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I have just begun looking into lapband surgery, and am seriously considering it after doing all my web research (including here!). In the past, I lost over 60 pounds with Jenny Craig, after being told by my husband that if I did not lose weight, he would divorce me. We are still married (12 years later-22 years altogether), but I gained back all that weight plus another 60 (now 279 at 5'3" - yikes!!!) now I have to wonder what he thinks. I know he will be supportive (need I say he has his own weight issues?), but I know what happened before. I thought it would change things, but things really got worse. My new found confidence and self esteem were pretty rough on both of us. While the self esteem has not really gone away (thank goodness!!), the confidence has, that is for sure. I am just really leary of going through that kind of emotional havoc again, even though the weight loss will be the best thing I've ever done for myself!!! How about you married gals out there who have overweight husbands......are they ever really able to deal with the new you, while they are still same ol', same ol'? Thanks!:eek: