Bobby46

16lbs in a month is fantastic. Relax. Its going to come off. Its going to stall, its going to fall off like crazy, then it will level off and just when you think youre going to move right along its going to stall again. Welcome aboard the rollercoaster!

16lbs in a month is fantastic. Relax. Its going to come off. Its going to stall, its going to fall off like crazy, then it will level off and just when you think youre going to move right along its going to stall again. Welcome aboard the rollercoaster!

Hello. I had my 6mth apt yesterday. I complained to my doc about a 6 week stall I had right after xmas. She explained that its just my body adjusting to a new norm with my metabolism. I eat approximately 800-950 calories a day. I eat pretty much the same variety of food and I exercise just about the same way or burn the same calories all the time. My body is saying...oh I can live with this, lets stay here. Eating a few more calories, trying to eat a different variety of food and doing a different type of exercise for a a few days and then go back to my norm might be enough to get the ball rolling again. Or my body could just be holding on because its afraid I am never going to stop eating such low calories so its storing every pound it can. She said that with some people nothing can be done to break it they just have to wait it out. A stall can last from a week to 2 or 3 mths depending on your metabolism, your normal calories in and out and how close you are weight wise to your set weight. Hang in there! Good luck!

I haven't had an embarrassing incident...yet. I really hope that if I do its not as embarrassing as yours!
So...My friend had WLS about a 1 1/2 yrs ago. She was about 6mths into it when this happened.
She was walking down the hall at work with her manager and a co-worker discussing the meeting they were headed to. She always wore skirts to work. In the middle of her sentence her skirt hit the floor! Leaving her there in view of God and everyone in her panties and a sweater. Just for a few seconds....but to her it may as well have been an hour!
She took in all her skirts that night and bought a belt to wear with her slacks
She laughs every time one of us brings it up.
I'm 6mths out now. Don't wear skirts....but I'm shopping for a new belt tomorrow!

I only have 3 pair of jeans now. Well 1....1 pair that fits for the most part but are starting to get a little loose. 2 are too big.....but I still grab them and put them on thinking they will fit just fine. I take them back off immediately but still hang them where I can reach them....because they might fit again. ?? I have always had 2 or 3 different sizes in my closet. I think I'm still shocked that they no longer fit.
I also deal with the booth when I go out to eat....surprises me when I actually have room between me and the table!.
I am always shocked when I fit in the seat at the movie theater....don't have to fight for both arm rests because I need that extra room!
My son and I can pass each other easily in the hall way without him hugging the wall to let me through.
I still don't recognize myself when I catch my reflection in a mirrored surface or shiney glass window.....I always do a double take instead of avoiding them completely!

Some of you are much more positive than I am, lol. I look at the Nosey Nellies as just that, nosy. To me, they don't give a rat's behind whether I'm successful, they just want something to gossip about. To be honest, I think most of them would prefer that we aren't successful, because that would give them more fodder for gossip.

When I was at my heaviest ....and was there for many years....no one asked me how much I weigh, what size I wear, how much I plan to lose or what I am eating.
But now, some family (not close), acquaintance's and flat out strangers....and their friends.....! feel the need to discuss my body, my weight and my eating habits! I just don't get it! I would never, have never, in my life, asked these questions!
Why do people feel they have free reign over my body, my appearance? Why is this ok to them? It really pisses me off! It is NOT ok to assume that everyone on a "diet" has an obligation to the world to answer any and all questions about said diet when ever asked!!
I do my best to be polite and talk around the subject. But it never ceases to amaze me that people feel they have a right to ask these things and expect an answer in the first place!
I will share my experience openly with people on this forum. I will share it with a couple of my close friends and family. Everyone knows that I will talk but I don't want to be flat out asked.....its just rude! To me it is no ones business unless I CHOOSE to share it and make it their business. So why do so many people that I barely know....or haven't talked to in months....or the stinking clerk at the grocery store, think its ok to ask?

