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Eight months anniversary from surgery today. First photo is December 2016, the day before I started the preop diet and the last one is 10 days ago. It is a new life...

Hello everyone I am a newbie and in the beginning stages ... Excited and ready!!!

11.....I am 11lbs away from my own personal goal weight. post workout tonight pictures.

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Now the pictures of the blue suite are from this past weekend,which was my birthday weekend as I was treated to a night out on the town at a Burlesque show.

The red suite here is from my oldest brother's wedding from about a month and a half ago.



In other words people. I am now starting to actually appreciate how I look. It has taken a long time for me to mentally get to this point where I don't see the "Fat Man" anymore. Even after the surgery and easily dropped the first 200lbs I still saw the "Fat Man". Now I am not seeing him at all. A good clean suit does do wonders for the confidence that is for damn sure.

To me 241lbs never looked so good. Especially coming from good and well over 600lbs too.
  

You know you lost weight when your co-workers call you slim goodie every day you come in 😂😊☺️😆😎

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This thread is still a thing?? And now its been joined by Abeille, the most insufferable commenter yet. Thank you for your comments, I just spent 4 minutes giggling at all your responses. Between the tweener sarcasm and the grammar nazi, you bring it all. Your professional counterparts of which you speak must be in awe of your superpowers.

While its honorable of you to play protector to the OP, if you pull your head out of your @$$ for 10 seconds you will realize that any reasonable person can see that i did not personally attack, bully or belittle the OP. I simply used straight talk with no fluff that the OP claims to prefer. If you feel like your life is ruined only 3 weeks post op, then you need to review your materials and your plan to remind yourself why you did it in the first place.
This thread has turned into the message board equivalent of a YouTube video from Walmart, where the OP is arguing with several posters telling them "Im gonna get up in yo azz so you sit the f*** down" and somehow that behavior is encouraged here, whereas straight, REAL talk about the issue is perceived as bullying. Two weeks of lashing out and raging one moment and then telling us all how she wants it honest and real and raw. Total contradictions.

The thing about online communication is people tend to focus on certain words that they perceive as negative or personally focused and then the whole comment is taken in the wrong context.
One thing I have learned from my short time on this website is that people here are generally in one of two camps. Some want straight up, real talk and support. Others dont. Its because of the latter that i quit commenting here, until your silly callouts.
Continue on, feel free to critique my grammar and psychoanalyze my comments. Its all just words on a screen.

Wow, you have only been on the forum since April and have shown yourself to be a real charmer. Has there been a thread that you have participated where you did not call someone a bully, cruel, or mention your profession? I do question the quality of someones education that is allegedly approaching a doctorate in psychology yet had to resort to surgery to correct a psychological problem.
Why didn't you interact with your colleagues in regards to your food addiction? I don't usually defend forum members, but Véronique is nothing but supportive in the threads I have read. However; you attacking her, or trying to make an example of her, so that no one dare question you is a jerk move.

Thank you I needed to hear that!



Tiffani️

Keep your head up Sis!
This is a journey that's affects all of us differently. We have the surgery in common but where it leads us to in our lives and how we feel about it is as individual as you get.
Have you ever hear the saying "Eat the meat and spit out the bones."? That what you have to do with the negative comments. Take whats good and leave whats not.
I respect and applaud you for sharing your ups and downs and being raw. Its doesn't always invite the kindest of people, but you put yourself out there anyway. You continue on knowing that you are helping the person who feels just like you do but is afraid to say anything for fear of being judged and called names just like you were.
I will be one full month sleeved on the 14th and let me tell you, things have taken a turn for the positive. Im eating and drinking much better and I no longer dread my decision but am beginning to be aT peace with the new me. And yes, I do like watching the numbers going down on the scale. But I certainly didn't feel that way 3 weeks ago. Now, I find myself motivated to try eating in a different way.
I said all that to say, be encouraged. And I hope that things are looking up for you a bit.

So let me update everyone on my life. So many responses in two weeks. I appreciate all the comments even though some people are just naive to life. Like some people on here act like it's sooo easy. If it's so easy how come you couldn't lose the weight on your own. (That's a different topic though) . I experience a lot in two weeks I lost 40 pounds in 4 weeks. Pretty great I know. Um I'll be over a month out tomorrow. Do I feel different than two weeks ago..... yes. Is this still a process for me.... yes. Do I still have regret not as much as I did originally it is getting better. I dilute a lot of drinks and found out some foods like queso still isn't my friend. I'm working on it I really do. I start my workout in another week. I chose to build myself back up by water than just go straight into the gym. So thank you all for the comments like this thread went viral. I'm glad it did because there so many people who are feeling this way but scared to admit it. I'm always glad to be a voice for people anyway I can. Again thank you all for your encouragement. Also for those of you who are still judgmental..... you all need to live life a little. Go get your nipples pierced or skinny dip or something. You don't have to be "the bitter mean/old/ person" I understand you all are giving wisdom and advice but to talk about people maturity level or say that I need to go to an institution and I'm crazy that's just kind of low.


Tiffani️

August of last year vs August of this year
6 months post op and 2.5 lbs from goal weight!!!

