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Maybe you are dreading it because of the limited choices you remember from your previous size....I bet you at least double your choices....unless you don't like a lot of choices then that would be bad...

Awesome! I have my psych apt on Monday so I like hearing that yours went well...

So I'm only two weeks into my 3 months supervised diet and things were going good. Then this past Sunday I slipped off the health bandwagon....big time...it was a quick slide back into the old smorgasbord habit. It was a carb laden, coma inducing 2hr fest of bread, peanut butter, popcorn, some appetizer thingys hiding in the back of the freezer and fat free milk.....and then I had dinner . Times like this before would very likely have resulted in a week(s) of beating myself up, eating poorly and basically giving up. But I'm rewriting that storyline one word at a time. I did two very different things this Sunday that lead to what I'm calling my Magical Monday. 1. I logged EVERYTHING I ate in my fitness pal. I'm not proud to admit it, but even a month ago, I would have avoided logging the food I consumed as if that somehow made it not real. This time though I logged it so I would know how far off my plan I was. (FYI it totaled over 3500 calories), so I could acknowledge it and MOVE ON! 2. The second thing I did was post on my timeline on this very site that I had a meltdown and felt sick. The support I received from others here is a big part of the reason that this time....for the first time....Monday came, I ate my plan, the planet kept turning and other than writing about it now, it is in the past. Here's the takeaway from my point of view. We are so much harder on ourselves than we are on others struggling through this weight loss journey...other people's support reminded me that I should be at least as nice to myself as I am to other people. I'm going to have slips, slides and smudges on my nutrition and exercise records, it's what I do with them that will matter. I've never been an athlete but I love me some football. I think my Sunday was kind of like Ben Roethlisberger throwing an interception for a touchdown, and having to immediately get back out there and try again. That's what we need to do....keep getting back out there, that's what I did Monday and that's why it was Magical. Beth

"Oh My" "Well" "Oh My" Those were my moms first three comments, in order. Mom is a total worrier and I expected to hear..."I just don't know..." which is what she kept repeating after my current husband of 29 years and I told her we were getting married. Then came the "are you sure?", "are you really ready". Then came the stories of the people who she knew (or thought) had had the surgery....all from the late 1980s...lol. Once we got over the initial shock of it, she came around in her own way, told me she loved me and that she thought I would do well with it. Then hoped that maybe my doing it would spur my brother to do it...I really hope she doesn't go there because he never did like being compared to me. I am 6 years older, a girl and was pretty much a nerd. He is the opposite of a nerd and every teacher from 3rd grade on told him that...he never lets me forget it either! So I've told my folks and I'm glad I did. It will put me under a microscope with them when we are together and if they do come to AZ for the winter it could get interesting but they both thanked me for telling them and both support my decision, so it doesn't get much better than that. Beth

Welcome! You have come to the right place, you will find lots of support, ideas and friendship here. It sounds to me like you have hit a rough patch....and not at all like you are a "hot mess". I haven't even had the surgery yet and I'm kind of in the same place. I'm going to focus this week on moving more...I too have not wanted to do it most of the time....WE.CAN.DO.THIS!

Welcome to the forum! Lots of good info and supporting folks here. I am two weeks into my required 3 month supervised diet in preparation for gastric sleeve. Everyone has to select their surgery, with the surgeons recommendations. They all have advantages and disadvantages. I selected the sleeve because I didn't want a permanent medical device in me and I didn't like the idea of the port/fills....but that's just me! Good luck, read all you can, listen to your surgeon and then you'll know which one is right for you.

I hear your frustration. I would re-engage your nutritionist. I've read many books on weight loss.....many many books. One thing that seems so counterintuitive is that sometimes you can be exercising too much/not eating enough. I think talking to your nutritionist/surgeon and see if you can adjust either your diet or exercise. You've come too far to stop now....this is a mountain climb and you are stuck on the side looking for a foothold...if you give up and slide down, you'll just have start climbing again.

Hang in there....you don't sound like a raving lunatic to me

Went well with my dad....will talk to mom tomorrow. I don't think there is a right answer on this one...each person has to make her own decisions about who to confide in or not. I'm glad you have someone you can tell... PS...thanks for reading my blog...

