BLERDgirl

For many years, obesity has been the only medical condition where it is socially acceptable to make fun of the afflicted. On the Biggest Loser, it's fun entertainment to humiliate fat people by making them run around a horse track and mock them when they fail. That's seen as good fun, but society would rightly have a fit if someone suggested a show where cancer patients compete for treatment. That double standard is wrong.
I see it as more of a self acceptance movement. It's trying to say that you should feel good about yourself no matter your size. It's not about disregarding medical advice, or purposefully avoiding improving your health. You can love yourself for being you and not feel like a reject or outsider because you don't fit into an impossible social ideal. No one is encouraging people to get fat, no one is dissuading people from losing weight. People come in all shapes and sizes and that needs to be accepted without humiliation for not falling within a socially approved range.

I'm not into fat acceptance. I am into body acceptance. I think there's a difference. Everyone has the right to feel comfortable in there own skin. That's the end point for me. I'm not a doctor and I don't play one on the internet. I am a fat gal who has experienced doctor's ignoring underlying health issues as a result of my weight. What I do know for certain is that loving myself as a fat gal helped me decide to change my eating habits, exercise and eventually seek WLS.

I'm not into fat acceptance. I am into body acceptance. I think there's a difference. Everyone has the right to feel comfortable in there own skin. That's the end point for me. I'm not a doctor and I don't play one on the internet. I am a fat gal who has experienced doctor's ignoring underlying health issues as a result of my weight. What I do know for certain is that loving myself as a fat gal helped me decide to change my eating habits, exercise and eventually seek WLS.

Just a quick check in. I haven't been around these parts lately dealing with a few issues. I'm experiencing my first stall. The thing is I'm not panicking. I knew this was going to be a longer haul for me. My allergies are acting up. In an attempt to wean me off of the need for daily antihistamines which 1)slow down the metabolism and 2)cause hunger, I am trying to switch to a low histamine diet. That would be a challenge for anyone, but when you add in needing increased Protein as a bariatric pt, being a vegetarian AND being allergic to seafood, it's even more challenging. To top things off, my car died so I haven't been to the gym and I'm not a very motivated home work out person. Unfortunately if I don't work out, I don't lose.
I'm not discouraged. I went from a size 30/32 to my current 18/20. I have lost 115lbs. I was fortunate to not have any stalls for the first year post-op. The rest is on me. I'll adjust this latest health challenge or stay on the antihistamine. There is a new supplement I may try and my allergist will continue to monitor that.
I just want to say to those of us who have more than 200lbs to hang in there. Be patient! Follow your program. I'm still food logging and still drinking my Water. 115lbs is an adult person! That's an accomplishment! The rest will happen once things normalize for me.

So plan an evening snack. This is why food diaries are helpful at least initially. I sometimes get snack-y in the evenings. Peeled, slice cucumbers with a splash of lime & srirachia will sometimes curb that. 1 ounce of pistachios is another option I use. I can't trust myself with bulk bags of nuts so I buy the individual $.99 bags instead.

My point is I plan it out & allow room for that evening snack. I don't want one every night but this way if I do get a craving I haven't messed up my eating.

I don't keep anything in the house I can't have around without worry of binging. If I still feel the urge to nibble, I make myself drink at least 6 -8 ounces of Water first. That usually does the trick.

I started at 414, 6 weeks out I'm at 382.

Just a quick check in. I haven't been around these parts lately dealing with a few issues. I'm experiencing my first stall. The thing is I'm not panicking. I knew this was going to be a longer haul for me. My allergies are acting up. In an attempt to wean me off of the need for daily antihistamines which 1)slow down the metabolism and 2)cause hunger, I am trying to switch to a low histamine diet. That would be a challenge for anyone, but when you add in needing increased Protein as a bariatric pt, being a vegetarian AND being allergic to seafood, it's even more challenging. To top things off, my car died so I haven't been to the gym and I'm not a very motivated home work out person. Unfortunately if I don't work out, I don't lose.
I'm not discouraged. I went from a size 30/32 to my current 18/20. I have lost 115lbs. I was fortunate to not have any stalls for the first year post-op. The rest is on me. I'll adjust this latest health challenge or stay on the antihistamine. There is a new supplement I may try and my allergist will continue to monitor that.
I just want to say to those of us who have more than 200lbs to hang in there. Be patient! Follow your program. I'm still food logging and still drinking my Water. 115lbs is an adult person! That's an accomplishment! The rest will happen once things normalize for me.

Just a quick check in. I haven't been around these parts lately dealing with a few issues. I'm experiencing my first stall. The thing is I'm not panicking. I knew this was going to be a longer haul for me. My allergies are acting up. In an attempt to wean me off of the need for daily antihistamines which 1)slow down the metabolism and 2)cause hunger, I am trying to switch to a low histamine diet. That would be a challenge for anyone, but when you add in needing increased Protein as a bariatric pt, being a vegetarian AND being allergic to seafood, it's even more challenging. To top things off, my car died so I haven't been to the gym and I'm not a very motivated home work out person. Unfortunately if I don't work out, I don't lose.
I'm not discouraged. I went from a size 30/32 to my current 18/20. I have lost 115lbs. I was fortunate to not have any stalls for the first year post-op. The rest is on me. I'll adjust this latest health challenge or stay on the antihistamine. There is a new supplement I may try and my allergist will continue to monitor that.
I just want to say to those of us who have more than 200lbs to hang in there. Be patient! Follow your program. I'm still food logging and still drinking my Water. 115lbs is an adult person! That's an accomplishment! The rest will happen once things normalize for me.

