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Mine isn't lack of will power, but addiction.
I agree with what people in Overeaters Anonymous say
Avoiding my trigger foos, that is my drug, is the first step.
There is also a sentence they used to say, which I think of when I want to eat the "wrong" food:
"Whenever you give up, you 'll make it easier for the next time"
The idea that cravings will be shorter and less frequent helps me.

I'm reading a book called "The end to overeating", by David Kessler. He was the head of the food and drug association in the United States and really explains the science of cravings and food addiction. It's a great read.

I have been very disciplined since my surgery. I'm lucky that I lost 70 pounds once before and I know I have the power to lose, I just worry about the power to keep it off.
One big truth I have found this time around is that you really NEED/HAVE to cleanse your body of the addictive foods. The sugar. The carbs. The fatty and delicious convenient foods. The processed ed foods. The longer you stay away from those foods, the less you want them and the easier it is to pass them up.
I found that since then, when I do eat healthy food, it tastes so delicious.
I'm not perfect. I crave sweets. Especially once a month. One night, I ate a banana with 2 tablespoons of Peanut Butter and then dumped a Sugar Free Chocolate Jello pudding on top. Was it the healthiest choice? Probably not. But it quenched my desire and the next day, I was back on track. And, I put it all in My Fitness Pal app.
My Fitness Pal is a good way to open your eyes about what you're really putting in your body. But you have to be honest with your entries.
Eat Protein first, but it really all boils down to calories in vs calories out.
Be proud of your weight loss so far. It's better than gaining 27 pounds. Maybe you're just gonna be someone who loses slowly. That's Ok. But think of what you could do with a little more effort!
Change is hard, but you CAN do it!

Gee Mandy...I wish I could give you something specific to do or follow to change your perception but I can't. What I can do is tell you that when I had the surgery, I was not in the right place psychologically. I loved to eat and didn't want to stop. I had to because I was risking my mobility...I was heading to being wheelchair bound because of my joint disease. I needed knee and hip replacement surgery and the doctor said without losing weight, the surgery would not be successful.
So...I had no idea if this would work or not since my head was not where it needed to be. What clicked for me was some success. Really...that's all it was. I lost almost 20 lbs. fairly quickly and that helped me to see that I might actually be able to do this. I made sure to keep trigger foods out of the house, and focused on how good it felt to eat less and eat better. The sense of control for me is so much better than the fleeting good feeling of eating that piece of cake, or bowl of spaghetti.
It doesn't mean I don't struggle just as hard as you. I do and have to battle every day to maintain the successes. Also...try to change up your routine. Don't sit and watch TV. It makes you want to eat. Read a book, or take a bath, or do a puzzle, or knit. Join a gym or go for a walk...just get out of the house. There's really no magic here..it's just like they say AA is about....one day at a time...one good choice at a time. Good luck and come here as often as you need to for support.
Oh and by the way, I got the hip surgery in October and am more mobile than I've been in years. Alot less pain as well...so much so that I'm able to put off the knee replacement for now....which is such a relief. So when people say the lapband surgery changed their lives...they're not kidding and I'm a perfect example of that.

So true However, on rare occasions, for me, it helps me get past major disappointments in my life.
For instance. My Denver Broncos got their butts handed to them last Sunday Cheesecake and pizza for a couple of days got me through my 2 day mourning period. Yeah, feeling awful over a stupid football team is silly, but I'm a guy, what can I say. But I now know for a fact that comfort food does assuage my guilt, disappointment and emotional issues.
So, after 2 days, back on track and feeling better. Food is great and it's much better than beating my wife(as if I could, 3rd degree blackbelt in tae kwon do).

When I was fat I didn't like myself. I knew I had a lot of good qualities, but, if I had been a man, I wouldn't have been sexually attracted to a woman like me.
Love and sex don't always go together. It is nobody's fault.Just something that happens.
I'm glad you've started talking with your husband about the recent changes.
You might come to understand each other's reasons.
Congrats on your weight loss!

I'm not sure I can do anything for two weeks, but I know I can do anything for today.
One day at a time.
There are things I think I cannot cope with for more than a day, but day after day we can go far
Hugs!

I'm not sure I can do anything for two weeks, but I know I can do anything for today.
One day at a time.
There are things I think I cannot cope with for more than a day, but day after day we can go far
Hugs!

When I was fat I didn't like myself. I knew I had a lot of good qualities, but, if I had been a man, I wouldn't have been sexually attracted to a woman like me.
Love and sex don't always go together. It is nobody's fault.Just something that happens.
I'm glad you've started talking with your husband about the recent changes.
You might come to understand each other's reasons.
Congrats on your weight loss!

