Chrisann

Been bagging up my clothes, have almost 10 garbage bags of stuff. If you are in the NYC area, maybe we could chat about some some of the clothes. I have some really nice business suits and work dress pants and blouses. I plan on donating all to charity in a few weeks so I can clean up my place.

Ok, I posting a month after you had your initial post, but I had my surgery at NYU and spent 2 weeks after surgery on liquids and then 2 weeks on mushy food, not onto solids until a full 4 weeks after the surgery. You said you were trying meat at what it looks like was 3 weeks out. Did they change the rules? I am 8 months out of surgery and have trouble with chicken 90% of the time still. Was able to eat red meat comfortably 6 weeks out from surgery, and pork 8 weeks. Once you are settled into your band, you will probably find that doing any breakfast, let alone anything in the morning is going to be difficult. I have difficulty to this day even getting Water down right after I wake up. I have to be up about 90 minutes to get water down comfortably, can't get anything solid down until around 11:00am on work days, cause I am up for 5 hours. IF I sleep late on the weekends, I sometimes can't "eat" until the afternoon.

To be honest, sometimes its there, and is fabulous, and then other times have to work really hard to get it going. So maybe, try to find it on different days, maybe its there and is just hiding....

I didn't like my impression of Dr. Kurian the first time I saw her at the seminar. I also didn't care for some of the speakers. If my Primary care doctor wasn't so confident in NYU, I probably would have looked elsewhere. Then when he did the referral, I didn't even need one for my insurance, he listed Dr. Ren. So I stuck with her. I am so happy with her and my after care that I would do it all over again.

The office is always crowded so I try to schedule my fills for the earliest possible time of the day. I had my surgery with Dr. Ren and I have seen her every time except once when it was Gaspar. I hate contacting the office because phone calls get lost in voice mail hell. I can stand on a crowded subway or bus, but cannot stand being in that crowded office, most times I am one sitting on the chair in the hall near the soda machines.... When I had complications the day after my release from the hospital, they handled the emergency professionally and promptly. In fact, considering my prior experiences in there before surgery, I was completely shocked over how well they handled me getting all the tests and seeing Dr. Ren.

I have been ordering a soup and an appetizer when I go out, no need to explain I have a lap band, just that I don't have a big appetite if any one asks. I have never asked once to see a kids menu, its generally fried stuff anyway, and have not had any problems just ordering the soup and appetizer. When nothing appeals to me, I get an entree with no fries, rice, potato etc, just extra veggies and take most of it home.

1.) Who's you're insurance company? Oxford 2.) What state do you live in? New York 3.) Was your plan provided by your employer or do you pay for it out of your own pocket? 100% Employer Paid 4.) Are you banded yet, waiting for approval, denied...etc? Banded with approval in 2 days

I am 41 and still in my peak and want it too. Just need to find the right guy.......

Thanks ladies, I said that to myself driving away, what a moron I was for carrying the stuff in. I even said to him on the phone, can you come out and help me, he was like I am laying down. I should have said well its in the trunk of my car when you are ready to get it. See even at 41 years old, you have to learn something about the opposite sex.

I am at the same 60 pounds now for two weeks. I am not panicking yet, but my parents, who see me on the weekends and have been accustomed to my 1-2 pound a week loss, watched me like a hawk this weekend. When I didn't eat Sunday until 3PM, I got the lecture that I won't lose weight by not eating, blah, blah. I then explained to them yet again, that I am not eating if I am not hungry. Not because I want to starve to lose weight. So this morning, called the doctors office, I have a visit scheduled for September 12th anyway, but asked about not being hungry all day. Plain and simple, was told to not force myself to eat. If I am not hungry then I am not hungry. She did tell me to start the food journal again just to see what I have been eating.

I am down to an 18 from a 24/26 so I say that I am down 4 sizes, 24 to 22, to 20 to 18.

Since this is not only a Girls only group, stay here. I have been helped through this thread by some of the guys here. And that info is valuable to me. Like all the other forums on this site, if you don't like what you see, don't come back. But guys are welcome here.

Well its been a few days away, and nothing much happened. I had a great time in the mountains, and that was what I needed. Fling guy didn't call me once, so I am guessing he is not going too! Thats good.... Best friend guy called several times, I had the phone in the house when I was out. He never left messages, but I saw that he called. Finally I called him back late Sunday night, and he was rude. Oh well, I thought, screw him... He calls today and asks me to buy him some stuff at Walmart on my way back, and I told him as long as he had the money out when I got there I would do it. Well I get there, and he is in bed, underwear only on, and doesn't help me take the stuff out of the car, I had to lug it all in myself. He answered the door and went back to bed!!!! So I dropped everything there just in front of the door, got the money off his desk and went to leave. He yells some questions from the bedroom, all of which have no sexual implication. But he still is not getting out of bed. So I just left. Now I am home. So, the soap opera right now is kinda boring but if things change, I will let you all know first.

Aside from not giving some direction to their employees on the type of costumes they should be wearing, what the heck are they doing this in late August?

Every year I got my Best Guy Friend a birthday card, and every year he forgot mine until I called him at 12:01am the day after my birthday to thank him for remembering. This year, I did not get him a card, and let the birthday wishes to him pass. Well, he got all pissy with me about forgetting, and this year, he actually remembered my birthday. Granted, the best guy friend is not the husband, but I would make it clear to him that you just wanted to be appreciated more on your day. Its not only the card, but that he could have done something a little different on your day.

