it permanently. Just because we have this weight loss tool, doesn't mean all logic to losing weight should be ignored. Some of the best learning to do on this site is to read the stories of people who have regained a lot of weight. Many say they lost quickly, but by eating too restrictively and in ways they couldn't continue. Others describe regret in not using the honeymoon period as a learning period on how to eat healthfully. Yes, we each have our own journey, but I'd rather learn from others' mistakes (plus some of my own), because I don't have time to make them all myself!

gabito,
Sorry for your frustration, but that is a totally normal problem to be having! It’s a lifelong struggle for some of us to be in control of what we eat. It’s great that you practiced the “stall” tactic and held out for 3 hours, even if you gave in later. Keep practicing that, and you may get better at using the stall tactic!
It can help to stay positive and remind yourself that 2 doughnuts is not that bad! No, it’s not ideal…but how much food would a binge include in your worst days before WLS? So acknowledge the progress you’ve made, and be proud of yourself for recognizing that you may still need help, and reaching out for the help you need.
I’m also really glad you shared this because many people need to understand…WLS is not a cure for BED, or emotional eating, or other unhealthy eating habits or relationships with food. It can definitely help, but to different degrees depending on the individual, the type of surgery, and the reasons behind the unhealthy habits and behaviors.
For everyone considering WLS, know that you’ll need to confront your issues with food. Develop a plan or strategy that you can use as you lose weight after WLS.
Gabito, stay strong, keep your head up, and get help if you need it. You can do this! And you are doing it – 70 lbs in three months? Wow!

@@gabito
LOL... I don't know if "controlled" is the word I would use. I think it's more accurate to think of it as a truce. The way I deal with it now wouldn't have worked in the beginning or even a year ago. It may become problematic in the future - my crystal ball broke and my husband won't buy me a new one so I really don't know. For now it works because I can stay on track and make good choices. My food issues come up when I obsess about what I MUST NOT or CANNOT have. They also come up when I'm not OK emotionally. food isn't my real enemy, it never was. Food/BED was a symptom of my inability to cope or be real with myself and others. If I'm ok emotionally food is a non-issue most of the time. The road to getting to this place was painful but worth it.

I don't really consider any of my food choices "cheating". I still track everything I put in my mouth. I know what I need. It might help to think of your calorie goal as a budget. With my budget I have to buy so much Protein, so much Fiber, so much Calcium, so much (healthy) fat, etc... If I get everything I need and want something indulgent AND have enough left over I go ahead. Otherwise I have to do it another day. It works out that I can have a bite of anything I want but beyond that it has to be paid for... we all learn different ways of coping with the monster. That's one of mine.

That's a really touching message, thank you so much Folly. When my bingeing was bad, back when I was a teenager I would have felt incredibly bad about myself and just continued to binge. But I'm in my twenties now and the problem has gotten better. After I binged today I went to the gym and continued with my meal plan for the day.

I think that this is a good idea. I would really like someone who is also struggling with bingeing or out of control eating to read this and not feel so lonely. Looking through these boards can be very difficult. The only time in which you read about people going off track they talk about how they gained 100lb+ after years of doing very well. The other side tends to be people who appear to no longer have any emotional attachment to food after the surgery.

My plan called for a minimum of 60 grams of Protein for the first few weeks and now 80. My nutritionist told me not to count calories, count Protein. Protein is more filling also. But I'm supposed to stay under 60 carbs a day. I space my eating out. I eat a mini baby bel cheese as a snack (50 calories FYI) and I find it very filling. Cottage cheese is also a good snack for me.