When I was fat I didn't like myself. I knew I had a lot of good qualities, but, if I had been a man, I wouldn't have been sexually attracted to a woman like me.
Love and sex don't always go together. It is nobody's fault.Just something that happens.
I'm glad you've started talking with your husband about the recent changes.
You might come to understand each other's reasons.
Congrats on your weight loss!

Thanks! You wrote what I needed to read

I'm not sure I can do anything for two weeks, but I know I can do anything for today.
One day at a time.
There are things I think I cannot cope with for more than a day, but day after day we can go far
Hugs!

Congrats! You have lost a consderable amount of lbs and you have lost them well. I mean, you look great and even slimmer than your scales might suggest

Each day there are more and more newly banded people here who are questioning their weight loss. You think you should have lost more or be losing more then you have. A loss is a loss whether it be pounds or inches. You are not going to lose weight every day, every week or even every month in some cases. No one that is obese ever gained 100lbs over night or some even over a year. It was a gradual weight gain that will take time to get rid of. You're questioning what am I doing wrong. If you are following the plan that your doctor put in place for you to the T then you are doing nothing wrong. As the body loses weight it has to catch up if you initially lose a lot in the beginning. People have went months with no weight loss but as long as you are not gaining you will get there. 1 to 2lbs a week is normal for a lapband patient. If it's more then you're that much more ahead of the game. Be patient, stay off the scale. Weigh yourself once a week or every other so you won't suffer disappointment and question if you made the right decision. If you can't stop weighing yourself then you have to stop being disappointed every time you don't lose. Just hang in there it will happen if you are doing exactly what you are suppose to be doing. You can't eat ice cream, cake, Cookies, potato chips and all the other junk food and wonder why the scale is not moving. Drink your Water, eat your portion size and make sure most of that is Protein, make sure you get 8 hours of sleep at night because you lose weight when you are sleeping, make sure you are moving your bowels every day and stop stressing. You will get there.

My mantra is "I can do ANYTHING for two weeks." That's how I got through my two weeks of fluids. That's how I get through most of my difficult experiences..... I just keep repeating my mantra. You, too, can get through this. You are stronger than you think you are. Use the week you have left to journal, read, talk, and to focus on how your life will be different once you are freed from the food prison you have been living in. Best of luck.... You can do ANYTHING for one more week!!!!!!

I admire you! Instead of looking for food to soothe your suffering, you have plucked up courage and continued your journey towards your new and healthy life.
I remember that a friend of mine used to say " if you have a problem, eating isn't a solution"
Hugs!

I admire you! Instead of looking for food to soothe your suffering, you have plucked up courage and continued your journey towards your new and healthy life.
I remember that a friend of mine used to say " if you have a problem, eating isn't a solution"
Hugs!

"Before a 5K last weekend...." -- who gets to say that? YOU DO! Wow, I am very impressed. And your weight loss is impressive as well, yet the thing that really stands out is how you are not beating yourself up over things anymore. I feel like I am becoming more empowered, too -- that getting the band and getting my appetite under control have given me a new way of treating myself. I am more gentle with myself and I appreciate who I am, how I am. Choosing to have weight loss surgery was such a powerful decision. Yes, it's about the weight, but more than that is the way we have chosen to put ourselves first. Finally. Best wishes to you!

Congratulations on taking this step to turn your life and health around. I'm so happy for you! It is a very powerful thing to choose ourselves first.

THIS is something I always am interested in...longterm success or issues. Thanks for coming here to share your story. I'm glad you are making an appt with your surgeon to discuss and determine what has happened to cause the gain. One thing I hear when attending support group seminars from other types of WLS ( other than the band ) is that when they go back to thier surgeons, all they are ever told is DIET and EXERCISE....that's it. Nothing more to be said... or done to help. It is what it is... I hear it often.
I'm so glad to know that I have another option. My surgery is adjustable!!! I look forward to hearing what your surgeon recommends. Best wishes and never, ever give up!

I am also hoping to be down 60 lbs at my 1 yr bandiversary! that's still a whole child you've lost in weight...think about things that weigh that much...
-One of my grandkids holding an 8 lb dumbell
-The average sized Husky
- 240 sticks of butter
- 3 of J-Lo's butt
- 120 smurfs
- 640 oreos
- 3 spare tires
- 7.5 human heads
- 40 dozen eggs
- 8 gallons of Water
- 4 Thankgiving Turkeys
- a bushel of wheat
Ok..I may be going overboard but you get the idea
Try carrying any of those items around for a day and remember you used to do it every day!

We are powerless over a lot of things in our lives, but what we put into our mouths depends on us

We are powerless over a lot of things in our lives, but what we put into our mouths depends on us

We are powerless over a lot of things in our lives, but what we put into our mouths depends on us