Wallflower7522

This was honesty one if the hardest parts for me. I had 8 months from my first appointment until my surgery. Because I had so many appointments early on I told a handful of coworkers who were also close friends early on. They were super supportive and that gave me someone to talk to about it. One of them had the surgery a few years ago so she was my go to person.
After that I told no one for months and even then only on a need to know basis. Most of my coworkers don't know unless they've been told while I've been out. I'm sure they'll figure it out when I go back to work in a few weeks.
I told most of my need to know family a week or two before surgery and it was really hard. I just spit it out. The more people I told, the easier it got. Luckily everyone has even supportive so far.
My mom can't keep her mouth shut and she can be very overbearing so I actually didn't tell her until I got out of surgery. She freaked out, but she's over it now.
There really isn't any easy way to do it. Tell who you want to tell, and don't worry about everyone else. Be prepared to answer questions, but if some one is being a jerk, be prepared to shut the conversation down and move on. My mentality was that I'm an adult and capable of making my own medical decisions so I wasn't going to let anyone question my judgement.

So something kind of amazing happened today. I asked for 4 weeks off work. My doctors office said start with 4, and we could ask for more if I needed it. MetLife is notorious for only approving 4 weeks for this surgery, and I had no intentions of taking more. Well apparently when MetLife called my doctors office, the doctors office said up to 6 weeks and told them I could go back after my 6 week follow up. MetLife called me today with an approval for the full 6 weeks! I know I probably don't need it, but I'm thrilled to have it. My husband and I work opposite shifts so I do not see him at all M-F so it's going to be great. I'm feeling very blessed today.
Hope those of you recovering or preparing for your surgery are doing well.

This was honesty one if the hardest parts for me. I had 8 months from my first appointment until my surgery. Because I had so many appointments early on I told a handful of coworkers who were also close friends early on. They were super supportive and that gave me someone to talk to about it. One of them had the surgery a few years ago so she was my go to person.
After that I told no one for months and even then only on a need to know basis. Most of my coworkers don't know unless they've been told while I've been out. I'm sure they'll figure it out when I go back to work in a few weeks.
I told most of my need to know family a week or two before surgery and it was really hard. I just spit it out. The more people I told, the easier it got. Luckily everyone has even supportive so far.
My mom can't keep her mouth shut and she can be very overbearing so I actually didn't tell her until I got out of surgery. She freaked out, but she's over it now.
There really isn't any easy way to do it. Tell who you want to tell, and don't worry about everyone else. Be prepared to answer questions, but if some one is being a jerk, be prepared to shut the conversation down and move on. My mentality was that I'm an adult and capable of making my own medical decisions so I wasn't going to let anyone question my judgement.

I didn't have to lose weight to get approved. About a year before I decided to have surgery I decided I would try to lose some weight on my own and see what happened. I had previously lost and kept off 20lbs.
I used my fitness pal to track what I ate and I really stuck to it through the week and let myself go easy on the weekends. I lost about 20 more lbs over a couple of months but then my weight loss stalled. I did make some major changes to my diet though and that helped me keep the weight off until my surgery. I cut out all drinks that were sweetened, upped my Water intake, and tried to make better choices, more salads, less french fries ECT. I also focused on increasing my activity levels.
Some things I've found that have helped me are eating foods that keep me fuller longer. Increase your Protein, decrease your carbs. I also have learned to love cooking and baking over the past few years.
As for recipes, I have a couple of go to recipes that my family loves and that are healthy.
If you don't have access to fresh veggies, use frozen. The frozen green giant veggies, even the ones in cheese sauce are filling and low calorie. You can replace mashed potatoes with mashed cauliflower. I add a bit of cheddar cheese, some low fat cream cheese and a tiny bit of hot sauce.
One my favorite easy recipes is to just take a couple of chicken breast and throw them in a crock pot with a can of diced tomatoes, a can of corn, a can of Rotel, two cans of black Beans and a pack of chicken taco or fajita seasoning. Let it cook for 4-6 hours and shred the chicken. Here are a couple of other recipes I like. They are almost all high in Protein and low carb and very filling.
Here are a few
http://m.allrecipes.com/recipe/235311/greek-yogurt-parmesan-chicken I don't use all the seasoning, just some salt and pepper and Italian flavored panko
http://www.gimmesomeoven.com/skinny-ranch-dip/ This is super high protein, and is great with baked chips or carrots and celery
http://www.food.com/recipe/salsa-chicken-slow-cooker-recipe-396495 This is great on its own or you can add it to taco shells, salads, burritos ECT.
http://www.ambitiouskitchen.com/2013/09/2-ingredient-healthy-banana-bread-breakfast-cookies-with-delicious-add-ins/ Ok honestly, my husband hated this one, but I liked it and it's a good fix for your sweet tooth.
I'll add more if I think of them. Good luck. You can do this, do it now while you're still young. Stay on the forums, there's a lot of support and inspiration here.