First of all, I think I have the same mother as a few of you! Must be some correlation between how crazy they are and how we ended up at this place, right?
I hate how my body, weight, what I eat, etc becomes public topic of conversation once people know I've had surgery or am on a diet. To me, it is just as invasive as if they had kept asking, "How much money do you make? How much did you spend this week? What do you spend it on? What is your bank balance now?" You'd never dignify those questions with an answer, would you?

Someone, I can't remember who, said the best way to diffuse personal questions is to just look at them a bit incredulously like "wow, I can't believe you would ask me that!" and then maybe either say "sorry, that's a bit too personal" or just change the subject. They will get the message that they are being intrusive and they won't ask you again. But if you give them an answer, you've given them permission to continue to ask more. You do teach people how to treat you, and you also are teaching them how to treat the next person in your shoes.

"I'm so tired of talking about MY weight. Let's talk about YOURS instead." Said with a smile...

It is conversations like these that make me glad I live 2 states away from family (my sisters know I had WLS and are EXTREMELY supportive of me. If anything, I am running to them to share my success) and only see them once or twice a year! And I don't work so I don't have to deal with comparisons or questions. For the most part I get to hide in my own little world and keep losing weight. I know at some point it will become very obvious, esp with the aforementioned family since I will see them this summer. I am looking forward to their "wow's and you look great's" but not the questions.
But for what is worth, I hate that people feel like they are entitled to information, even when it is out of interest and support.
I am definitely going to remember some of your responses when it is time for me to deal with it!!

When I was at my heaviest ....and was there for many years....no one asked me how much I weigh, what size I wear, how much I plan to lose or what I am eating.
But now, some family (not close), acquaintance's and flat out strangers....and their friends.....! feel the need to discuss my body, my weight and my eating habits! I just don't get it! I would never, have never, in my life, asked these questions!
Why do people feel they have free reign over my body, my appearance? Why is this ok to them? It really pisses me off! It is NOT ok to assume that everyone on a "diet" has an obligation to the world to answer any and all questions about said diet when ever asked!!
I do my best to be polite and talk around the subject. But it never ceases to amaze me that people feel they have a right to ask these things and expect an answer in the first place!
I will share my experience openly with people on this forum. I will share it with a couple of my close friends and family. Everyone knows that I will talk but I don't want to be flat out asked.....its just rude! To me it is no ones business unless I CHOOSE to share it and make it their business. So why do so many people that I barely know....or haven't talked to in months....or the stinking clerk at the grocery store, think its ok to ask?

When I was at my heaviest ....and was there for many years....no one asked me how much I weigh, what size I wear, how much I plan to lose or what I am eating.
But now, some family (not close), acquaintance's and flat out strangers....and their friends.....! feel the need to discuss my body, my weight and my eating habits! I just don't get it! I would never, have never, in my life, asked these questions!
Why do people feel they have free reign over my body, my appearance? Why is this ok to them? It really pisses me off! It is NOT ok to assume that everyone on a "diet" has an obligation to the world to answer any and all questions about said diet when ever asked!!
I do my best to be polite and talk around the subject. But it never ceases to amaze me that people feel they have a right to ask these things and expect an answer in the first place!
I will share my experience openly with people on this forum. I will share it with a couple of my close friends and family. Everyone knows that I will talk but I don't want to be flat out asked.....its just rude! To me it is no ones business unless I CHOOSE to share it and make it their business. So why do so many people that I barely know....or haven't talked to in months....or the stinking clerk at the grocery store, think its ok to ask?

When I was at my heaviest ....and was there for many years....no one asked me how much I weigh, what size I wear, how much I plan to lose or what I am eating.
But now, some family (not close), acquaintance's and flat out strangers....and their friends.....! feel the need to discuss my body, my weight and my eating habits! I just don't get it! I would never, have never, in my life, asked these questions!
Why do people feel they have free reign over my body, my appearance? Why is this ok to them? It really pisses me off! It is NOT ok to assume that everyone on a "diet" has an obligation to the world to answer any and all questions about said diet when ever asked!!
I do my best to be polite and talk around the subject. But it never ceases to amaze me that people feel they have a right to ask these things and expect an answer in the first place!
I will share my experience openly with people on this forum. I will share it with a couple of my close friends and family. Everyone knows that I will talk but I don't want to be flat out asked.....its just rude! To me it is no ones business unless I CHOOSE to share it and make it their business. So why do so many people that I barely know....or haven't talked to in months....or the stinking clerk at the grocery store, think its ok to ask?

