ProjectMe

Hi MyssJones!!! I'm Dec. 16th we're on the home stretch!!!

Love it! Too bad I didn't read this prior to all the questions thrown at me last week. Now I can't wait for another person to ask!

Hello...I know how your feeling, but believe me that six months did me well! It helped with weight loss and prepared me for the 10 day liquid as well as Now. Because it's a total Mind-Game and if I hadn't prepared I think I would be going crazy! Also the weight loss prior helped with recovery. I worked out hard and lost 30lbs. before surgery and that will make you feel Great going into surgery! I was able to clean out my closet and I got rid of old clothes 1 week before surgery and brought a cute jogging suit to wear home...that's now TOO BIG! So embrace the six month journey and with determination and willpower and you will be able to cope...Post-Op. Prayers are with you!

Oh yay!! Maybe they will take up a money collection for you in your time of "sickness" -

I feel your pain and frustration. I have gone through something very similar and I also had difficulty speaking up for myself because in my family...respecting your elders and family is serious business. May I suggest a more respectful response? Is their an elder in your family that everyone respects? If so. That is the person you express your concerns with in PRIVATE. That person will take it from there and before you know it, your weight will not be mentioned anymore. in my opinion, public declarations and/or going off on family you love is not respectful nor will it result in a positive outcome in the long run.

I feel your pain and frustration. I have gone through something very similar and I also had difficulty speaking up for myself because in my family...respecting your elders and family is serious business. May I suggest a more respectful response? Is their an elder in your family that everyone respects? If so. That is the person you express your concerns with in PRIVATE. That person will take it from there and before you know it, your weight will not be mentioned anymore. in my opinion, public declarations and/or going off on family you love is not respectful nor will it result in a positive outcome in the long run.

WooHoo!!!! Smooth sailing now!!!!

I feel your pain and frustration. I have gone through something very similar and I also had difficulty speaking up for myself because in my family...respecting your elders and family is serious business. May I suggest a more respectful response? Is their an elder in your family that everyone respects? If so. That is the person you express your concerns with in PRIVATE. That person will take it from there and before you know it, your weight will not be mentioned anymore. in my opinion, public declarations and/or going off on family you love is not respectful nor will it result in a positive outcome in the long run.

I'm APPROVED! The insurance company was dragging it out but I'm FINALLY set for 12/18!!!!!

I feel your pain and frustration. I have gone through something very similar and I also had difficulty speaking up for myself because in my family...respecting your elders and family is serious business. May I suggest a more respectful response? Is their an elder in your family that everyone respects? If so. That is the person you express your concerns with in PRIVATE. That person will take it from there and before you know it, your weight will not be mentioned anymore. in my opinion, public declarations and/or going off on family you love is not respectful nor will it result in a positive outcome in the long run.

My nutritionist said the same thing as @@MissMac mentioned. He also said caffeine can increase the hunger feeling.

A form fitting backless black dress that dips down right above the curve of my butt!! Ooh!!! I cant wait

Girl your supposed to wear to now! That's how you get your man. Lol. Nothing like wearing jeans & a t-shirt then wearing something really sexy underneath! It gives a girl a certain confidence.

I wanted to look great in a thong and thigh highs and a pair of heels. Last year I threw away all my granny panties and filled my drawer with thongs... and a few pair of thigh highs. I remember how excited I was to put them on for the very first time!

I think it comes down to a matter of self care. I have always had a good sense of self. I just have never allowed anyone to make me feel bad or ashamed of who I am. Except for after facial shingles scarred my face I have never not felt beautiful. I've always liked myself and be good at setting up boundaries. I have a large multi-generational family that I love and respect.
I am a firm believer that we teach people how they can treat us. Anytime we quietly seethe or hold in out feelings we only hurt ourselves. I like myself too much to do that. You have to find the way to say "that's not okay". It can be done without having a hissy fit. Whether it's deflection, laughter, changing the subject, you need to find the words and use them.
My mother remains my biggest challenge. Despite many conversations with her about lifestyle changes she only hears "diet" and "weight loss". This has gone back to when I started eating clean and exercising regularly 2 years before my WLS. Since she doesn't get it, I'm not going to put myself in a position to get upset at her or try and hurt my feeling. I simply said, " I do not want to discuss my weight with you." It wasn't said in a mean manner. It was just stated as a simple fact. Post WLS I've had to remind her of this twice. Both times it was "How's the diet coming, have you lost any weight?" I gently remind her that we don't discuss my weight and moved on. There are a thousand things to discuss and share with my family. I'm not going to let one topic ruin those.
Self care is important.