Lost 150 lbs in 10 1/2 months. Celebrated by taking my 12-year-old to Six Flags and rode EVERY roller coaster. This is the first time in HIS life I could ride the coasters with him.

I had the same issue last year at six flags where I almost couldnt fit in the superman ride. It was embarrassing and I felt so bad cause my son loves roller coasters.. Its a great feeling now isnt it?

Amazing isn't it? All the times we tried to lose weight in our lives and failed.

Face to face! 5 months post surgery and 80 lbs down!

You look fantastic! I love your mermaid dress & diamond tattoo!!

Pic on the left was December 2016. Pic on the right was today 9/9/17.
Surgery Date: 4/20/17
HW: 311
SW: 276
CW: 218

I can relate to where you are at right now because I was there right after I had my surgery to. Add to it all the complications I was having from dumping and the memory loss due to the anesthesia from surgery and Vitamin deficiency and you had someone who totally at the time regret it having their stomach altered.

And I stayed that way for damn near 7 if not 8 months. But then after I drop my first 120 lb, man you could not believe how happy I was. When I was able to get rid of my Casual Male big and tall card, and start buying clothes out of Walmart, you couldn't believe how happy I was. When I was able to run for over a mile and not feel like my lungs were going to collapse you cannot believe how happy I was. When I no longer required insulin to function normally or no longer having back pains due to the damn near 400lbs of excessive weight I was carrying on my frame, you couldn't believe how happy I was.

The point I'm making is that its gonna take time. Time is what you need to heal, seriously for most that takes a good soild year out. Time for you to see how important this surgery is going to be for you and your life going forward. Important in that its going to be the pathway to a healthier and more happier you in the long run if you allow it to be.

The only way this surgery is going to be a mistake for you, is if you allow it to be. If you want this surgery and the outcome from it to be successful then you'll allow it to be so. You jave have to condition your mind. That's the one thing that surgery can't do for you out of this process. Condition your mind to tell you that you don't need those old eating habits, or crappy food all the time to feel and be happy.

Sorry for my preachy preach there. Its just that I get what you are going though. And the simple yet complex answer to all of this is focused time.

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I can relate to where you are at right now because I was there right after I had my surgery to. Add to it all the complications I was having from dumping and the memory loss due to the anesthesia from surgery and Vitamin deficiency and you had someone who totally at the time regret it having their stomach altered.

And I stayed that way for damn near 7 if not 8 months. But then after I drop my first 120 lb, man you could not believe how happy I was. When I was able to get rid of my Casual Male big and tall card, and start buying clothes out of Walmart, you couldn't believe how happy I was. When I was able to run for over a mile and not feel like my lungs were going to collapse you cannot believe how happy I was. When I no longer required insulin to function normally or no longer having back pains due to the damn near 400lbs of excessive weight I was carrying on my frame, you couldn't believe how happy I was.

The point I'm making is that its gonna take time. Time is what you need to heal, seriously for most that takes a good soild year out. Time for you to see how important this surgery is going to be for you and your life going forward. Important in that its going to be the pathway to a healthier and more happier you in the long run if you allow it to be.

The only way this surgery is going to be a mistake for you, is if you allow it to be. If you want this surgery and the outcome from it to be successful then you'll allow it to be so. You jave have to condition your mind. That's the one thing that surgery can't do for you out of this process. Condition your mind to tell you that you don't need those old eating habits, or crappy food all the time to feel and be happy.

Sorry for my preachy preach there. Its just that I get what you are going though. And the simple yet complex answer to all of this is focused time.

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Brilliant result. Very impressed.

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I'm about 3 months out and my surgeon told me before the surgery that many people will experience "buyers remorse". Your hormones are going crazy still at 3 weeks out, so some of these negative feelings may be attributed to it. I was a hot mess (still kind of am). I recall sitting at the table and literally crying while I ate soft foods because I was miserable. My husband can eat what he pleases and it was distressing at the time to watch him.
Eventually, this will pass. It's kind of one of the many bumps in this long journey. I don't know how open you are to therapy, but I know I wouldn't have gotten passed this hurdle without my therapist. Sometimes talking without feeling judged helps. I also don't know your prior relationship with food, so I don't know how much of a comfort it was to you. I know for me, my life was food. I used it to cope with everything and after the surgery I had to find different things to use to cope (like exercise and art).
Try to keep in your mind that this is temporary.

I wont baby you. All i did was tell you what you already know and what your doctor SHOULDVE explained to you before the surgery. You are three weeks out, on here commenting that your life is over and everything is ruined....after THREE WEEKS.

What you should be doing is focusing on your program:
Drink water
Eat popsicles or Jello
Get lots of rest
find something to engage your mind - and keep you from dwelling on these depressive thoughts you described here
start working on Protein intake to meet that goal

You can worry about your friends and your old life and doing all the things from a social aspect later.

This isnt a Jerky comment....this is providing you an ANSWER to help your original question, but you dont want to hear it so you take offense.

Honesty and total jackass is an understatement. Just like honesty no one told you to respond but you did anyway. Like I get what you are saying but you didn't have to be so rude about it. Reasons like this is why people like me are struggling mentally. I'm not looking for you to baby me but if you're gonna respond at least not be a jerk about it.


Tiffani️