Mrs. Reid

Congrats! Fingers and toes crossed!

I know what you're talking about. My BMI is 39.7 and I have hypertension, high cholesterol, pre-diabetes and arthritis. I believe that will be enough for me to get approved...but you never know. Just trying to stay positive. I have my first visit with the nutritionist this Friday....and the journey begins.....

Well, I had my endoscopy yesterday and today I passed my nutritional and psychological evaluations so next step is requesting Prior Approval from insurance company. I am so excited.

I'm glad someone posted about this because I've been having similar issues. I think people are so used to seeing us overweight that it becomes "normal". Then, when we start ti lose weight and are actually a healthy weight we look super skinny/sickly because we're so far from what they got used to.
I hate when people ask how much more weight do i plan to lose and tell me that I'm wasting away. I am 5'6 and have a medium frame. At my heaviest i weighed 250lbs, but mostly held steady around 238 - 245ish. I wore a size 20/22. Now i am about 145lbs and I wear a size 6.
That is NOT too skinny. I also wear a 36D cup and have thighs (no thigh gap even after losing nearly 100lbs) and curves.

Glad you're going ahead with the surgery! Post after you're done and let us know how it went!

Hello I hope you have smooth sailing with your procedure and a terrific recovery and a fabulous future ahead of u with better health and activity with your children often when ppl give ultimatums it's because they are afraid of losing control over a situation that may change if you change by losing weight and gaining health no one who loves you and truly wants what's best for you would give such an ultimatum that sounds like self interest instead of your best interest and your children's I hope you move forward with confidence in your decision regardless and don't let anyone block your path to a healthier future for yourself and the children best wishes

If he leaves, you can congratulate yourself on having lost an additional 200 pounds of @ss.

Control is not love. You may believe that what you feel for him is love, but is it really addiction? If you give in to his power play then you will regret it for the rest of your time with him....which doesn't sound like you have much left. The guy is looking for a reason to leave you. If it is not this, it will be something else in the future. Once you have lost the weight and are healthier mentally and physically, there will be other men who you may love much more.

Well, you posted this topic, so I guess you are looking for a response. Here is mine: Did your sister come to see you? Or did she come to see you husband? It sounds to me that she did not come to take care of you, she is looking for a cheap vacation to have a good time.
Saying you could have called is blaming you for their indifference. What if you had passed out? What if you had fallen? Become disoriented? You are recovering from surgery! They are supposed to be looking after YOU!
If this had of been me, I would have sent sister packing right away. I would continue my recovery but soon hubby and I would have to have a talk...he should not have even considered going out to a bar when you just had surgery. Is he really the man for you? Your life is about to change in a lot of ways. My motto when it comes to dealing with people: Don't make anyone a priority if all you are to them is an option. Your weight is not the only thing that is going to change.

Thanks for the tip to bring something to wear under your gown!

Well if your psychologist doesn't end up supporting you there's always Mexico. I cannot say enough good things about my experience there two weeks ago. Excellent surgeon and surgical team, awesome medical staff, really nice hospital (small but very clean and efficient). $4500 for the entire experience, including 3 nights in a luxurious room at the Tijuana Marriott. only other thing I paid for was $258 sun country flight into San Diego, where I was picked up by hospital staff and taken over the border with no issues...not a single issue coming back either. Drivers for the hospital can use a special lane reserved for medical vehicles. The entire experience was wonderful and I would genuinely recommend this route to anyone!

Control is not love. You may believe that what you feel for him is love, but is it really addiction? If you give in to his power play then you will regret it for the rest of your time with him....which doesn't sound like you have much left. The guy is looking for a reason to leave you. If it is not this, it will be something else in the future. Once you have lost the weight and are healthier mentally and physically, there will be other men who you may love much more.

Hello Everyone!!! I just loss 2 lbs. And I feel great. Took a morning walk with each dog separately. I can't risk my stomach being pulled open by 2 dogs. I'm now walking 2X per day instead of just 1 time each day. So that's 4 walks. I just love it, the morning air and the evening breeze. I didn't even have the energy for 1 walk per day. The food portions are so small, but they r filling. You have to forget who you were before this weight loss surgery. Those big plates of food and drink will haunt you in the beginning, but a nice tiny bowel of tuna fish with mayo and Smoked Turkey sliced so small, pureed green Beans and delicious instant mashed potatoes is so good, though the portions are only as big as a small walnut each. I have yogurt, cottage cheese and sugar free popsicles and Jello. The portion sizes are very small, but like I said filling. When I walk the dogs in my village, people love to barbecue. It smells so good and you know that someday, you'll be able to have a bite, when you are eating solid food. You need to eat small portions or you will vomit or worse, you will stretch your stomach eating the wrong food and portions and your surgery will have been for naught. I have 220 lbs. When I was 240 lbs. I had reached a plateau and I could not lose weight. But, with this operation and small portions & Snacks, the weight just melt off. I am constantly drinking Water and the generic Crystal Light which are so delightful. So if you r thinking of having The Gastric Sleeve, do it
Do it for you. Leave the Haters in your dust. If I can do it, anyone can. Afterwords, I was in pain from my back, not the surgery. The surgery took about 1 hour, laying on a flat steel table. My Anklyosis Spondalytis can't lay flat. So, I had a Morphine Pump, which Was so addictive and I was hallucinated. By the 3rd day I was ready to go home to liquid Vicodin. Overall, it was a great experience. It's been easy to rest and recuperate at home with no job and no worries. I am my best nurse and 19 days later, I feel great!!! No lifting or pulling/pushing. But, I need to vacuum so, soon I will try to incorporate light housework into my routine. I rest a lot in bed, but I don't sleep and I am busy with correspondence and magazines. 2 Dogs and a beautiful Smoky Gray cat keep me grounded and focused. Well, I'm hoping that at least 1 of you will be Enlightened with this post. The Gastric Sleeve is an amazing operation and I should have done it sooner, but all good things are graced in Gods sweet time and not Sooner or Later. Love and hugs I send to you. God Bless Us Everyone.