Anything Victoria Secret that my husband wants me to wear

I feel your pain and frustration. I have gone through something very similar and I also had difficulty speaking up for myself because in my family...respecting your elders and family is serious business. May I suggest a more respectful response? Is their an elder in your family that everyone respects? If so. That is the person you express your concerns with in PRIVATE. That person will take it from there and before you know it, your weight will not be mentioned anymore. in my opinion, public declarations and/or going off on family you love is not respectful nor will it result in a positive outcome in the long run.

I agree with ProjectMe. I was hesitant about going to the Thanksgiving get together because I didn't want anyone to mention my surgery or weight. So, I phoned my mother up a week before and declared that we weren't going if anyone at Thanksgiving dinner mentioned my weight or surgery. This was a big deal because we didn't go to Thanksgiving last year because I was too embarrassed about my weight gain. I only told my mother about my surgery 2 months ago, but she is one that likes to talk. I was pretty sure word had gotten around.
Thanksgiving dinner with the relatives went great. All I got was wonderful compliments. I didn't hear any whispering behind my back either. Who knows what they said when I left the room. I just don't really care. I am happy with how well things are going and I'm really not interested in their opinion.
Your relatives may be more inclined to give their opinion if you talk about surgery or weight loss issues with them frequently. That is what is so great about this forum. If I want to get advice or share something to do with surgery or weight loss, I can just go here. I've been around people that talk endlessly about their diet, exercise regimine, or the obesity epidemic. So annoying!

I feel your pain and frustration. I have gone through something very similar and I also had difficulty speaking up for myself because in my family...respecting your elders and family is serious business. May I suggest a more respectful response? Is their an elder in your family that everyone respects? If so. That is the person you express your concerns with in PRIVATE. That person will take it from there and before you know it, your weight will not be mentioned anymore. in my opinion, public declarations and/or going off on family you love is not respectful nor will it result in a positive outcome in the long run.

I feel your pain and frustration. I have gone through something very similar and I also had difficulty speaking up for myself because in my family...respecting your elders and family is serious business. May I suggest a more respectful response? Is their an elder in your family that everyone respects? If so. That is the person you express your concerns with in PRIVATE. That person will take it from there and before you know it, your weight will not be mentioned anymore. in my opinion, public declarations and/or going off on family you love is not respectful nor will it result in a positive outcome in the long run.

Completely agree with @elode. I am on day 5 and what really helps me is making sure I eat/drink something every 2 hours. I set alarms on my phone to remind me. That way I don't reach that point where I feel like I'm starving...which has always sent me into a bad food choce/mind game spiral.

Yes, I just used it last night when I made sugar free white chocolate pudding. Initially, I could taste a little something but by the third bite, I didn't taste that something anymore...if that makes sense. Overall, I think it was a good buy and I will continue to use it

Today I went out to lunch with my daughter and for the first time in years, I sat in a booth. I fit!!!
HW 285 SW 266 CW 254 sleeved 11/18

@@amazon It's kind of a challenge to get all the potassium you need because some foods may not agree with our sleeve but here are potassium rich foods:
Bananas
Tomatoes
Sweet potatoes
Apricots
White Beans
Winter squash
Nonfat milk
Orange juice
Plain nonfat yogurt
Soybeans
tuna
Halibut
Prunes
Clams
Carrot juice

Had I known I wouldn't have had to give up all the wonderful foods I love and enjoy I would have done the sleeve long before I did it. Had I known it wasn't a death sentence for my relationship with food, and that we could still be friends, I would have done it sooner, had I known how easy it was I would have done it sooner. If only I knew last December what I know now, I would have done it then. But fear of the unknown kept me from doing it and putting my life on hold for yet another year. I'm so glad I've done what I did. Had I only known then, what I know now!