I usually play nice. Smile a lot and jump around the total number. Its just a number to everyone but me and my doctor, right?! So in my mind...if you are asking for a number it is just so you can run to your girlfriends and report it....its just a tidbit of gossip for that person to run with...they got the scoop! I am not going to be or encourage someones entertainment.
If they persist and push for that number I just turn it around and say....Well how much to you weigh? My friends have been asking about you. I used that one on the office gossip the last time I was in the office (I work from home, mostly) That made my day
But, my biggest issue is my Mother! She is insisting...INSISTING....on knowing what I weigh and how much I've lost! I refuse to tell her because she is the town crier....everyone will know within in 5 minutes of telling her. Shes faster than the internet! We are not close, but have a friendly relationship. She is not on my list of people who need to know! She calls my sister all the time and asks her these questions!! Good grief!!
mhuntoon, I think our mothers would get along just fine!

I haven't had an embarrassing incident...yet. I really hope that if I do its not as embarrassing as yours!
So...My friend had WLS about a 1 1/2 yrs ago. She was about 6mths into it when this happened.
She was walking down the hall at work with her manager and a co-worker discussing the meeting they were headed to. She always wore skirts to work. In the middle of her sentence her skirt hit the floor! Leaving her there in view of God and everyone in her panties and a sweater. Just for a few seconds....but to her it may as well have been an hour!
She took in all her skirts that night and bought a belt to wear with her slacks
She laughs every time one of us brings it up.
I'm 6mths out now. Don't wear skirts....but I'm shopping for a new belt tomorrow!

I know!
I work with some great people and they have been very complimentary about my weight loss. Only 3 people where I work know I had WLS and they have kept it private.
But even the sweetest people are now asking the numbers questions.
Nope. Not going there folks.
I decided long ago I was not going to give ANYONE outside of my circle of trust the numbers ever.
So my reply to these questions is as follows:
How much have you lost?
A lot.
Wow I know. Like how much?
A real lot.
How much more do you want to lose?
I don't know really. It's slowing down and getting harder so I need to bump up my exercise.
Well you look great. How much more do you want to lose?
A couple more sizes if I can.
A couple more sizes? Really?
Yeah, if it works out that way. If I exercise more it will eventually happen. I'm not in a race.
This was a conversation in the office bathroom this week. I smiled and walked away as I answered.
People will treat me as I allow them to treat me. That includes how they speak to me. I take charge of the conversation and divert it as I can. If I can't then my fall back answer is:
Come on now. You KNOW I'm never going to tell you that number, don't you?

I know what you mean, although I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume they are not intentionally being rude. I feel like sometimes people just want to talk to you and they feel that by complimenting you on your loss and asking you how much more you plan to lose gives them a line of conversation in which they feel they are making you feel good as opposed to being annoying.
My big peeve is when people ask me how much I've lost. I generally reply, oh well I had mostly gained it all before, so I'm just trying to get back to where I was. But then they keep pushing for a number....and I feel like saying, I've lost 107 pounds makes me sound like I was this total monster before, and for people who happen to overhear the conversation it's just embarrassing to me that they now know I was a hefferilla. A girl at the gym the other day introduced me to her friend and said "omg, this girl has lost 100 pounds!" and I know she wasn't trying to be unkind, so I tried to be gracious, but it certainly reminds me to be more cognizant of how I talk to others who have lost weight.

