Steviefan1

OP: are you on a restricted calorie pre-op diet?

Sounds to me like your body is going through chemical cravings for carbs. I felt that way too when I first started the pre-op diet. It was like detox from a powerful drug. And i had all these crazy thoughts. So Id take a big bite of bagel or ice cream, put it in my mouth, enjoy it, and spit it in the trash. Worked for me, to get through the carb-detox.

You are no more lying than when someone says 'how are you' and you say 'fine' without telling them all the details of your life. I say I'm eating right, eating less, and exercising - all true! The surgery part I share on a need to know basis. If I know someone well, or if I'm talking to someone who may really want to consider the surgery option (you can usually hear the desperation and frustration in their comments) I will tell them. Busybodies and gossips don't need to know all my personal medical info. :-)

Steviefan1~ Name comes from a 35 year obsession with the Rock Goddess, Stevie Nicks.

Steviefan1~ Name comes from a 35 year obsession with the Rock Goddess, Stevie Nicks.

Tell them that having your stomach 80-85 % removed from your body and then healing and changing your entire thinking and feelings about food and struggling to work on the addiction that food has played in your life and that you have made a commitment to do this for the rest of your life and that they know nothing about what has gone on in your life for you to make this decision.....Dealing with saggy skin and loss of hair and stupid remarks like they are making will not endear themselves to you as you take this so called east way out...
In my books they are taking the easy way out because they have the choice to go back and choose to eat a lot or not. Go off their diets for special occasions or not..To gain it all back because they never fixed what was wrong in their heads...
If they really think you took the easy way out then they are not friends at all..They should be supporting your decision not ridiculing it.....
I think they are afraid of what you are about to become..A new stronger healthier person that they may have to find someone or something else to make themselves feel better about their short comings....
It is so much easier to look at someone else and say Well at least...If they lose that...well we will see won't we!
So it for you hun and tell them that is exactly who you are doing it for...It is your turn and your journey!!!!!!

It is a very real fear that many of us have had. I truly believe that there comes a time when you are just "ready" to make the change and will not let anything stand in your way. Your desire to eat will change post op; you most likely will not be hungry, so avoiding those things you shouldn't have isn't always as hard as you think. There is also the very real fear of dumping. That alone has deterred me from eating many things, even though I may crave them. Alot of this is a mind game and you have to ready, and I believe, educated, for this to truly work. Best of luck to you!