anthonyb

Hi,
I would love to talk and get to know any woman who has had the surgery and possibly date if there are sparks. It would be great to meet someone who has the same issues and understand everything we go through after surgery. I am 2.5 years after surgery.
Can't wait to hear from you.

How does that work?

Yeah i don't tell them about my loose skin but after weight loss I have a harder time finding a date than I did before so.

Hi,
I would love to talk and get to know any woman who has had the surgery and possibly date if there are sparks. It would be great to meet someone who has the same issues and understand everything we go through after surgery. I am 2.5 years after surgery.
Can't wait to hear from you.

Hi,
I would love to talk and get to know any woman who has had the surgery and possibly date if there are sparks. It would be great to meet someone who has the same issues and understand everything we go through after surgery. I am 2.5 years after surgery.
Can't wait to hear from you.

Craigslist is dangerous...I won't join if it goes through there

I was also going to suggest finding a new pastime or hobby to meet more people, like @Sosewsue61 did. I've had friends who tried the online dating thing and found more fake people than genuine ones. Not saying it's impossible, but I think the odds are not in your favor there.
Anyone who calls you ugly is dealing with their own insecurities and issues, find other people that build you up instead of trying to tear you down. Know that you are worth better than that type of treatment and don't put up with it or believe it, not for one second.

You look pretty good in your profile picture so I'm smh... [emoji848] Maybe the women you're going for are just superficial. You don't want to date a plastic girl anyway.

I look at it this way, you can't judge a book by it's cover, it's what's on the inside that counts, that & chemistry. Though attraction does help. I seen your pic, and honestly I don't see where you're ugly at all.
My theory is that they want to keep themselves down & bring others down with them. You can't let them bring you down. If it is someone that you really feel is worthy of your friendship, then try to lift them up to your level instead of letting them bring you down to theirs!

I just looked at your picture and you look just fine to me. Although i have also been told that my face looked better when i was bigger so i know what your feeling lol.

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both men and women are shallow on those online sites. even if they werent picky they are desperate for one thing only. nothing more will evolve out of those and if they do its very rare. its more of a catfish situation. a lot of them are married and stray cuz they are bored or lonely.

I just wanted to say I'm so sorry there are people in this world who can be so cruel. If they weren't interested they could have just said no thank you and moved on. I agree with everyone here, join a group and be looking for women who aren't shallow horrible people. You got some great advice from everyone and I wish you the absolute best!

PS. Even though I'm married, I can still say you are a handsome man and I know in time you will find that special someone. Keep your head up!!

Thank you all. So to put more context. It hasn't gotten me too down yet. But it only started after I lost weight. I am on the normal dating sites pof match etc. after awhile it starts to weigh down a little bit.

Okay...there is a notable difference between a woman telling you that "You're ugly" and actually feeling ugly. Our self-esteems should not hinge upon other peoples' opinions of us.
People who love and value themselves do not feel ugly. I do not place enough importance on other peoples' negative views of me to let them alter my positive feelings for myself.
In other words, conjure up some self-esteem. Learn to love yourself. Once you regard yourself highly, no one's words can break you down or cause you to feel badly.
I live by this quote: "Your opinion of me does not define who I am."

I would venture to say that the women telling you that are shallow and have no life! Please don't pay attention to negative women like that! There are much better ones out there who believe in quality, not quantity.

WOW! You must be dating a lot of women who only are looking at the out side of a man and not what he is made of on the inside. You were spared from these shallow women, it is their loss.
I dated a man for 6 months who had lost over 200 pounds. I was fine with the excess skin as it was him not his body that I liked. Plus I knew as soon as I had my surgery I would have the excess skin too. He told me he would be at the hospital the day of my surgery when I woke up. You want to know what happened. He never showed up and hasn't spoken or written to me since. I would say he had more of a problem than I did with excess skin.
What state are you in and how old are you? As these things may be factors into why you aren't finding the kind of women you deserve. Please don't settle for those shallow woman as they will never make you happy.

You have seriously been told by people that you are too ugly to date? Where are you looking for these women?

Who the heck is telling you your uglier now? Get away from them asap. You did this for yourself, your health. Please don't listen to them. I am thinking you are their verbal punching bag and that you probably look so good now that your looks are threatening to others. Hang in there, and fine new people to hang around with.

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It sounds to me like the women you are approaching are too ugly on the inside. Not all women are like that! Keep looking and you'll find one worthy of you.

Hes not insecure, I think since I started speaking my mind , he doesn't like that, I agree with all, if hes not supportive he needs to go, I should have learned this with my last back surgery, I had my phone on silent so I could rest, and when I did call back he was mad at me and had me crying, hes turned into a dictator, he doesn't care that its going to help my health, ......time for a new happy life, thx! Sent from my SM-T110 using the BariatricPal App

That is too bad. I agree with everyone else you need to put you first. This is a personal health decision and sadly some people do not understand that. I know in my case I was just very clear with her that I needed to make this decision. She never fully understood. I hope that doesn't happen to you. There is more to life than what we look like. And with WLS we can live long enough to enjoy those other things.

That is too bad. I agree with everyone else you need to put you first. This is a personal health decision and sadly some people do not understand that. I know in my case I was just very clear with her that I needed to make this decision. She never fully understood. I hope that doesn't happen to you. There is more to life than what we look like. And with WLS we can live long enough to enjoy those other things.

I am October 5th also! Good luck to you!
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Good luck! It's a long journey

I am hoping to find new friends I am two years out since my surgery almost three now and I am loving life. I am down 125lbs and pretty steady. Definitely looking for new friends and maybe even a date if I get lucky. Good luck everyone!