Are you able to maybe get into some therapy post op? Sounds like you might need to talk out so of your anxiety issues. To lose the 50 lbs before surgery you may have to be a little obsessive but only you know if it's to a point were it's seriously affecting your life and your marriage. Your husband knows you so I would take his opinion seriously if he thinks your behavior is abnormal or detrimental.
As far as working out, if it's not something you want to do, it's hard to do. I'm 3 weeks out now and I don't want to do it. I just don't feel like it. The thing is, if this something you really want and really need, it's something you are going to just have to do. You don't have to go to the gym for 3 hours every day. Go for a walk around your neighborhood or go to the park. Even if you only start with 5 minutes a day, that's still better than nothing. A few years ago, the thought of walking or riding my bike for more than a few minutes was daunting but I started slow, and now I can walk for miles and my husband and I do a 17 mile bike trail a couple of times in the summer. We are hoping to do the full 32 mile trail by the end of this summer.
You can do this. It's hard, it's a long journey, and sometimes it just sucks. But either you do it now, and in a year from now you'll be so glad you did, or you can keep doing the same thing you've been doing for years and a year from now you'll regret you didn't do it already.

This was honesty one if the hardest parts for me. I had 8 months from my first appointment until my surgery. Because I had so many appointments early on I told a handful of coworkers who were also close friends early on. They were super supportive and that gave me someone to talk to about it. One of them had the surgery a few years ago so she was my go to person.
After that I told no one for months and even then only on a need to know basis. Most of my coworkers don't know unless they've been told while I've been out. I'm sure they'll figure it out when I go back to work in a few weeks.
I told most of my need to know family a week or two before surgery and it was really hard. I just spit it out. The more people I told, the easier it got. Luckily everyone has even supportive so far.
My mom can't keep her mouth shut and she can be very overbearing so I actually didn't tell her until I got out of surgery. She freaked out, but she's over it now.
There really isn't any easy way to do it. Tell who you want to tell, and don't worry about everyone else. Be prepared to answer questions, but if some one is being a jerk, be prepared to shut the conversation down and move on. My mentality was that I'm an adult and capable of making my own medical decisions so I wasn't going to let anyone question my judgement.

I'm a Starbucks junkie. I haven't been there since my surgery but I can give you some tips for ordering light.
Ask your barista for tips, usually they're really helpful as long as they're not slammed.
Everything can be ordered with skim milk which will give you some Protein and cut calories.
I also like to just get plain coffee with Syrup. You could get a black Decaf coffee with sugar free Carmel syrup.
Download the Starbucks app. It will show you which syrups they have that are sugar free and help you plan your drink out.

So I finally told my mom about my surgery. I called when I woke up for surgery and told her I had decided to have gastric bypass surgery. She said "when" to which I replied "this morning." She was shocked and a little angry, but she got over it and has mostly been helpful this far.