Another NUT who doesn't know much.
I am so discouraged by the "wisdom" I hear dispensed by way too many NUTs associated with WLS programs.
Shee!

Well, I'm 15 months out and I have been struggling to lose even a pound the last two months, so I'm encouraged by some of these post.
All newbies, please take the first year seriously.
My doctor said you can definitely continue to lose weight after a year, it will just be much slower (he spoke the truth).

totally disagree also. although the SURGERY weight loss has likely leveled off, i am still able to lose weight when i decrease cals and increase activity. fortunately, 18 months out, i now feel like i am able to lose weight like 'normal' people do, with decrease of cals/increase activity. prior to surgery i tried that many dozen times and failed every time!

I think you should get support from your surgeon office, but I think you recognize anxiety talking. I am not judging you for the fears but you should know that NOBODY dies from the food restrictions those early months. Dehydration can make you feel like you are dying and if you can't drink enough (sip, sip, sip) request iv fluids. It is really hard those early weeks, don't make it harder on yourself by imagining starvation etc.
My mother grew up depression era and she genuinely believed that being fat, eating hearty were signs of good health. This weight loss journey has made me face some of thoze deeply engrained beliefs.

It's not a stock answer. It's the simple truth. For most of us food will always be a battle. I plan my food each and every day or I will nibble myself to death. I drink Water when I want chocolate. I go for a walk if it gets too bad. This surgery gave me a huge boost, but I still have to work at it every day. Sometimes I have to look at my food log and reflect on what I am eating. Processed carbs will trigger the hunger response in many. Eating food that fill me up but don't satiate is an exercise in frustration. And yes, unless you provide specifics of what a typical food day is like, how you do with your Water and exercise, etc... all you can get is a general answer. No one is trying to be snarky, but a general question can really only be answered with a general response.

Is it oozing? Hot to the touch? If not then just sit down. You likely did too much and your body let you know.

To be honest I saw my surgeon for my 2 week post op visit and the rest of my f/u's have been with the NP and the rest of the team. Unless you have complications he doesn't participate in the f/u's. However the rest of the team are people that I also saw at each pre-op visit so I don't feel neglected. They are also very responsive if I email with a question.

Is it oozing? Hot to the touch? If not then just sit down. You likely did too much and your body let you know.

I would go for the milk and cheese. Yeah it's calories, but I doubt you are eating a crazy amount.

I mixed up a non bariatric serving and then drank from that. It was okay for a few hours. I never made more than I could drink in a day.

Sounds like you have already begun your turn-around.
Just a few minutes ago, I posted this at the end of my remark:
My mantras for 2016 are:

Eat Leaner -Train Meaner
Get Fit In The Gym - Lose Weight In The Kitchen
Hunger Is Not An Emergency
Walk Away From The chocolate

You have to eliminate excuses and road locks one by one. You'll get there. Please hang around here for support.

Early on things don't work as they once did. By 6 months out, things will become much more normal again. In the meantime, take benefiber or whatever else works. Drink LOTS of Water. Be patient.

Do you have a nutritionist? I agree with @@Babbs - the processed carbs create a vicious cycle of addiction and cravings. Fruit is good, but needs to be in moderation as well. Even now I limit myself to half an apple or orange a day. The only exception I make is watermelon in the summer. Otherwise I have no more than 1 serving of fruit a day. Unless you're an athlete or working out super hard, your work burn all that fruit off.
There's also the mental work. Once you hit that one year mark, it's easy to let old habits slip back in. If you are one of those who don't get sick from food, there's no restriction to stop you from nibbling or overeating. I still do not allow any food I would binge on in the house. I tossed holiday foods as soon as possible. I still keep a food diary and every few months I reevaluate my activity/exercise level and eating habits. It keeps me honest.

Do you have a nutritionist? I agree with @@Babbs - the processed carbs create a vicious cycle of addiction and cravings. Fruit is good, but needs to be in moderation as well. Even now I limit myself to half an apple or orange a day. The only exception I make is watermelon in the summer. Otherwise I have no more than 1 serving of fruit a day. Unless you're an athlete or working out super hard, your work burn all that fruit off.
There's also the mental work. Once you hit that one year mark, it's easy to let old habits slip back in. If you are one of those who don't get sick from food, there's no restriction to stop you from nibbling or overeating. I still do not allow any food I would binge on in the house. I tossed holiday foods as soon as possible. I still keep a food diary and every few months I reevaluate my activity/exercise level and eating habits. It keeps me honest.

@ - I agree with your post, but I would have read Barbie for filth! There is never an excuse to police someone else's body no matter how "well intended."

Not every female feels this way but given the fact that women are more likely to be fat shamed than men, it's understandable.