Blue Sky

Hi. I used Dr David Kim of Dallas. I chose him because of the great number of surgeries he performed and lower level of risks for leaks because of the inverted sleeve he devised for his patients. Website is Drdkim.net. It speaks for itself. I was a traveling patient but have access to support group meetings thru website. Lots of support from his office and patients. I have had no complications or issues at all and feel great about my choice!

One thing I've learned in general is not to share too much too soon in any relationship. People need to earn your trust and vice versa.

I'VE WORN 24 FOR LITERALLY YEARS. I WENT SHOPPING TODAY BECAUSE MY JEANS ETC ARE FALLING OFF. I GOT 18 PANTS. I COULD HAVE DONE 16 BUT THEY DIDN'T HAVE ANY AND I WAS LEAVING THERE WITH SOME PANTS! ANYWAY I SEE NOW WHAT PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT HOW WEIRD IT IS TO LOOK FOR SMALLER SIZES AND ITS FUNNY THERE WERE MORE SIZE 24S IN THE STORE TODAY THAN I HAVE EVER SEEN BEFORE WHEN NOW I NEED 16/18. IT WAS FUNNY BECAUSE IT WAS ALL MOSTLY THE BIGGER SIZES. BUT MAYBE BEFORE LONG I CAN SHOP IN JUST MISSES INSTEAD OF PLUS TOO. BUT ANYWAY, ALMOST EVERYONE I HAVE RUN INTO IN THE LAST TWO WEEKS IS COMMENTING OR ASKING ABOUT MY WEIGHT LOSS. I REALLY TRY TO SHRUG IT OFF BUT IT IS SO FUNNY TO ME BECAUSE OTHER THAN MY CLOTHES BEING LOOSE I DON'T SEE IT YET, AT ALL. BUT I KNOW IT'S HAPPENING. I DON'T LIKE ATTENTION SO THIS IS THE PART I WAS SKIDDISH ABOUT IS WHEN PEOPLE START NOTICING. BUT I GUESS THAT MEANS IT'S WORKING!

I can relate (I guess we ALL can!!!), today I went to the Harley-Davidson dealership just to see what was new in motorclothes. I tried on this jacket in the sale section, it was a 2x. Last summer there would be no way it would fit, it would've been too small. Today I could wrap the darn thing AROUND me!!!!! The salesgirl couldn't figure out why I was laughing to the point of tears! Normally I would have loved finding a pink leather jacket in my size, today I was laughing because there WEREN'T any in MY size, a large! NSV of a different sort!

One thing I've learned in general is not to share too much too soon in any relationship. People need to earn your trust and vice versa.

Not sure how far out you are, but I had similar feelings early on. You will get thru the process. Just take one day at a time and concentrate on getting well. Your outlook will improve after you get thru this pureed phase. It gets better.

I would be surprised if every person who has gone through WLS did not mourn food. First of all, it is probably because you are in the pureed stage and emotional following surgery which is making it worse.
This surgery is not for the feint of heart. It is very hard work, most of it mental. You have to stay positive and focus on all the reasons you had the surgery in the first place. Do not spend wasted time focusing on the negatives, it will only make you feel worse and that ultimately means you will struggle, like you are.
Keep your eye on the prize whether it was health reasons or simply because you wanted to lose weight. Pull your goals out that you wrote before surgery and remind yourself why you chose to have surgery.
I promise you will make it past this phase and if you stick to the right foods pretty soon you will crave healthy foods and not all the other stuff that made you heavy to begin with.
Also, having WLS does not mean that you will never eat those things again. You will simply have them once in a great while and in very small portions.
I wish you all the best, keep your head up and stay positive, it will help you succeed.

Hi I am early into being sleeved (2/16/15)...so far loving the results.. It's finally warmer where I live and now can do more outside instead being in the gym.. Good luck to all in your journey

Being a day off for us, my husband and I went to town. It is spring, now, so it's time for motorcycle gear. New for me, as I am 50+ lbs lighter than last fall, so a new jacket and helmet were in order. Lo and behold, a size large as opposed to a 3x (motorcycle jackets tend to run small) for the jacket!!!! And a size small (does this mean my brain shrank, as well?!) for the helmet, down one size. Then, the dress I had ordered on line came in the mail, so I tried it on. Down to an xl from a 2x! I looked in the mirror, and for the first time since I started all this in November, I thought "WOW! I look GOOD!!!!". I NEVER expected to see that "skinny" person again, and even though my husband tells me all the time I look great, you still have to hear it from yourself, you know? Kind of a "self-affirmation". With my new haircut, my "new" body, and a few new clothes, it sure turned my light ON!
SO! For my motivation to keep losing, this is now going to be my motivation: whether or not I have money to spend, I am going shopping. Not necessarily to spend, but to keep my motivation going on losing the rest of my excess "baggage". When I feel depressed, sad, un-inspired to keep going, I AM going to go and shop. I WILL try things on I have never had the nerve to try on before. I WILL find that desire to keep on my path. And I needn't go broke doing it, because I DON'T have to spend money to find VICTORY in my experience!
ONTO THE STORES!!!!!!