This was honesty one if the hardest parts for me. I had 8 months from my first appointment until my surgery. Because I had so many appointments early on I told a handful of coworkers who were also close friends early on. They were super supportive and that gave me someone to talk to about it. One of them had the surgery a few years ago so she was my go to person.
After that I told no one for months and even then only on a need to know basis. Most of my coworkers don't know unless they've been told while I've been out. I'm sure they'll figure it out when I go back to work in a few weeks.
I told most of my need to know family a week or two before surgery and it was really hard. I just spit it out. The more people I told, the easier it got. Luckily everyone has even supportive so far.
My mom can't keep her mouth shut and she can be very overbearing so I actually didn't tell her until I got out of surgery. She freaked out, but she's over it now.
There really isn't any easy way to do it. Tell who you want to tell, and don't worry about everyone else. Be prepared to answer questions, but if some one is being a jerk, be prepared to shut the conversation down and move on. My mentality was that I'm an adult and capable of making my own medical decisions so I wasn't going to let anyone question my judgement.

Toddler spoons and plates as well as 4 and 6 ounce tupperware containers have been really really helpful for me this far.

Don't stress yourself out about getting all the Fluid down right now. You'll still be loaded up with IV fluids for a few more days. Keep a bottle of Water with you and sip sip sip, just get as much as you can. In place of the abdominal wrap you could try getting a really snug hoodie and zipping it up around you. I wore a hoodie like this for a few days and nights and it really helped.

I made buffalo chicken dip last night. It wasn't as good as the original but it was still really good.
I used a cup of Greek yogurt, about half a pack of ranch powder, a can of chicken, a block of non fat cream cheese, and franks red-hot sauce. I just mixed it all together with my kitchen-aid to shred the chicken and baked it for 15 mins of 425. Tons of Protein.
One of my favorite recipes right now is just a couple of chicken breasts, a pack of taco seasoning, and a jar of salsa. Cook it in the crock pot for 8 hours on low and it just falls apart. You can use it for tacos, burritos, salads, or just eat it by itself. You can even add Beans and tomatoes and make it into Soup.

I made buffalo chicken dip last night. It wasn't as good as the original but it was still really good.
I used a cup of Greek yogurt, about half a pack of ranch powder, a can of chicken, a block of non fat cream cheese, and franks red-hot sauce. I just mixed it all together with my kitchen-aid to shred the chicken and baked it for 15 mins of 425. Tons of Protein.
One of my favorite recipes right now is just a couple of chicken breasts, a pack of taco seasoning, and a jar of salsa. Cook it in the crock pot for 8 hours on low and it just falls apart. You can use it for tacos, burritos, salads, or just eat it by itself. You can even add Beans and tomatoes and make it into Soup.

So something kind of amazing happened today. I asked for 4 weeks off work. My doctors office said start with 4, and we could ask for more if I needed it. MetLife is notorious for only approving 4 weeks for this surgery, and I had no intentions of taking more. Well apparently when MetLife called my doctors office, the doctors office said up to 6 weeks and told them I could go back after my 6 week follow up. MetLife called me today with an approval for the full 6 weeks! I know I probably don't need it, but I'm thrilled to have it. My husband and I work opposite shifts so I do not see him at all M-F so it's going to be great. I'm feeling very blessed today.
Hope those of you recovering or preparing for your surgery are doing well.

I'm two weeks out and it's getting warm out so I'm ready to get out and move around. But my stomach muscles are still so sore if I stand up or move around too long.
I managed half a mile at the park a few days ago but it took me 15 minutes. Meanwhile my husband did 2 miles in just over 20 minutes. I know it's going to take a long time, but I'm eager to catch up with him.

So something kind of amazing happened today. I asked for 4 weeks off work. My doctors office said start with 4, and we could ask for more if I needed it. MetLife is notorious for only approving 4 weeks for this surgery, and I had no intentions of taking more. Well apparently when MetLife called my doctors office, the doctors office said up to 6 weeks and told them I could go back after my 6 week follow up. MetLife called me today with an approval for the full 6 weeks! I know I probably don't need it, but I'm thrilled to have it. My husband and I work opposite shifts so I do not see him at all M-F so it's going to be great. I'm feeling very blessed today.
Hope those of you recovering or preparing for your surgery are doing well.