So I'm half way there...lol. I did call my folks last night...but my mom was already sleeping so I just talked to my dad. He was very supportive and told me he thought I was making a good decision and that I will be heading off lots of problems in 20 years. I felt so bad. Here I am doing something that if he had done 20 years ago would have made such a difference in his current state of health/happiness. I almost feel guilty....how messed up is that? I've now identified another "opportunity for growth". I'll call back to talk to mom tomorrow.

Welcome to the forum! Lots of good folks and good stuff here. I'm early in the journey too...

So I'm going to tell my parents about my WLS. I'm almost 50 (in August) and my parents are in their early 70s and yet I’ve had a hard time deciding whether to tell them. See both are morbidly obese, both have weight related problems, and neither is having the retirement they dreamed of. They are, in some ways why I decided to pursue surgery. Worse than that, they have both become glass half empty kind of folks…not at all like the parents I remember from my childhood. I know they will worry. And then they will worry some more. But here’s the main thing driving my decision to tell them. My husband and I are going to see them this October. My trips to my home town are normally gastronomical tours….fresh baked pepperoni roles from D’Anunzio’s, white cake from Bonnie Bell’s Bakery, calamari and lasagna from Muriel’s….my stomach is growling just typing. Already mom is talking about the new buffet at a state park resort and how we need to go there. I’m using my 3 month doctor supervised diet period to establish good habits and drop what weight I can…and this trip occurs right after that period and about 6 weeks before the date I hope to have surgery. Unfortunately my folks are used to my “health kicks” and if I just tell them I’m on a diet, they might not take it seriously. Actually it was my husband who said “I don’t know if I will be able to not get mad if your mom tries to push food on you”….hmmmm hadn’t thought about it from his point of view. I’ve decided to keep the peace, and to explain my commitment to my new eating habits, I need to have THE TALK. I can’t expect them to be supportive if they don’t know there is something to support. So I’m going to make the call. Tonight. Probably.

OK guys, really? You "love' planks? I love what planks do for me but I can not count myself in the I heart planks group! I'll sign up for the "I tolerate planks because they are so freakin good for me" camp.

Avocado....yes please!

Man that sucks! I have to do 3 months (just started) and have to lose 5% for my surgeon not the insurance. I tend to be a glass half full kinda gal and while I have never been a good journaler, I'm determined to use this period to 1. establish the habit of food journaling (which a lot of folks on here say works for them) and 2. to get a baseline/look for patterns in my eating that might help me understand the "why" of my weight.

I'm still preop but I wonder if it is kind of like comparing when babies will walk or talk or stand up. They will all do it, each in her own time. I'm actually writing myself some notes now to open when I get there....I might not want to read what I wrote when I'm stalling, but it might help me remember the big picture/long term.... Hang in there! You did all the stuff you needed to preop and you can do the postop too!

Sending the best of thoughts your way and hoping all goes well...we will see you on the other side!

Welcome! There is always something new to read on the forums and you'll get all kinds of cool ideas and support! I'm pretty new in the process as well...in the first month of supervised diet. Good luck and don't hesitate to ask em if you got em....

Don't want to pile on, but I'm thinking a food journal with a NUT appointment could help you problem solve and create an action plan to help get you over your speed bump. Myfitnesspal has a pretty good database and it is really easy to track...

Hi and welcome to the site! I just started my diet on 7 July as well and am also having the sleeve. I'm trying to follow my diet plan from the nutritionist to the letter. I'm hoping that gets me ready. Good luck and I'm sure I'll see you in the forums!

But Tisa you are NOT alone in this...you have US! Your road will be more challenging without their support but you will succeed in spite of it... Keep up the good work!

Welcome! This is a great site...you have a lot to share and you will be inspired....a win-win!

I'm just in the 3 month diet phase but my NUT said 80-90 gm Protein, no more than 130 gm carbohydrates and the rest of the 1500 calories could come from fat...the healthy kind. don't know if this is what you are looking for or if you are talking about after surgery...

Good luck tomorrow! See you on the other side...

Congratulations! I'm just starting and stories like yours give me all kinds of inspiration and hope...keep up the good work!