Hi. I used Dr David Kim of Dallas. I chose him because of the great number of surgeries he performed and lower level of risks for leaks because of the inverted sleeve he devised for his patients. Website is Drdkim.net. It speaks for itself. I was a traveling patient but have access to support group meetings thru website. Lots of support from his office and patients. I have had no complications or issues at all and feel great about my choice!

Hi Ban,
I haven't been sleeved yet but I do get insight from reading your posts and others. I just want to quote my father who once told me 'when you make a decision, don't look back." I think that's applicable here. You can't go forward while looking in the rear view mirror. Your best days are ahead of you. Remain focused on the new life you are creating for yourself. I think the "decision" was the hardest part! Your new tool will help you on your journey to a new and improved you. I think that's great for u and those on here!

Happy one year surgiversary to me! 122 lbs gone, 2-3 ft of inches gone. Whole new life at almost 50.  

Personally, I need logic. Even when it's written " correctly" people still misinterpret. It goes both ways. So your 1st point negates your second point. Also, it takes time to learn the site so some people don't know about questions others have had. As u stated, its a public forum so there should be an understanding that people come from all walks of life and express themselves in all manner of ways.

If you make a post on a public forum, you've got to expect discussion.
You may not like what is said, what is focused on or the twists and turns the conversation takes. You may not care for who answers, how they interpret your words, or their reaction to your words.
I'm guilty of taking all of the above personally. I admit it, I own it. Sometimes I have to step back, breathe and remember that once I hit POST, it's not MY thread. The discussion is not about ME personally. The words I don't care for do not affect my REAL life in any way unless I allow them to.
The discussion that ensues is not just for me, it's for everyone that accesses this forum, new, old, short, tall, pink, blue and polka dotted.
When the discussion gets passionate, it simply means people care. No worries, another "hot" thread will come along within a day or so and people will move on.
Bottom line. You can't control people's words and actions, you can only control your own reaction.

Can't believe I read this whole thread! That's 20 minutes of my life I'll never get back, and what's left of my stomach is in a knot!
I have to say I am notorious for leaving out words. It drives me nut and pisses me off, and I do it a lot, even though I proof read. Sorry to anyone who is offended. Also, I have a crazy key board that skips around, so sometimes things are out of order and I don't realize it.
I have a hard time reading run-on sentences, so I just skip those. If I glance at post and it's more than 2 lines with no punctuation, I just skip it (unless it was addressed to me). It doesn't drive me crazy and no one knows I'm ignoring them! And that, my friends, is the beauty of online communication!!

I will get this off my chest.... I use ellipses in almost any paragraph. See, I have already done it. I know it is not always grammatically correct, but I have always written this way. I usually have proper verb tense, decent spelling, and complete sentences... but those little dots just work their way into almost anything I write. I hope this isn't bad enough to not have my posts read or answered.
Is the plural of ellipsis even ellipses? Hmm...

I myself do not mind reading crazy grammar, it's like a challenge of the mind! Maybe it's because of all the time I've spend trying to read DR's orders? In my life reading a DR's order wrong could potentially harm/kill a patient. Reading a thread with difficulty won't. I pick my aggravation accordingly. Life is sort. I would rather decipher between sentences than that dang tiny purple writing some have. I bypass

Everyone becomes an offended party for somewhat different reasons. Whether it be a perception issue, or an incorrect tone used in the writing of a post. However my own pet peeve, if you will , is people who complain about other people complaining.
If you do not like a post, or the grammar used in said post, then do not read it. The choice is yours, whether or not to read it, it is not up to you to require others to post in a manner that you like and feel comfortable with.
This is not formal dining, nor is it a rational discourse on the human condition. It is an internet forum, and while openly acerbic, demeaning and/or expletive-laced insults, are not tolerated by those in power. There is leeway for somewhat contentious dialogue however.
In the words of comedian Edward Murphy, "this ain't Burger King, You don't get it your way, you take what you get, or you don't get the Mother****** ." I trust this is a rational answer to your rant.
Thank you. And have a wonderful day.