I meant to quote the whole thing in my previous post. I am glad a guy understands the "safe" female friend feeling. BFG didn't want me to have the surgery, didn't visit the whole time I was recovering, barely called, didn't want to understand the types of food I was able to eat. And called the band cheating to lose weight. Since I have been losing, he's been commenting more positively about the band, but I think I neglected to mention he is 6'4" tall and 380 pounds. He is not interested in getting it though.

I have been using Childrens Chewable vitamins, even now 8 months post surgery. I made the mistake and bought the gummy vitamins once and they got stuck!

You know what is was good! It felt comfortable, if I can say something like that. He kept saying that this was a no, no, I said so you want to stop, and he said no. But we connected, as if we were doing this forever. Neither one of us jumped up out of bed either like what we did was wrong. I am trying to not think about that because if it doesn't repeat, I am going to be a frustrated woman. So I figure, don't think or remember and you won't want to do it. I have always been a person that completely enjoys sex and when with someone in a regular relationship, has to have it all the time, and, when there is no one, I don't miss it. But, the transition period between having it and then ending it can be tough. That is why getting away for a few days is a good thing. No Fling Guy to tempt me and no Best Friend Guy to make me want it.:biggrin:

When redux was pulled off the market my doctor called me up and apologized to me for putting me on it. I wasn't sure if he was being nice or trying to avoid a lawsuit. When he mentioned the band he said it was because he was never recommending diet drugs anymore. When I went back to him 6 months after the surgery, which was a year after my last physical, he was so happy about my weight loss, and then, after the labs came back, was astonished by how much everything improved. It was the coolest feeling hearing that from a doctor.

Best friend guy and I have a long history. I have known him nearly 20 years now, he was friends with my ex. When my ex and I broke up, BFG remained friends with me. When my ex stalked me, and terrorized me, it was my BFG that spoke to him and alleviated my fears. We have gone on vacation together several times, even shared a room, with two beds and had never been intimate before the other night. Not even a kiss on the cheek. He has been through several marriages and lots of women. His first wife, and mother of his kids, loves me and only trusts me with the kids when he gets them. She never liked the other wives or women. He needs me to go shopping with him, be it to pick out clothes, food, sunglasses etc. Says I was more fun to shop with then the women he was dating. I do let him walk all over me though. I lend him $$ and he pays me back. I have been heavy most of my life. I never had issues dating men, it wasn't always flings. I've had an active love life. I felt that he was friends with me because I was safe; his ideal woman, the ones he married and dated where short and thin. He introduced me most times as his sister. What is going on with him, even before the sex the other night, confused the hell out of me. He started to introduce me to people as his friend, not sister anymore. He says he is trying to be honest now. When I would directly ask about us dating, moving in, etc he has answered me with an emphatic "ABSOLUTELY NOT". When this all came to a head the other night it caught me by surprise. I thank Plain for saying my head is screwed on right, because I am confused. My feelings today say go out and meet a man, go on a date or two and see how BFG reacts now.

By BF I think she mean BoyFriend. I have been spelling out Best Guy Friend, cause I do not want to confuse him with being a BF.:biggrin: Nice seeing the guys in here too, good to see if you have a point of view on all of this....

Whosyadaddy, we started this all about the blow jobs in the beginning, then I had an incident of eating dinner before giving one with one deep throat I pb'd on the guy I was giving it to. So it was decided by all of us here to not eat at least an hour before one. Now, when I was with fling guy, it always started out with the bj because I like giving them. Best friend guy knew what I was doing with fling guy, well, because he was my best friend. Anyway, I anticipate a boring few days in the woods, since I am going to upstate NY for the weekend. Good luck on the date Cerrin, definately no eating for at least an hour.

My ex cheated on me with a woman larger and uglier, more butchy than I would ever be. I don't give a damn if I ever see him again skinnier or fatter. What mattered to me were the guys I went to college with, I am now lighter than I was then and had a get together and some didn't recognize me. Now that was priceless.....:tt2:

Sorry I posted the start of this here. It was personal in the beginning because it was about the sex and the language we were using to talk about it. It just went its own way and I guess since we aren't talking about sex, and the bad language anymore, I can make its own thread if it gets further than this. I don't think the mods would want the language we are allowed to use here in the singles forum.

Well back home ladies... I had a good time tonite. I met up with friends and went to something that is called Mets at the Movies. It was the Mets vs. Phillies game on a movie screen at the Ziegfeld Theater in NYC. We had a great time, caught some tshirts and watched a great game, the Mets won! Fling guy texted me several times, I ignored him. Best friend guy thought we were going out drinking and texted me too, so I lied to him and texted back several times that we were in a bar, guys buying us drinks etc. I get a voice mail from Best friend guy to call him as soon as I got the message. I call him back, pretend I had a few, as he wanted me to go to his house, (he was at work) to walk his dog and sit with the dog for a bit. I was like no f'ing way and hung up the phone. He called me back wanted to know who I was leaving with and how much was I drinking. Anyway, I know I am evil now, but I enjoyed this. I called him from my house when I got home and he was happy I made it home and said I didn't have to go to his place. I am heading out of town on Friday for 4 days, so I will have to see what happens then.