Chuchie05

Just keep sipping you are doing what you are suppose to. Remeber your stomach is new and well not hold alot it will adjust as time goes on. Just make sure dont eat and drink together.

When you make the life-altering decision to undergo bariatric surgery, it also affects the people around you in a big way. Most of us are uncomfortable when the people we love the most change before our eyes. Here are some tips and tools to help you both stay on same course during the journey.


People generally prefer for things to stay the way they are. Change can be unsettling -- like walking into a dark, unfamiliar room where you can’t find the light switch.
More often than not, as time passes, the people in your life will adjust to the ‘new you’ during you weight loss journey, but there will probably be a few bumps along the way.
Your significant other is the person with the most at stake (other than you) during this new stage of your life. They love you, but they are also “losing” the version of you that they know and love. And the “new you” may be viewed by them as someone they don’t really know. At all.
The Relationship Dynamic Changes With Weight Loss
If your significant other has taken the lead in your relationship due to low self-esteem or physical restrictions due to your weight, that dynamic may equalize or even flip.
Over time, losing a significant amount of weight and garnering more vigor for life due to increased energy can open the door to several significant life changes — a better-paying job, different hobbies, new friends, or a new way of dressing or wearing your hair. Your spouse may be caught off guard by all these changes, especially if they take place in a short time frame.
Find Solace in a Support Group
I recommend spouses and family members attend Bariatric Support Group meetings with you so they can get a clearer perspective of what you are experiencing during your weight loss. It affords them the chance to listen to others who have achieved goal weight and observe many of the changes and benefits firsthand.
Keep Talking
Nearly 50 percent of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce, and weight loss surgery patients are not immune.
Mental health professionals say that strong relationships grow under stress, weak relationships grow apart or fail. Don’t hesitate to seek couple counseling even if things are going great from your point of view; your partner may be feeling stressed or confused and need an outlet to express his or her feelings about your life change and how it affects him or her.
A Little Patience is Needed While Loved Ones Adjust
I always tell bariatric clients that patience is probably the most useful tool they need post-op. Even with the speed of weight loss with a bariatric solution, it’s never feels fast enough. In addition, people around you can unknowingly say or do the wrong thing that may seem thoughtless or insensitive. We’re all human, we all say the wrong thing sometimes.
Stay gentle, stay engaged and stay in touch with your closest companion — and all your supporters. Time changes everything, and most difficulties will resolve themselves sooner than you think.
Remember, you are in the driver seat during your weight loss transformation, but your partner is also along for the ride.
Photo Credit: freedigitalphotos.net and courtesy of David Castillo Dominici.

I found that when I started to consume "real" food again, my brain wanted to eat more and I did not really appreciate a "filled" feeling. That one extra bite led to "sliming" and then throwing up. I found early on, just measure 4-5 ounces and eat slowly. Then wait, if you feel good, eat some more. It has worked so far. And, as someone who was sleeved on 9/24, the real food still needs some form of "lubricant" at this point, whether gravy, sauce, mayo, etc.

So I have a question and need help My brother is having a birthday party for my niece I will be one month out of surgery. They are having pizza as the food, should I bring my own food or do you think its ok to eat the pizza, or should i just eat the cheese. Let me know your thought please.

thank you heather

Take your own food, you are still on soft mushies and chewing pizza enough is hard. Also pizza isn't the best choice to make if you are trying to lose weight. Right now fresh from surgery is the best time to form new habits and not test your healing stomach.
I found it much easier to stick to a regime while I am losing and then add moderation in when I hit goals.

Lucky! I'm down 15 lbs since surgery on 9/22

Hi! I'm getting sleeved the 30. Super excited how's your journey been?

Has anyone gotten the response that you took the easy way out yet? I'm not a violent person but I might just have to tongue lash the first person that says this. Vsg isn't for lightweights or lazy bones. This is no messing around serious work, all the time. (Sleeved 9/15. Almost down 20.)

Hi! Tomorrow will be two weeks post op! I had an appt today with doc and I'm down 23pounds! As far as recovery... Very smooth! Hope the same for everyone!

I was sleeved on the 15th...I made chicken and tuna salad and this is what i bring to work with me. I also bring a shake just incase I don't have time to eat.... you will be fine!

Hi Bernie,
I had my band for 10 years and just had my surgery on last monday but what I can say already is that it is sooooooo much better. Not the pain not the horrible 'food-getting-stuck' experience and NO hunger !! All things that were the opposite with the band. And my band failed me not the other way around I stuck it out for 10 years and after the first 5 I had to have it opened completely because of horrific GERD and pain. And I still managed to keep about 75 pounds off of the 100 I had lost.
The sleeve was the right decision for me and I am only sad that this was not available as stand alone procedure 10 years back.
Good luck !!

I care around a water bottle with me every were and sip all day long. You can do it. It is hard but you have to tell yourself you need to drink and by the end of the week it's habit. Good luck

So today is day 2 of my new life I'm still very sore but I'm doing well and am looking for the future

So today is day 2 of my new life I'm still very sore but I'm doing well and am looking for the future

So today is day 2 of my new life I'm still very sore but I'm doing well and am looking for the future

Today is the big day wish me luck. So excited to start this new chapter in my life.
Bernie

Today is the big day wish me luck. So excited to start this new chapter in my life.
Bernie

Today is the day that I have been waiting for. I am nervous but also really excited for this new chapter in live. Please keep me in your prayers please. 1031 is the time. Bernie

Today is the big day wish me luck. So excited to start this new chapter in my life.
Bernie

Today is the big day wish me luck. So excited to start this new chapter in my life.
Bernie

Today is the day that I have been waiting for. I am nervous but also really excited for this new chapter in live. Please keep me in your prayers please. 1031 is the time. Bernie

two more days till the big day I am getting more excited but also very nerves.

two more days till the big day I am getting more excited but also very nerves.

good luck to all of you who are having your surgery this week.