SlimJill

Over the past 2-3 months my diet has gone from near perfect to train wreck!

I'm talking junk food - fritos, cheetos, sugar free candy, real sugar candy, pizza, Chinese food, etc. Just the crappiest stuff around. I wholeheartedly blame myself and feel terrible because I spent so much money, made such a huge change, was so good for so long and then... stress/life really challenged me and I buckled under the pressure...

I currently go to a psychologist who is a addiction specialist but I want to hear from the mouths of former or current food addicts...

What do you use as stress relief now? How do you deal with things you cannot change (like having a VERY stressful/crappy new job - like come home crying because I hate it so much...) ?

I know that instead of finding a new healthier alternative, I went back to my trusted old friend of food. My constant companion from life. I don't want how I'm eating to become a forever thing again, I want this to be a little road block in my journey. But I need help, I need suggestions... from those who understand my struggle.

I had a multivitamin once a day, and b-12 injection once per month.

Everyone can struggle with food and more importantly self image and self esteem...

My best friend is drop dead gorgeous, and I've been jealous of her my entire life! She is 5'4, 120 pounds, hour glass frame, tan skin, nicest clothes, new car, etc. That bitch has everything I want but I never realized she had an eating disorder... she struggles with food and self image just as much as I do - only in a different way.

So in a way I understand how we want to say "you have NO idea"

but everyone has a problem, it might just not be visible like ours... and we shouldn't put others down because of it.

189 lbs

5'1

Size 16P pants

Here's a different point of view. If this is truly a person of interest, then you should be honest and tell them you had weight loss surgery and the effects it has had on your diet. If they can't handle the fact that you have had weight loss surgery, then maybe you should move on and find someone who can be supportive of a decision that you made for the sake of your health.

I agree, you should tell him. If he isn't supportive then maybe he isn't a guy you want in your life...

With the sleeve it's kind of hard to not eat your portion sizes correctly... so that is not a problem for me...

I do include carbs in my diet, because my surgeon said everything in moderation. I avoid sugar like the plague though, but will indulge in bread, rice, Pasta, but only a little bit. A bit or two.

Is it healthy for you to eat so little? How can you live off that real portion size minuscule amount of food?

The other week I had dinner with my grandma and she asked me,

"Did you eat enough? Are you sure you don't want more?"

WHAT?

No one has ever asked me if I had enough to eat... I've always been onto my second or third helping before they got the chance to ask

I am only 4 months out and I've got to say... I don't eat perfectly... and that scares me.

I, too, don't want to fall back into old habits. I don't feel bad if I eat something like chex mix as a snack, but I did buy sugar free candy the other day at work because I was very stressed and that scared the crap out of me. I don't want these little Snacks to add up over time to become a major problem and put me right back where I was (both in spirit and weight).

Current Weight: 191.8

Goal Weight: 175

My stomach felt pretty good at 2 weeks out. I didn't feel 100% normal getting out of bed, bending over, straining my stomach muscles until about 5 weeks out. Give it a week and you'll feel better

195.4 lbs

"But you're so young! You could have just exercised and ate less..." Yes because I should have waited another 10, 20, 30 years of unhappiness and hating life until I decided to make a change... of course! Exercise and eat less, well holy hell there's a new concept I NEVER tried before!

"You're going to gain ALL your weight back because I know 1 person who did!"

I experienced this also...

Quit my old job right before surgery and didn't see any of them until I was 50 pounds lighter! Not one person asked me if I lost weight! Inside I was pretty upset, but I got over it.

I think maybe people don't want to offend us... and then sometimes maybe they just didn't notice. Like maybe you look different, better, but not SO drastically different that people would say "OMG you lost weight!" At least that is what I told myself when people who hadn't seen me since I was 250lbs!

195.8 lbs

I weigh myself pretty much everyday...

I like to record my weight daily so I can see any gains, losses, or stalls and how long it lasted. Usually when I stall for a few days, I'll have a bowel movement (several) suddenly and lose 2 pounds the next day! I don't see my daily weigh ins as a bad thing because I know in my heart and soul that I'm giving it 100% right now, so if the scale doesn't reflect that it's just my body is not ready for it yet, a few more days and I'll see the results.

200.4

@@Christy K you are doing awesome! Keep up the great work!

The grammar struggle in this thread is real.

I haven't experienced it since surgery, but I have definitely experienced it before. It was actually another heavy friend of mine who wanted to "people watch" and make very rude comments about nearly everyone who walked by. I've never been a mean girl in that I liked or wanted to make fun of people, but also didn't have enough guts to say "this is mean and we shouldn't do it." Though I wouldn't do it now, I know before it came from a place of insecurity and wanting my mean friend to like me...

I would do the advice above, hide weights in your bra, pockets, pants, underwear, drink lots of Water before you weigh in! And try to slouch, you could get an inch or two off your height that way which should save you 5-10 pounds.

202.8

Thank you! I will give my surgeons office a call tomorrow morning and ask if Tylenol is okay.

Being that I had surgery at 20 years old I don't take a lot of medicine... or really any at all... except when that time of the month rolls around. So I never asked my surgeon what kind of pain medicine I COULD take as it didn't seem like information I would need. Now as I am 3 months out and enduring my third very painful (normal for me) period, what can I take for the pain??

I've tried googling it and all that comes up is what I can't take... IB Profen, Advil, etc.

And this heating pad is just not cutting it anymore! I need drugs!

WANT to be a food addict?? WANT??

*deep breaths*

My entire life I've felt powerless to food, cravings, and impulsive bad decisions... I could never figure out why this was so hard for me. Why could other people put the fork down, but I ate until I puked? How could people turn down dessert and I couldn't? Why did I hide food? Why did I constantly feel guilty for everything I ate?

One day the light bulb went on! This is an addiction like anything else. That is why this was so hard for me... why it is still hard. It's an everyday battle but the surgery has helped tremendously!

I found the article to be a bit... condescending. Of course I recognize my own screw ups, I take responsibility for my actions, I seek solutions to my ADDICTION. That doesn't make me a "wanna-be" addict or some weak person looking for an excuse!

It takes a strong person to admit they have a problem/addiction, it takes an even stronger person to fight their addiction head-on instead of living in what is 'comfortable'. I could have continued the life I was living, eating to replace love, friendship, and hobbies... I could have gained more weight... I could have stayed where I was comfortable, stuck with what I've done my whole life. Instead I confronted my addiction and changed my life! If anyone thinks I or anyone else wants to be a food addict they can kiss my ever shrinking ass!