TheWatcher

I am obeast as people call it because food was my out i was Depressed for the better part of the last 15 years... so when i was at my lowest i could always count on food to be a support. it was kepf fairly managed through school due to the fact that i was a jock ... football backetball wrestling badeball track and feild(shot put)... do i really didnt matter what i ate but i was still big. :ranger: My problems started when i was outta high school for the most part i didnt work out near as much...:ranger: The other problem is that comming from a large african american family when we get together its a soul food buffet and its only recently that we have started editing the recipies to be more health smart.:hungry: Now after i got over the depression i still had to deal with the bad habbits that i picked up from depression. But now that im actively trying not to overeat and make better decisions about what i eat its talking its own toll but there still change i need to make. i believe by biggest obsticle to my weit gain was the depression and thats done with.:cry:think I have already confirmed that the lap band is covered by my insurance. my pcp has already set me up with a consultation thus the thread and coincidently its the same Dr. that was at the first seminar i went to.:whoo::clap2::heh:

great i dont have a eating disorder... 5 generations of my family both sides are fat.... and i just cut out fast food all together and lost 35lbs .... they are gonna piss me off....six months of a diet... ftlog please tell me thats an exageration .... Does this happen with most cases... anoy one else have a similar experience or one thats different...... incase it helps im 24 in the bayarea ca and i have blue cross of calfornia hmo:ranger::faint::help:

I'm a student granted at this point its more of a Scholar. But a student none the less.

Ok i have heard this sooooooo many times in this thread and no man has had the balls to say anything... I love the fact that there are women who like to go down on their man... i swear i was shocked at the number of women u like it considering my community but before i start to digress here is what i want to inform the women in this room... Men like getting head (period) Hell until i knew better my motto was there is no such thing as bad head... Well this is not true there is bad head there is worst head and there is Horrendous head.... the problem lies in the fact that men feel so happy that a woman is doing the act that it can be bad and they will never say anything... most men with not tell you if you are bad at it... in fact if you have to ask the question to get the answer theres a chance it doesnt work for him... another thing to note is that just like women, what works for one man won't work for all men... This information i am relaying i had to learn the Hard way...(i can still remember the bruises) so my advice to the women who enjoy it and want to be the greatest you man ever had... treat it like a class in college. go to borders pick up an couple of text book.... Study your text to understand the theory. once you have a general understanding of the theory take that knowledge to the lag and run some test and experiments... This way whether its the guy u have now or the a guy in the future u will have enough talent/skill/knowledge to drive any man crazy. when u really get it down you will get questions like how did you get so good at this? and such questions ... and you know your doing it right if the guy looks at you with fascinated eyes wondering how the hell and who the hell taught her that. Thus is how i learned and perfected cunnilingus thus its possible for you ti master fellatio. but then thats just one mans experience and opinion.... somebody back me up

nice... now i gotta run and get belly so i can figure out what song that is...lol great songs though.

I was just thumbing through my massive music collection and i was starting to think that I've what i consider a soundtrack to life. songs that when you are about to get down to it would be the perfect songs to make love, have sex, fool around, or FUCK to. I have given a lot of thought to this subject and i have many but the aways seem to change according to the activities that i have listed above... each seems to have its own rhythm its own flow. ill start this thread with one a few of my own suggestions and people can follow in suite Foo Fighters - tired of you / F***ing Me'Shell NdegeOcello - Fool of Me / Making love JayZ - ni**** please / Having sex Guns N Roses - November rain / making love Prince - Purple Rain / making love So hopefully these give you and idea of what I'm talking about The songs done necessarily have to be about sex or love or anything like that... it may just be that the bass line ... a certain guitar solo.. or a part of the vocals would just be the perfect sound to accompany the act of what you are doing in the current moment. Thx in advance for the feedback

Well here is my take on the situation... You have to start somewhere. If you approach communication like its a hugely groundbreaking thing its will never be easier... developing that level of open communication should have started the first time he saw you naked. If its just a month or a year should make no difference... Somethings your not gonna wanna hear vice versa... some things you hes not gonna want to say and vice versa... but these are things that need to be said... For any relationship to grow you have to be open and honest... FROM THE START its the only way to ensure that you will have the skills to weather the storms that are inevitably coming. :heh: A good practice is never to get into a relationship especially a sexual relationship unless there is potential for the situation to go all the way... otherwise the experience for both parties only gets cheapened and may cause problems in future relationships or destroy what could have been a fruitful friendship. ***that last statement was just cautionary... not meant for anyoone in particular.:ranger:

Not sure if they fail people... i know that they probably should... i know a person that got a bypass... he just wasn't ready... he was already a really shy and secluded person now a lot of social interaction ( tough life and family Bullsh**) so he got the surgery and lost all this weight and now. its like going from being more or less ignored in a club to being able to get who he wants ... but its weird you would think that hes happy but no ... hes angry.. he lashes out at sarcastic humor and everything is BLACK or WHITE... any constructive criticism is misconstrued as a attack on his person and may trigger him to lash out... I was with him when he at a party and got drunk. And the hole night seemed as though it was one big pump up my ego session. the more he drank the more insecure he would get... honestly when u get a nice buzz going yourself it kind of ruins it... I just don't get it the more i hang around the guy the more i and trying to figure out how he passed the psych eval... He told me the other night that he gets angry because the people he dates never wanted him when he was fat... I understand where hes coming from ... but i myself don't have his emotional issues... hes already in counseling but thats not exactly working for him... im at aloss.... i mean i had to get over my own issues but i don't know what to do to help him with his social skills or his anger about his newly found popularity.