I understand your frustration with some of these things but in my opinion if you don't like something someone does and says and it is not bothering you physically or mentally it is best to just move on. Not all people are going to live up to your expectations and it is unfair for anyone to expect perfection. This is an open forum and it should be a forum of support and not judgement. There are things in life that just need to be at the bottom of the list of importance. You are free to rant and I respect you for that, I just hope that your rant did not run someone off because they feel as though they are not as educated as others. People should have the freedom to come and ask as many questions as they want without the fear of someone being critical of them. Bottom line....Choose being kind to be an example to someone that may need YOU right now. Sometimes it is not all about us and our hangups.

Eff em'
It's your body and your business. Who cares what they think. They are living your life for you. Don't even waste the breath trying to convince them. Simply tell them, "thanks for you opinion" and walk away.
Then start to work on you. Join a gym. Start walking every day for at least 30 minutes. Cut back and/or quit sodas. Walk the walk while you are undergoing your testing.
Here's a good tale to counteract the horror stories your dad told you. I had the easiest time of it. Easier than my surgery to repair my meniscus and easier than my full hysterectomy. I woke up in recovery and was able to get up and walk. I had zero complications, zero gas and zero pain. I never used the pain pump in the hospital and didn't get the prescription for pain filled because I felt that good. I returned to the gym at 3 weeks and haven't had any issues with nausea and vomiting. Every food I have tried, I have tolerated. I have lost 80lbs in 6 mths.
This was the best thing I ever did. I should have done this 20 years ago.

We who have been on the site awhile have seen the same questions asked over and over again, some with seeming total disregard for the true purpose of WLS. While it may seem chastisement, it isn't, really. After repeating the same answer over and over again, those answers may seem like chastisement, but it may be more of a quick way to answer the question. I think most of the people who are on the site and give responses to questions, truly care for each other, even though it may not seem like it. Why else would we be on here? Especially those of us who continue to answer questions brought be "newbies" to WLS. It is a learning process for all of us, and sometimes lessons are hard. As in anything.

I get a sub from subway maybe 4-5 times a year. I buy a footlong but here's where I've got Jared beat...
I explain my situation and the employees are always ready and willing to please. This is how I order:
Dbl tuna in a cup (easily 3 cans of tuna). I get Italian bread but just have it sliced open and wrapped separately. cheese is separate. Then for my veggies, they use 2 containers to hold all my veggies (future salad, way too many veggies for a footlong). Tomatoes, onions, pickles, lettuce and spinach. No sauces. It cost $10.33 and makes about 12 mini sandwiches. Usually I eat half of my tiny sub and the dog gets the majority of the bread. I leave them a nice tip because I appreciate great customer service.
There's wayyy too much tuna for the bread. I don't eat all the bread but then I have plenty of veggies for a couple salads.
I think it's rather genius. Kudos Subway!

Make sure you are on the solid Proteins if your diet allows. Yogurts, ricotta and all that are slider foods. I was told by docs office to get solid proteins in with three meals and that has made all the difference. I think we are still figuring this thing out as I had my surgery 2,weeks before u... Learning what works and what doesn't. Drinking Water helps also and I had to up my carb intake ( complex) to curb hunger and do more exercise to speed metabolism and burn it off.

I had a brain tumor. I couldn't fix that on my own.
The brakes on my car were bad. I couldn't fix that on my own.
I got pregnant. I coudn't deliver my babies without a whole staff load of people in the room looking up my hoo-haw. TWICE.
You are having surgery. To fix a problem that could KILL you via heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, etc. You are still going to have to eat right, exercise, plan your day, drink your Water, follow up with your doctor.

You will be doing it "on your own", because I can tell you this for sure. Unless you have a whole 'lotta money, there is not going to be anyone following you around, slapping the bad food out of your hands for the rest of your life. There is not going to be anyone walking for you and giving you caloric credit. There is no one going to be putting in an IV while you sleep so you stay hydrated.

No guilt allowed. You have a lot of work ahead of you. Save the energy you would use on guilt and focus on planning out how you are going to enjoy the life you are giving back to yourself after you take care of this health problem of yours.

Make sure you are on the solid Proteins if your diet allows. Yogurts, ricotta and all that are slider foods. I was told by docs office to get solid proteins in with three meals and that has made all the difference. I think we are still figuring this thing out as I had my surgery 2,weeks before u... Learning what works and what doesn't. Drinking Water helps also and I had to up my carb intake ( complex) to curb hunger and do more exercise to speed metabolism and burn it off.