I had no interest in telling my mother about my sleeve. Told my dad months before he said he felt guilty and asked me to please tell her. Why? Because she's the least supportive person on the planet and one who doesn't hesitate to broadcast other peoples' business to anyone and everyone. "You think I'm a gossip?? I don't know how you've gotten that impression." is her standard response to my asking, "please keep this between us. No one else needs to know." I'm sure several people in her retirement condo village know I've had the surgery, even though I asked her not to tell anyone. My aunt and uncle rent a place there in the winter, so I'm sure they've heard about it - even if not directly from my mother - and they weren't included in the very short list of people I discussed this with.
Anyhow, enough of the backstory on my mother. I hate when I speak with her and she asks how much I weigh now. "None of your f'n business" is what I'd like to say, but being a good son I tell her. Not once has she said, "Wow! That's fantastic. I'm so happy for you. You must feel so good now." Nope. It's the same thing every single time, "I hope you stick with it." in a tone that oozes doubt.
That's really the only rudeness I get, but it's almost daily. If I go more than a couple of days without speaking with them, I get the "we haven't talked to you in so long" lecture. I'm 48! I have four kids! I'm going through a lot on my own both in trying to deal with a serious change in my life and the fact that I've been out of work for a year and none of the 36 job applications I've done in the past month have yielded a single call. But, yes, let me drop everything so I can call you and listen to you go on and on about your women's club nonsense and then have you say something about dinner, only to have dad say something different about it, then listen to the two of you run through every step of last night's dinner until you resolve the issue - because that's fun.

When I was at my heaviest ....and was there for many years....no one asked me how much I weigh, what size I wear, how much I plan to lose or what I am eating.
But now, some family (not close), acquaintance's and flat out strangers....and their friends.....! feel the need to discuss my body, my weight and my eating habits! I just don't get it! I would never, have never, in my life, asked these questions!
Why do people feel they have free reign over my body, my appearance? Why is this ok to them? It really pisses me off! It is NOT ok to assume that everyone on a "diet" has an obligation to the world to answer any and all questions about said diet when ever asked!!
I do my best to be polite and talk around the subject. But it never ceases to amaze me that people feel they have a right to ask these things and expect an answer in the first place!
I will share my experience openly with people on this forum. I will share it with a couple of my close friends and family. Everyone knows that I will talk but I don't want to be flat out asked.....its just rude! To me it is no ones business unless I CHOOSE to share it and make it their business. So why do so many people that I barely know....or haven't talked to in months....or the stinking clerk at the grocery store, think its ok to ask?

When I was at my heaviest ....and was there for many years....no one asked me how much I weigh, what size I wear, how much I plan to lose or what I am eating.
But now, some family (not close), acquaintance's and flat out strangers....and their friends.....! feel the need to discuss my body, my weight and my eating habits! I just don't get it! I would never, have never, in my life, asked these questions!
Why do people feel they have free reign over my body, my appearance? Why is this ok to them? It really pisses me off! It is NOT ok to assume that everyone on a "diet" has an obligation to the world to answer any and all questions about said diet when ever asked!!
I do my best to be polite and talk around the subject. But it never ceases to amaze me that people feel they have a right to ask these things and expect an answer in the first place!
I will share my experience openly with people on this forum. I will share it with a couple of my close friends and family. Everyone knows that I will talk but I don't want to be flat out asked.....its just rude! To me it is no ones business unless I CHOOSE to share it and make it their business. So why do so many people that I barely know....or haven't talked to in months....or the stinking clerk at the grocery store, think its ok to ask?

amyecpa
Have you tried unflavored Protein mixed in Soup? I was okayed for Soups like this at 2 weeks out. I lived on cream of chicken Soup, cream of mushroom and any other cream based soup I cold get my hands on...removed the tiny chicken and mushroom pieces, of course...and mixed them with Protein powder. Play with the Soups. Mix them together.....broccoli cheddar is great with both cream of chicken and cream of mushroom. I didn't even taste the Protein and the warm soup settled a awesomely. I would divide the can into 4 servings and put in a little glad ware container and refrigerate or freeze. Heat up the soup and then add the Protein Powder once its heated to 140 or less......protein powder separates if the soup is hotter than 140. I would try to eat it every 2 hrs so I can do my best to get in at least 60 grams of protein.
Other soups were great too. I pureed them all first and thinned with Water. But I enjoyed most of the soups Campbells has out. Philly Cheesesteak, Cheeseburger....all kinds. Hormel Chili with Beans.
Just ask your NUT if this is ok.....but mine encouraged it because I was so sick of the cold shakes. I "sucked it up" as the others were talking about. But why make yourself miserable if there are other things out there to try?
Good luck to you. You will find your way!

