Sleeving it

Hi, it sounds like she is hurt that you didn't confide in her about your plans. She may be scared you are changing without her. However, it gives her no right to be rude and hateful especially in this very personal decision you have made to better your health and life. Be confident in your decision, make new friends and enjoy a healthier new you - you will be happier for it. You are a great person, a person who is looking after your own welfare, being your own advocate - it doesn't get much better than that!

You aren't a liar or a monster. Surgery is private and you don't owe anyone an explanation! If she was a true friend she would have been supportive. You deserve better and don't let anyone get you down. Congrats on your weight loss and best of luck to you on your journey!
Nicole

I am sorry you have to go through that, I know it can be hard. My 2 best friends felt like I didnt care for their opinion, in her words, "It sounds like you're telling us this just to tell us not because you want our opinion and you dont care how we feel." It made me mad that theu weren't supportive at first but come to find out they were just incredibly worried about me going to Mexico for surgery by myself. On a sad note she isnt talking to me anymore either, her loss

She doesn't sound like a true friend. All my friends have been very supportive even if they didn't agree with my decision.
It's times like these that you find out who your true friends really are. She is not one of them.

Are you sure you were friends in the first place or just close in associations because you worked together? Answering that question may be able to help you grieve over a lost miss represented "relationship." I've always kept it in the back of my mind that the people that I work with are colleagues, nothing more and nothing less. You made the decision to better your health and life, obviously she isn't being positive or motivating. You're not benefiting from her professional or personally... keep it professional from here on out. The more personal it gets the more the struggle.

That does make it rough. Maybe she will quit and make your life easier. If you didn't have to see her every day, it would sure make it easier to write her off - where she belongs. Her behavior is really out of line. I would just be professional toward her and let it be HER problem, because it clearly is. You need your energy to focus on your health and weight loss, not for such negativity. Leave that to her.

OMG this made me LOL!!! Thanks for that I needed it!

What would make her think you owe her any sort of explanation about your health or weight? I suppose if she really cared and felt close to you, then it might make sense to wonder why you chose not to say anything....but given the fact that you didn't feel like you could mention it, you obviously did not really think of her in that light, anyway. You felt like you couldn't trust her, which proved to be true.

She was not a friend. Friends support you and respect your decisions.

Wow... a true friend would respect your decision. Don't worry! You don't need that negativity in your life!

So you lost a couple hundred pounds fast! Victory!!!

She wasn't a friend. Go out and make some real ones.

I know it must be... But Just keep moving forward.

Some of these "friends" are weird.
They act like betrayed lovers.
So weird.

You can't lose what you never had. I believe this incident located this person in your life. Obviously not in friend category. Be glad you found out. You owe nobody anything.

Sitting in waiting room at my 3 week post op! I'll let yall know how it goes!

Jenn I just got call from my Dr office the set my preop appt for November 19th. So hopeful my surgery could now be before the end of 2014! Fingers crossed! Sleeve if you go to their profile it says add a friend.

Wow Grandma2 that is great!!! Oh and that is also my surgery date. Looks like the 19th is going to be a great day for us both

Yep, two week liquid! Yesterday was hard, I was hungry. I gotta keep my mind busy. Weekends will be hard for me that's when I rewarded myself with food.< /p>

I am on day 5 of the liquid diet and it has been rough but seeing/feeling the weightloss has kept me motivated. 5 days and 19 pounds so far! I was having a hard time drinking the store bought chicken broths so yesterday I made my own. I used chicken and veggies and then strained everything out. It smelled great and tasted a thousand times better than that boxed broth crap.

I think it's head hunger.

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Yyyeeeessss.
Me too, same surgery same day. Doc says it is common and that I should drink more, also up the liquid Tylenol to extra strength, seems to have helped.