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Easy thing about eating/drinking post-op? You physically CAN'T drink while, or after, you eat. It hurts. Seriously - I have to wait a good 30 minutes after a meal to even think about sipping something (I'm almost 12 weeks post op). Even if you don't get the habit down pre-op, you'll be forced to do it after!

Perhaps it is genuine concern she approached with when saying you are too skinny. Don't get me wrong, I personally think you look fabulous. (Not "too skinny" nor "an old man") But this woman has spent years accepting (and loving I assume) you as you were. Sometimes it is harder for those around us to accept we are obese and need help than it is for us to decide it for ourselves. You did what was right for you, for your life. Be proud every second of every day that you cared enough about YOU to do that. In time the family (and others) will come around and get to know and love the "new" you the same as they did the old you. BTW- I think it is awesome you and your wife did this together. That is an amazing support system built right into your marriage!

Thanks for writing me cherip and southernsoul. In reading your comments I see you BOTH had surgery 6/19! Obviously a very good day for both of you.. I know I am far from the only person who has weight issues and must deal with aches and pains. It gives me so much hope for my future when I read of others success. In fact, it makes the pain now more manageable in a way, knowing that it won't last. While the damage is done, I know I can vastly improve my symptoms and prevent further damage by getting the weight off.

Wishing you all kinds of success and a speedy recovery! Hope the sleeve does all you want it to do for you...And how lucky you are to have such a great hubby!!!

If I can go thru this surgery anyone can...lost 96 lbs in 6 months. my only regret was not having it sooner. You will do great embarking on your journey tho a healthier you!

Hi Roo! Reading your blog was a lot like reading my own story. I wish you luck in your journey and hope to follow along with you Rita

hi roo and rita! wow, alot of similarities; i am so proud of all you've come through roo! it's astonishing what truly resilient creatures we are, is it not? i too am 43, have PCOS with all the joys that can usher into one's existence, and am near your starting weight. i have fairly recently reached this same epiphanic moment you describe and am also seriously contemplating the sleeve procedure. it took me the better part of a decade to have my miracle baby - now a leaping 2.5 er - and that journey was fraught with more loss and pain than i imagined possible. so i think i can probably contend with the challenges ahead, but the very thought of an irreversible procedure to a major organ does fill me with all kinds of terror and misgiving! i am having the surgery consult this coming tuesday; to be honest i had no idea i would even gain access to a surgeon this rapidly, and i haven't discussed this yet with anyone beyond my husband (briefly). i am in canada and would have to wait many years for an insured procedure as the waiting list is long and is prioritized from the heaviest patient down, so this will most likely be self-pay, thereby adding a whole new level of stress (and i guess investment)! pleasure to meet you, and i look forward to our journey - xo shimmer