I am not planning to tell most people. My plan is to tell people who inquire about weight loss I'm doing a lot of hard work and participating in an intensive medically supervised program, which is the absolute truth since the surgery is only a small part of the program I'm going through. I am also not going to tell anyone outside of my bariatric team how much weight I've lost.

I've been telling people I had hernia surgery. I didn't come back to work drastically skinny and it looks like I will be a slow loser, so I think I am going to be good. Just don't want to share with anyone at work.
Unfortunately, I don't have any suggestions for the family part of things. I did tell my family for two reasons (1) it would be too hard to try and explain away why I can't eat very much because two family members have already had weight loss surgery (one on each side) that were open about it so people would be like "yeah, now tell us the truth" and (2) I have family members that desperately need to lose weight so if I can be a good role model, I am so there!

I just said "surgery" to most of my coworkers to explain the time off and that was it. Only my boss' boss (a dear friend of mine), one of my friends in another department, and the HR rep that received my FMLA paperwork know what kind of surgery I had. As for family, my husband, parents, and sisters know. I don't know if they've told any extended family and I don't really care if they do. Luckily, my family (and extended family) are all very loving and supportive, so I'm not worried about more of them finding out. Oh, I also told my husband's parents. I don't know if they told any of his siblings or not.

I totally understand where you are coming from. I just wanted to surround myself with my positive support people. Only 4 people knew that I was going to have surgery. There have been a few people that have asked if I was ok. Mainly from my kiddos' school, or running into them in town running to the store, etc. I just say that I had a Hiatal Hernia repair. I did. It was a large one. So, I'm not lying. I'm just not telling them all the details of my surgery. This was my decision and I didn't want to hear opinions of others, negative comments or be gossiped about. My sister in law is horrible. Her nickname in our family is "Mouth". If she knows the whole town and surrounding towns know too. Ugh! It is so high school and that was 20 years ago. Like I told my hubby, if I have to go to the bathroom, I don't need to tell everyone about my business that goes on behind a closed door. People don't need to know all the details of every aspect of your life. Privacy is a good thing. But, you do need to have the positive support system that you can trust to do just that. It is important for your overall well being.

My good friend Cassie from WLSDailyPlate suggested I read a great article called F*** Yes or No! It's a great read for our single members.

Thank you everyone for the feed back, I will be thinking about all this as I am going in for surgery tomorrow. I have decided to go ahead and follow through with the surgery seeing how I feel so much better being 44 lbs lighter already.... Not going to lie, I am scared as hell and still feel extremely guilty, but I am hoping those feelings will fade away after I wake up in recovery tomorrow afternoon!

Control is not love. You may believe that what you feel for him is love, but is it really addiction? If you give in to his power play then you will regret it for the rest of your time with him....which doesn't sound like you have much left. The guy is looking for a reason to leave you. If it is not this, it will be something else in the future. Once you have lost the weight and are healthier mentally and physically, there will be other men who you may love much more.

Congrats!!!! I've heard about the gas problems before and I am trying to be prepared for it.

Well, you posted this topic, so I guess you are looking for a response. Here is mine: Did your sister come to see you? Or did she come to see you husband? It sounds to me that she did not come to take care of you, she is looking for a cheap vacation to have a good time.
Saying you could have called is blaming you for their indifference. What if you had passed out? What if you had fallen? Become disoriented? You are recovering from surgery! They are supposed to be looking after YOU!
If this had of been me, I would have sent sister packing right away. I would continue my recovery but soon hubby and I would have to have a talk...he should not have even considered going out to a bar when you just had surgery. Is he really the man for you? Your life is about to change in a lot of ways. My motto when it comes to dealing with people: Don't make anyone a priority if all you are to them is an option. Your weight is not the only thing that is going to change.

Control is not love. You may believe that what you feel for him is love, but is it really addiction? If you give in to his power play then you will regret it for the rest of your time with him....which doesn't sound like you have much left. The guy is looking for a reason to leave you. If it is not this, it will be something else in the future. Once you have lost the weight and are healthier mentally and physically, there will be other men who you may love much more.

Well, you posted this topic, so I guess you are looking for a response. Here is mine: Did your sister come to see you? Or did she come to see you husband? It sounds to me that she did not come to take care of you, she is looking for a cheap vacation to have a good time.
Saying you could have called is blaming you for their indifference. What if you had passed out? What if you had fallen? Become disoriented? You are recovering from surgery! They are supposed to be looking after YOU!
If this had of been me, I would have sent sister packing right away. I would continue my recovery but soon hubby and I would have to have a talk...he should not have even considered going out to a bar when you just had surgery. Is he really the man for you? Your life is about to change in a lot of ways. My motto when it comes to dealing with people: Don't make anyone a priority if all you are to them is an option. Your weight is not the only thing that is going to change.

Thank you for posting this! This was so helpful.
And thanks for the tip about the gas. I'm not looking forward to that but it's nice to know about it before hand.
Good luck!!! You are on your way.