jane13

I agree with needing a vet group. I am 2 years out and would really like to discuss what is going on NOW.

@@Kindle,
When I first started looking on this forum you were one of the people I admired most. I have always appreciated your advice/ responses. I still recall one of your posts about needing food in the airport and finding a place that sold Quest bars.......to me that showed real dedication to success post WLS. I always make it a point to look at your posts, I will surely miss your wisdom.

I'll have to admit that my posts are not as prolific as they used to be. It is discouraging to respond to a newbie or even some one six months out who reveals a serious indiscretion and then calls me a "goody two shoes" for giving a sane and medically sound response. For the most part, I have passed the torch on to those who have been around about a year. At 2 1/2 years I don't feel so appreciated. Hopefully, there will be enough newbies who are serious enough with this to take their teams' recommendations. A lot of the veterans' success is due to following doctor's orders. There is nothing magic about it.

Damn! Is there some secret place for snarky vets? I want an invite! Sigh

I just got snarky on the popcorn thread, waiting to be called a bully

Pretty much on every WLS forum, they end up only being people considering, people who just had surgery and people less than a year. There are very few people that stick around long term. At first I thought it was because people are enjoying their new thinner life, but now as I am not just an observer, but almost a year out from surgery I realize it is more of a mix of enjoying life and tried of beating your head against a brick wall.
There is so much good information to gain here from successful people. Really successful people, not just people that lost the expect average weight but people who get to normal BMIs and maintain them. That is really very rare on most WLS forums. I was surprised when I first started reading here the number of people that are successful and really successful. It has changed my long term goal in my mind of what I think I can obtain with my WLS. There are so many good tips to pick up if people read and pay attention.

I am going for surgery in August and you guys are saying you're not going to be there. I am a follower of rules and I need and want to make this work. I know it will take work from me. Please do not leave. I understand your disgust with that post, but there are those of us out here who need to talk to you and people like you, who speak reality, not crap. Please stick around in some fashion.
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This is why it ends up only being newbies. *sigh*

I missed the bacon thread. Probably skipped it because I knew what it would be about. I'm not here to help those who don't want it. I am here to help those who are terrified of the new life they are starting because I was in those shoes back in December 2012 as I waited to get my lap band. I expected to fail and eat myself to death. Instead I've gotten my life back and am grateful every day to those vets on these boards who helped me in a way that no one in the surgeon's office possibly could.
I won't let stupid win and I hope you reconsider @Kindle. As you can see by the posts, there are more like us than those who look to fail. Please don't go.
Liz

Wow...i'm really not happy you're going. You are very encouraging to me. I appreciate your incite and intend to listen. I'm totally going to follow the rules. Its the people who have been here the longest that I even give ear too. I'm sorry you are leaving. Sent from my Nexus 6 using the BariatricPal App

@@chrisredjeep ummm, thanks for mentioning this. I for one appreciate it. I do like giving back because I know in October of 2014 I was absolutely freaking out. I knew my life was going to dramatically change and I didn't have any clue if it really was the right call. When I post, well I sometimes wonder if anyone is paying attention. Thanks for letting me know at least one was.

Damn straight, you get one life line, if you choose to ignore it, well sorry, drown. That's about all I have time for.
Anyone for a pound of bacon?

Babbs Lipstick Lady ok pirate jenn Kindle and so many more, you all helped me so much this time last year , everyone was so friendly and happy to help . I'm in UK so not many sleevers here, so the knowledge I gained from this forum was wonderful. I can understand exactly where you are coming from Kindle and I will miss your comments. Think when I am one year out I will be able to join the vet forum, only a week to go.
Thanks to all of you who made me feel welcome and made me feel I was not going it alone.

How did I miss the bacon thread?!
@@Kindle I'm sorry to see you go

I will miss your witty repartee and knowledgeable posts. Please come to the veterans site when you feel like communicating with those who will listen.

Correct me if I'm wrong...I don't think any of the veterans feel the need to rescue people that don't want to be successful.
Now that many of the vets feel they are not supported in confronting or giving an opposing perspective. We seem a bit gun shy to respond to many posts.
I'm now a vet in the distance...I'm not involved like I have been in the past.

Us n00bs are just gonna take way more than we can give up until we aren't newbies anymore. I could definitely see how that could be frustrating- especially when you're getting piled on for sharing your knowledge.
Not to sound like #1 creeper but just know that plenty of us are spending a lot of time reading through your old posts, soaking up knowledge, taking notes, trying to succeed. That goes to all of you vets, but especially you @@Kindle I really get a lot from your posts.

As a newbie I hope you all stay engaged. It is very important to get your perspective, learn from your experience, and hear people say it is going to be rough, it is a fundamental life change, and we can succeed if committed.

Just for the record, I'm a post op newbie (RNY 6/27) and when I saw the bacon post I was completely disgusted and went to a different page. When someone does something that stupid they are NOT going to make it. Just sayin. I wouldn't waste time on stubborn newbies who don't really want help or get defensive. I listened to the good advice from this site and will be successful bc of it. Bacon? One week out? Really??!!!

It's why I don't post much anymore.

@@Sophie74656
Yeah and everyone that didn't baby them and join in on the food addicts acting like food addicts train was told they were over reacting. The whole thread is an embarrassment.

Hey, @Babbs. Good to see you. I've been wondering where you were.

Yup, completely understand. Took all my pics down and minimized my profile because I'm checking in periodically only to see a few people's posts (you know who you are) and check out anything new in the veterans forums. Seems most of these newbies have everything handled and don't need our help. I sure needed and appreciated yours when I was new!
Oh well. I'll go on living my life as a normal sized person because I loved and took to heart all the advice I got from veterans on this forum. Still will to maintain it, too.

@@Kindle
I have always appreciated your feed back. Even when its blunt and to the point.

@@Kindle You are an adult and can make your own calls. I have enjoyed your posts and thanks for having the courage to share your very real struggles. I hope I have been some help, for you have helped me.