HA! @@Bobby46, now THAT was an excellent story. I'll admit, it's also the stuff of my nightmares. I'm having surgery on the 12th and starting the job hunt to become a high school principal at the same time. I can just imagine getting up to leave the interview or introduce myself to students only to inadvertently demonstrate the improper use of a belt right then and there. Here's hoping I manage to avoid that one.

I haven't had an embarrassing incident...yet. I really hope that if I do its not as embarrassing as yours!
So...My friend had WLS about a 1 1/2 yrs ago. She was about 6mths into it when this happened.
She was walking down the hall at work with her manager and a co-worker discussing the meeting they were headed to. She always wore skirts to work. In the middle of her sentence her skirt hit the floor! Leaving her there in view of God and everyone in her panties and a sweater. Just for a few seconds....but to her it may as well have been an hour!
She took in all her skirts that night and bought a belt to wear with her slacks
She laughs every time one of us brings it up.
I'm 6mths out now. Don't wear skirts....but I'm shopping for a new belt tomorrow!

I haven't had an embarrassing incident...yet. I really hope that if I do its not as embarrassing as yours!
So...My friend had WLS about a 1 1/2 yrs ago. She was about 6mths into it when this happened.
She was walking down the hall at work with her manager and a co-worker discussing the meeting they were headed to. She always wore skirts to work. In the middle of her sentence her skirt hit the floor! Leaving her there in view of God and everyone in her panties and a sweater. Just for a few seconds....but to her it may as well have been an hour!
She took in all her skirts that night and bought a belt to wear with her slacks
She laughs every time one of us brings it up.
I'm 6mths out now. Don't wear skirts....but I'm shopping for a new belt tomorrow!

Last night the single most embarrassing thing to happen to me so far on this WLS roller coaster occurred, but I can't stop laughing about it. I hope you enjoy, commiserate, and can share your own stories of mixed embarrassment/hilarity for catharsis' sake.



I asked my wife to take weekly photos of me in only boxers on the day I started my pre-op diet, Jan 22 so I could have a consistent photo, with even time intervals, in the same spot with the same pose/clothes for the duration of weight loss. I'd like to be able to accurately point to where I was on each step of the journey 5 years from now, not to mention compile a stop-motion-style video clip that accurately shows how my body changed, at what rate, etc. You know, is it smooth, are there fits & starts and the like.



Last night was photo number 3. I'm still pre-op (Sx Feb 12, WAHOO), and it hasn't been that long, but I've lost 30 pounds so far (WOW! If only it was linear until my ideal weight, I could be there by July). Having lost so much weight (the equivalent of 1.5 of my son), I was eager to compare photos and see if I could tell a difference. In order to have photos side-by-side on her phone, she had to text them to herself. No big deal.



So I'm holding her phone last night, trying to look at the differences (if any) that I can spot when all of a sudden her phone buzzes and up pops the message: "Please stop sending me photos. I don't know who you are or what you want, but I'm not interested in sexting with you."



I was mortified. Somehow we had entered our own number wrong and sent 3 potentially scandalous photos of a very large, near-naked man to a stranger, or at least we hope it's a stranger. Certainly someone local with our area code.



Thankfully the person was incredibly gracious when we explained what had happened and apologized. So much so that they finished off with "Again, don't worry about it. These things happen. Not that I want you to have to have WLS, but I'm glad it wasn't anything worse for me. Congratulations by the way, you're making a fantastic decision and good luck! If you're willing, keep me posted. I don't know who you are, but I'd love to hear how you're doing in a few months."



I couldn't stop periodically bursting into laughter for several hours thereafter.



What about you? What hilarious stories do you have? Or do you hope/pray will grow funnier as time goes on. Please don't share anything you're not 100% comfortable posting online - I don't want anyone to regret a post, but wow, writing this all down has helped it be funnier for me and eliminated nearly all of the shame-piece.



Take care,

Smye07