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Jiggley, I too have lack of spousal support. When I first started my quest to have the surgery, I thought my husband was on board with me. The night before surgery, he voiced his concerns to me, and I cancelled the surgery. My husband had talked to some of his friends who all had stories of someone they knew who had complications. Lizster mentioned the press talking about all that can go wrong with gastric bypass. I too agree that there is heresay that gets started about lapband because people aren't differentiating the two surgeries. I think this happened in my case with my husband. I am going to include my husband this time around with doctor visits to allow him to get information first hand from the doc. I didn't do that last time. Hope this helps you. Lynn

I would really like to tell my 10 year old daughter. She's very mature, and I believe that she would understand, but my seven year old is still a little young. Another problem with telling them is that they would probably talk about it in front of family members. I'm going to continue to think about it, and focus on what would be in my children's best interest. Lynn

Thank you to everyone who responded to this thread. All of the words of support and advice given have been very helpful. Lynn

I haven't had lapbanding yet, and if I do, I can't decide if I am going to tell my kids about it. My daughters are 7 and 10 yrs old. The 10 year old has a weight problem, and I don't want to send either of my children the wrong message about being overweight. However, I don't want to feel like I'm lying if I have the surgery. The kids will wonder where I am the night that I stay in the hospital. They will also notice that I'm not eating the same kinds of foods that they are eating during meals. What has anyone done in this situation?

LapBandit, Thank you for your words of support and advice. I am going to ask many many questions, and this time I am going to ask my husband to go to dr. visits with me. I think (hope) he will be reassured when we discuss the details with the dr. Thanks again. Lynn

Dear 40goinon20, That is wonderful! Good Luck! I am envious. Lynn

I want to have the lapband done, but I am afraid. I was set to do this a month and a half ago, and my husband asked me not to. He was talking to his friends about it, and they told him horror stories of people that had it done. I cancelled my surgery the night before I was schedulled to have it done. Please tell me how anyone has felt emontionally before the surgery and after. Lynn

Thank you as well allaboutme and Sonata, and anyone else that I haven't responded to and thanked! Carolyn

Mal, CoolAddict, and FatAttack, thank you for your words of support. I feel so much encouragment from everyone who has participated in this discussion. I really do want to pursue the lap band, and I am going to make an appointment tomorrow! Carolyn

Hi FA! (FatAttack, I don't want to call you that.) I'm am younger than you, but please don't call yourself old! I work in a hospital, and see many women around you age having lapband or gastric bypass surgery. I am so proud of you! Hang in there. Carolyn

Will, Thank you for your support. Your comments help alot. Carolyn

Thank you Jack and Cazulay your words of support are very uplifting!

Dear BaileyRex, I too am very private and I felt intimidated about posting. After you see the support and advice people give, you will not hesitate to join in. Good Luck!