WillHenry

I have told nobody, except my fiance', my mom, and one other close family member. I grew up playing sports, and still coach, and I know in the circles I run in, I would be considered "weak," or "undisciplined." I would argue that those are insidious judgments, as we all have our own stories to tell on how we got here. Mine happens to be from two bad sports injuries as an adult that made me quit going to the gym, while I kept eating as though I lived in the gym. Happened pretty fast, really. But, to the original poster's point- I feel like I am lying to an extent. Then again, if someone asks how I'm dropping the lbs, I will truthfully and confidently say something like, "Well, it was time for a change, so I made one... I am drinking less beer, eating better, and getting back into the gym." Done! No need to elaborate.

I have told nobody, except my fiance', my mom, and one other close family member. I grew up playing sports, and still coach, and I know in the circles I run in, I would be considered "weak," or "undisciplined." I would argue that those are insidious judgments, as we all have our own stories to tell on how we got here. Mine happens to be from two bad sports injuries as an adult that made me quit going to the gym, while I kept eating as though I lived in the gym. Happened pretty fast, really. But, to the original poster's point- I feel like I am lying to an extent. Then again, if someone asks how I'm dropping the lbs, I will truthfully and confidently say something like, "Well, it was time for a change, so I made one... I am drinking less beer, eating better, and getting back into the gym." Done! No need to elaborate.

You care. That's half the battle. You are human, and that's how the rest of it happened. I am newly banded, but I don't think that keeps me from understanding the feelings you have. It's human nature, and especially as a mother, it's your natural instinct to put 4 kids and a sick husband ahead of yourself. (I'm a guy, and say that in a complimentary way). Take some time for yourself, don't beat yourself up, and move forward. If you execute your current plan, even with some regressions, you will end up being better off a year from now than you would have been without action. Long story short... don't beat yourself up. You are a mother of 4, and a wife. If some grilled tilapia and steamed veggies at your boss' party are your greatest transgressions of the week, then you are ahead of 99% of the human population!

I forgot about the million dollars in the bank. Add that to my list!

That is so funny. Im on soft foods but nothing interests me or im too scared to try it. But yesterday I had some microwavable mashed potatoes with cream of chicken soup (my gravy). It was like sex, chocolate and waking up with a million dollars in the bank. it was soooooooooo good. I'm thinking about doing the same today

I have told nobody, except my fiance', my mom, and one other close family member. I grew up playing sports, and still coach, and I know in the circles I run in, I would be considered "weak," or "undisciplined." I would argue that those are insidious judgments, as we all have our own stories to tell on how we got here. Mine happens to be from two bad sports injuries as an adult that made me quit going to the gym, while I kept eating as though I lived in the gym. Happened pretty fast, really. But, to the original poster's point- I feel like I am lying to an extent. Then again, if someone asks how I'm dropping the lbs, I will truthfully and confidently say something like, "Well, it was time for a change, so I made one... I am drinking less beer, eating better, and getting back into the gym." Done! No need to elaborate.

LB, that could be a number of things, regardless of WLS. Talk to your GP about it and see if there is something hormonal that can be corrected. I went through a phase like that after my father died, and started taking something. Within a few weeks, things balanced back out.

It's none of their business if you don't wish to tell them.Some people tend to be critical of WWS. Some feel like we took the easy way out. Needless to say that have no clue that this just helps curb the appetite. We have to do everything everyone else trying to lose weight has to do.
I eventually told some people but saw no need to share with some others.
BTW I had the band. best of luck to you on your journey.

Don't make a habit of the chili relapse this close to your surgery date. Doctor wants you stomach to remain quiet till the sutures holding the band in place heal. You're not alone with the cheating though. Many have cheated and got a way with it. Just don't go eating a turkey leg or something like that.

Thanks to everyone. I am on my fourth day and feel great, all things considered. I handle pain very well, so I have only taken the pain meds at night to help me sleep. I actually drove myself around some today. However, these shakes are killing me! I just had some of the Fluid (and a few smashed beans) from some chili, to hopefully get some extra Fiber, as well as let me remember what hot food (albeit liquid) feels like. My biggest challenge is hitting 1,000 calories a day, which I have not even come close. I may hit it today, but I think I'm aiming for closing to 800. Did anyone "cheat" on that first week? I can go to soft solids (flaky fish, mashed potatoes, etc) as of Wednesday. So, I'm not talking about a major cheat. I mean something like what I just described with the chili. I chewed it so much, it was essentially liquid when I swallowed. Still have not used the bathroom, so I'd like to force that issue a bit, as well. Lastly, they say guys lose weight faster, and I understand I can't (and should not) continue on this path, but I have lost 18 lbs since I started the liquid diet last week, before surgery. Thanks to everyone, and I'm curious to hear what anybody thinks of my "Chili relapse."

Hey, everyone. I'm Will. I've read some of your posts (as a lurker) but finally signed up. I go in tomorrow morning for the band, after careful consideration. I'm pretty excited about it and looking forward to moving through these first few weeks. I'm sure I will pick your brains more than once in the coming days/weeks/months.

Hey, everyone. I'm Will. I've read some of your posts (as a lurker) but finally signed up. I go in tomorrow morning for the band, after careful consideration. I'm pretty excited about it and looking forward to moving through these first few weeks. I'm sure I will pick your brains more than once in the coming days/weeks/months.

Hey, everyone. I'm Will. I've read some of your posts (as a lurker) but finally signed up. I go in tomorrow morning for the band, after careful consideration. I'm pretty excited about it and looking forward to moving through these first few weeks. I'm sure I will pick your brains more than once in the coming days/weeks/months.

Hey, everyone. I'm Will. I've read some of your posts (as a lurker) but finally signed up. I go in tomorrow morning for the band, after careful consideration. I'm pretty excited about it and looking forward to moving through these first few weeks. I'm sure I will pick your brains more than once in the coming days/weeks/months.

Hey, everyone. I'm Will. I've read some of your posts (as a lurker) but finally signed up. I go in tomorrow morning for the band, after careful consideration. I'm pretty excited about it and looking forward to moving through these first few weeks. I'm sure I will pick your brains more than once in the coming days/weeks/months.

Hey, everyone. I'm Will. I've read some of your posts (as a lurker) but finally signed up. I go in tomorrow morning for the band, after careful consideration. I'm pretty excited about it and looking forward to moving through these first few weeks. I'm sure I will pick your brains more than once in the coming days/weeks/months.