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Three weeks on clear liquids?!? Or 3 weeks until clear liquids?

And we're off...clear liquids! Ugh!

9 days until surgery 4 days until clear liquid diet starts Last night, while on the road for a quick visit with my in laws, my usually stoic and calm husband put his hand on my knee, I squeezed his hand and looked at his face. He was crying. I asked what was wrong and he replied, "It's getting close, and I'm scared." I was so grateful to hear this, because it was the first time HE brought it up for discussion. He's always listened and told me he supports my decision. But this was different and I learned a few things about him. First, he blames himself for my weight problem, even though I was fat for years before we met. (While he is overweight, he has some phobias related to food, and his diet is similar to a children's menu, and very limited in variety.) I assured him it was not the case and emphasized that I am responsible, and no one else, to get better. Secondly, He's scared of losing me in surgery, and of losing some of our food related bonding, like Giordano pizza in Chicago, and having me test his homemade Finnish bread. Third, he wants to support me by changing some of his bad habits related to food. (Any ideas how I could swing that to "finish one home improvement project before starting a new one"? Let me know...lol.) I needed that talk. It was support from where I needed it the most at the best possible time. For months, my biggest cheerleaders in this were my best friend, and his sister. It's so good to know this wonderful man is on board too. It's really helping me believe I can do this.

I recently saw someone complaining that someone was cheating with mash potatoes. The nutritionist had them on our list. We were told no straws or carbonation...until 6 months. Some programs say never again...who knows?

I have worked with people who have had WLS on the psych unit where I work. I have only heard of the psych eval being failed when there was a history of chronic self injury and severe personality disorder.

Yep...call, be very, very polite and charming they can't get too upset about a polite inquiry. I probably could be post op right now if I would have called when I thought things were taking too long. I found out I was forgotten for a few weeks at one of the steps. When I called, I got the appointment date I was needing the next day.

I'm wondering too. I've been reading on here and other resources that decaffeinated, tea or coffee, is ok, but it still might have some caffeine, so you need to add more Water. I've also read that the temperature can matter early on and that every doctor's advice here is different.

The Mexican in me will miss my tortillas.

"Irregardless" almost makes me homicidal. "Your, You're," "Two, To, too"...

A friend of mine who lost over 220 lbs with RNY ate wraps from fast food restaurants when she was in a pinch. She would make two meals out of one.

Makes sense...losing weight can help PCOS, which can cause facial hair.

My surgeon told me the same thing...they were taking more bands out than they were putting in lately.

Good luck!

I get more and more...stunned, for lack of a better word, with each passing day and every hurdle I have cleared. I can't help but to compare it to my pregnancy. I had a pretty good idea what to expect and time to prepare, and by those last few weeks, I wanted to get the messiness over and get on with it. I just got my FMLA approval papers from the Dept of Labor, and the last thing before surgery- meetings with the doctor and nutritionist on January 22. I'm not ashamed to admit I'm scared of the surgery and that I might not be up to the challenge. I know I can do it, but scared nonetheless. I just wish I could sleep better lately. Been waking up and panicking! This should pass!

Remember, there is going to be emotional fall out after surgery. The goal is not to be perfect, ever. Give yourself some slack, your head is healing too!

Just got my FMLA approval letter. My surgeon requested 6.4 weeks.

My doc didn't know going in what did, he said 4 weeks, but I'm planning on taking more if I need to. I don't want to get hit in the gut or have to tackle an agitated patient...still, I can't imagine having major surgery and working a week later. I hope all goes well for you, though!

My husband is scared, too. He supports me, but he's been avoidant because of fear. I wanted him to go to support group with me, but I think he just couldn't deal yet. He did mention my RNY to a coworker and the coworker told him that his wife also had weight loss surgery by my doctor and that the doctor was great and came highly recommended. When he told me this, I could tell it was something that gave him some relief. I think the support groups would do our spouses all some good.

Wow...my doc told me minimum 4weeks to recover before he found out what I did for work, maybe longer. He specifically mentioned that the early days you sleep a lot because of meds and low calorie consumption "while you still have all the weight on you." You might want to ask the doc. A week might not be realistic.

Congratulations...sobering indeed. I am still a few weeks from surgery, but when I think about how much I have to lose, I wonder how it got so out of control. Maybe this moment was an epiphany for you. I hope it keeps moving you to where you want to be.

FYI...your dose of antidepressants may need to be adjusted due to all the changes in your body. Follow up with the doc who prescribes those meds for you. Also...we see a lot of people in the psych facility where I work who have had WLS who struggle after losing eating as their coping mechanism. It's common.

A colleague of mine had RNY before I met her. She was 420 when she had it, 180 and 5'7" or 8" when I met her, about 2 years after. She has since had plastics, and a baby. I remember she told me she knew one thing she could get at every fast food place that she could tolerate well, usually a wrap and she'd eat half and save the rest for later. She goes out and can be happy with a slice when she has pizza with friends. My brother lost 227 lbs with a Lap band. He eats whatever he likes but in much smaller quantities. Both eat slowly...very slowly. I know a lot of people several years out and have been plucking their brains. I think the most important things they learned is to plan ahead for challenges and keep limits in mind.

A colleague of mine had RNY before I met her. She was 420 when she had it, 180 and 5'7" or 8" when I met her, about 2 years after. She has since had plastics, and a baby. I remember she told me she knew one thing she could get at every fast food place that she could tolerate well, usually a wrap and she'd eat half and save the rest for later. She goes out and can be happy with a slice when she has pizza with friends. My brother lost 227 lbs with a Lap band. He eats whatever he likes but in much smaller quantities. Both eat slowly...very slowly. I know a lot of people several years out and have been plucking their brains. I think the most important things they learned is to plan ahead for challenges and keep limits in mind.