Hang in there. It gets so much better so fast. Mine was on the 4th, so a week before yours, I will tell you last Saturday and Sunday were rough but by Monday I started feeling a lot better. I'm almost back to normal now. I can't bend or move at 100% yet but I've drove, gone to the store, and I'm getting in a lot more water every day.

Hang in there. It gets so much better so fast. Mine was on the 4th, so a week before yours, I will tell you last Saturday and Sunday were rough but by Monday I started feeling a lot better. I'm almost back to normal now. I can't bend or move at 100% yet but I've drove, gone to the store, and I'm getting in a lot more water every day.

So something kind of amazing happened today. I asked for 4 weeks off work. My doctors office said start with 4, and we could ask for more if I needed it. MetLife is notorious for only approving 4 weeks for this surgery, and I had no intentions of taking more. Well apparently when MetLife called my doctors office, the doctors office said up to 6 weeks and told them I could go back after my 6 week follow up. MetLife called me today with an approval for the full 6 weeks! I know I probably don't need it, but I'm thrilled to have it. My husband and I work opposite shifts so I do not see him at all M-F so it's going to be great. I'm feeling very blessed today.
Hope those of you recovering or preparing for your surgery are doing well.

So something kind of amazing happened today. I asked for 4 weeks off work. My doctors office said start with 4, and we could ask for more if I needed it. MetLife is notorious for only approving 4 weeks for this surgery, and I had no intentions of taking more. Well apparently when MetLife called my doctors office, the doctors office said up to 6 weeks and told them I could go back after my 6 week follow up. MetLife called me today with an approval for the full 6 weeks! I know I probably don't need it, but I'm thrilled to have it. My husband and I work opposite shifts so I do not see him at all M-F so it's going to be great. I'm feeling very blessed today.
Hope those of you recovering or preparing for your surgery are doing well.

So something kind of amazing happened today. I asked for 4 weeks off work. My doctors office said start with 4, and we could ask for more if I needed it. MetLife is notorious for only approving 4 weeks for this surgery, and I had no intentions of taking more. Well apparently when MetLife called my doctors office, the doctors office said up to 6 weeks and told them I could go back after my 6 week follow up. MetLife called me today with an approval for the full 6 weeks! I know I probably don't need it, but I'm thrilled to have it. My husband and I work opposite shifts so I do not see him at all M-F so it's going to be great. I'm feeling very blessed today.
Hope those of you recovering or preparing for your surgery are doing well.

So something kind of amazing happened today. I asked for 4 weeks off work. My doctors office said start with 4, and we could ask for more if I needed it. MetLife is notorious for only approving 4 weeks for this surgery, and I had no intentions of taking more. Well apparently when MetLife called my doctors office, the doctors office said up to 6 weeks and told them I could go back after my 6 week follow up. MetLife called me today with an approval for the full 6 weeks! I know I probably don't need it, but I'm thrilled to have it. My husband and I work opposite shifts so I do not see him at all M-F so it's going to be great. I'm feeling very blessed today.
Hope those of you recovering or preparing for your surgery are doing well.

So I finally told my mom about my surgery. I called when I woke up for surgery and told her I had decided to have gastric bypass surgery. She said "when" to which I replied "this morning." She was shocked and a little angry, but she got over it and has mostly been helpful this far.

So I finally told my mom about my surgery. I called when I woke up for surgery and told her I had decided to have gastric bypass surgery. She said "when" to which I replied "this morning." She was shocked and a little angry, but she got over it and has mostly been helpful this far.

Mine said two a day or at least 60 grams. I'm only 4 days out now and only managed to get down an ounce or two of premier yesterday.