Ok so my doctors on board the sleep clinic is on board, i have a psych eval coming up... BU wth hoe by doc says that my blood sugar is low and i may be hypoglycemic WTS. every week its something new. Then he tells me that i may have Tumors in my pancreas that are secreting insulin that causes me to be hungry more..... for **** sake. does anyone know what the hell I'm in for at the endocrinologist?:ranger:

well i know that it take me along time to arrive when I'm gone down upon... its takes for ever and its really intense ... so intense that sometimes its too much that may be a problem... another possibility is that he may not want you to ... some me (i was like this for a while) don't like the idea of letting a woman do that. it is a psychological thing i may have something to do with the cumming in the mouth thing... the balance of power thing. (cause contrary to popular belief that is the most powerful position... PERIOD) maybe he has had a bad experience ... and the last is the least likely but he may not like it the way you are doing it. It the last be the case then communication is key... for all others it may be something that he has to get over. it may be that you just have to make him understand that you want to please him and that its important to you that he gets off. <br /> some men are stuck in this women don' like to give blow jobs mindset and ... most men just pass that thought aside and say imma get mine but its possible he is trying to play mind reader and he truly doesn't want to make you do something you don't want to do.... now that i think about it there could be a lot more reasons that this could be happening but most revolve around him. so its kind of in your as to find out what his particular issue is.

believe it of not he may not like it... its rare but there are those men that don't like it. I like it but not while I'm downtown working. if you are trying to service him while hes servicing you. maybe he doesn't want the distraction ... i know i wouldn't.

i plan on doing alot of weights with a 30 min cardio warm up and a 10-15 min cardio cool down

ok i wanna be as real as possible here and you have no idea how embarrassed i am about posting this but here goes. I haven't been laid in about 4 years, witch is kind of weird to me considering how much i date and how much i like *"dining out"*. Its not that im unattractive its just that 1 i am on this older woman kick that i just cant break. and its not that i haven't had the opportunities cause i had one the other night. i do how ever have a mortal fear or my dick all of a sudden wanting to play hide and go seek. I am very pleased with my man hood and have never had any complaints but lately at my current weight (416 or so) Jr. has started retreating into his panic room... He hasn't done that since my friends and i went streaking in Tahoe (soooo much tequila involved). So im not exactly sure what im asking but 4 years is too damn long. On another note im close to getting my consult ... just finished my sleep study... pray for me...

I'm 24 and have been to me fat all my life... even though my fam says they can remember when i was younger and slim. I have always been the Jock all throughout my schooling career football, basketball, baseball, wrestling, I just love to be doing something... and i don't think i realized till recently how far i have fallen up... my freshman year in high school i was 202. i went to the doc for the first time in 6 years and topped the scales at 436. Needless to say i was fing shocked. I knew i was fat but fing 400lbs. I mean i swear i thought i was 390. I have at this point already decided to get the surgery i was just frustrated at how big i was. So anyway doc gets blood screens and sets up a sleep study witch i just finished.(by far the best sleep I've had in years) and while i wait for the results of that i cant help but to wonder ... how long is this prepping ish gonna take... my doc is all for it he says that there are bases i need to hit first... so Guys Com padres any idea of whats next.... another question. once banded with a good lifting routine how fast has some of the weight been coming off????

From The first visit with your PCP to Your banding day How long did the process take?:ranger:

Ok so i have Blue Cross of California HMO im 24 and i have been hearing a lot of stories that Blue Cross hasn't been making this process hard. I am a person that always hope for the best and expects the wost so it makes me a little nervous when i find out that i may be able to get this Tool to help me change my life with little or no red tape. If anyone has advice that might be able to help me please let me know. i live in the SF Bay Area so if anyone knows anything once again help a brotha out.:ranger::help:

Hi i have started the process to get banded i am seeing my PCP soon and want to get the referral i have a surgeon in mind that is in network i was wondering if there are any foreseeable hurdles that i will have.:ranger: If my approval process works that fast i don't know what ill do with my self.

I and just getting started on the process and i was wondering what luck people were having with spicy foods. I just gotta know...:phanvan

OK im sold:clap2::whoo:

i guess i have to play around... carefully and test it out once i get to that point... i will miss my hot food