Camella

It's really strange that I am reading this post. I haven't been on here for 3 months, mainly because I was struggling with my head and I haven't been the model of good sleeve behavior that I was for the first few months after surgery. This is the first thing I have read since logging back on.
I am almost nine months out and I have come to the hard cold realization that my body may have changed but my relationship with food is still the same. When I'm stressed it is still what soothes me and when I'm lonely it is still my friend. I wish that having the surgery was the end of this toxic relationship, however it was not a divorce, just a little bit of a cooling off period. After nine months (with my weight the same for the last two months) I have realized that this is as far as the surgery can take me. The rest is up to me and if I don't change my relationship with food, I am not going to get to my goal. I'm thrilled that I had the surgery and I'm thrilled that I have lost the weight, but sometimes I feel like I am living a lie, I look slim on the outside, but my head is in exactly the same place it was when I was 225 pounds. Thank you so much for sharing this post. I was scared to come back on here because it was always such a source of inspiration for me and I did not want to discourage others and I assumed that others would not want me to discourage them. BUT.....being honest with others and being honest with yourself is a huge step forward. Thanks Dooter!

It's really strange that I am reading this post. I haven't been on here for 3 months, mainly because I was struggling with my head and I haven't been the model of good sleeve behavior that I was for the first few months after surgery. This is the first thing I have read since logging back on.
I am almost nine months out and I have come to the hard cold realization that my body may have changed but my relationship with food is still the same. When I'm stressed it is still what soothes me and when I'm lonely it is still my friend. I wish that having the surgery was the end of this toxic relationship, however it was not a divorce, just a little bit of a cooling off period. After nine months (with my weight the same for the last two months) I have realized that this is as far as the surgery can take me. The rest is up to me and if I don't change my relationship with food, I am not going to get to my goal. I'm thrilled that I had the surgery and I'm thrilled that I have lost the weight, but sometimes I feel like I am living a lie, I look slim on the outside, but my head is in exactly the same place it was when I was 225 pounds. Thank you so much for sharing this post. I was scared to come back on here because it was always such a source of inspiration for me and I did not want to discourage others and I assumed that others would not want me to discourage them. BUT.....being honest with others and being honest with yourself is a huge step forward. Thanks Dooter!

Oh I feel your pain. Most of my eating is driven by stress and anxiety and being sleeved has certainly not changed that. Don't worry about the twix, worry when you having them daily, which unfortunately I have been doing lately. I am learning the hard way that I need to completely change my relationship with food and develop new tools to deal with stress. But don't beat yourself up, this is a journey with ups and downs, as long as you learn and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Oh I feel your pain. Most of my eating is driven by stress and anxiety and being sleeved has certainly not changed that. Don't worry about the twix, worry when you having them daily, which unfortunately I have been doing lately. I am learning the hard way that I need to completely change my relationship with food and develop new tools to deal with stress. But don't beat yourself up, this is a journey with ups and downs, as long as you learn and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

I'm so inspired to see so many updates from people that had their surgery at the same time as me. I have found the last few months really challenging. I have not lost any weight for the last couple of months, which is entirely due to some bad habits coming back (with full force). I have avoided coming on here for months as I wasn't really wanting to be honest with myself. Reading your updates has given me some hope! I want to recommit myself to staying the course and changing my relationship with food and being healthy (my ultimate goal!). Thanks xx

It's sad that the medical community have these types of prejudices against weight loss surgery (and the obese sometimes). It is sad that some health care professionals see obesity as a personal failing rather than a potentially deadly disease. WLS is the only thing that will cure someone of diabetes. I was advised against surgery by several doctors, fortunately I didn't listen and I'm the most physically fit I have been in my adult life. The last doctor I saw didn't even know what sleeve surgery was. She kept correcting me and saying "you mean lapband" - very sad!

It's really strange that I am reading this post. I haven't been on here for 3 months, mainly because I was struggling with my head and I haven't been the model of good sleeve behavior that I was for the first few months after surgery. This is the first thing I have read since logging back on.
I am almost nine months out and I have come to the hard cold realization that my body may have changed but my relationship with food is still the same. When I'm stressed it is still what soothes me and when I'm lonely it is still my friend. I wish that having the surgery was the end of this toxic relationship, however it was not a divorce, just a little bit of a cooling off period. After nine months (with my weight the same for the last two months) I have realized that this is as far as the surgery can take me. The rest is up to me and if I don't change my relationship with food, I am not going to get to my goal. I'm thrilled that I had the surgery and I'm thrilled that I have lost the weight, but sometimes I feel like I am living a lie, I look slim on the outside, but my head is in exactly the same place it was when I was 225 pounds. Thank you so much for sharing this post. I was scared to come back on here because it was always such a source of inspiration for me and I did not want to discourage others and I assumed that others would not want me to discourage them. BUT.....being honest with others and being honest with yourself is a huge step forward. Thanks Dooter!

It's sad that the medical community have these types of prejudices against weight loss surgery (and the obese sometimes). It is sad that some health care professionals see obesity as a personal failing rather than a potentially deadly disease. WLS is the only thing that will cure someone of diabetes. I was advised against surgery by several doctors, fortunately I didn't listen and I'm the most physically fit I have been in my adult life. The last doctor I saw didn't even know what sleeve surgery was. She kept correcting me and saying "you mean lapband" - very sad!

It's really strange that I am reading this post. I haven't been on here for 3 months, mainly because I was struggling with my head and I haven't been the model of good sleeve behavior that I was for the first few months after surgery. This is the first thing I have read since logging back on.
I am almost nine months out and I have come to the hard cold realization that my body may have changed but my relationship with food is still the same. When I'm stressed it is still what soothes me and when I'm lonely it is still my friend. I wish that having the surgery was the end of this toxic relationship, however it was not a divorce, just a little bit of a cooling off period. After nine months (with my weight the same for the last two months) I have realized that this is as far as the surgery can take me. The rest is up to me and if I don't change my relationship with food, I am not going to get to my goal. I'm thrilled that I had the surgery and I'm thrilled that I have lost the weight, but sometimes I feel like I am living a lie, I look slim on the outside, but my head is in exactly the same place it was when I was 225 pounds. Thank you so much for sharing this post. I was scared to come back on here because it was always such a source of inspiration for me and I did not want to discourage others and I assumed that others would not want me to discourage them. BUT.....being honest with others and being honest with yourself is a huge step forward. Thanks Dooter!

EXACTLY. Hey we're all in it together and this place is about truth, support and encouragement. I haven't lost anything in a year and a half and I didn't want to come back on here either, but I had a burden for this truth that I was realizing, so by Providence you have come upon it and I'm glad it is helpful. The rest of our lives are going to be a lot of work in regards to food and exercise. We can do it though never give up!

It's sad that the medical community have these types of prejudices against weight loss surgery (and the obese sometimes). It is sad that some health care professionals see obesity as a personal failing rather than a potentially deadly disease. WLS is the only thing that will cure someone of diabetes. I was advised against surgery by several doctors, fortunately I didn't listen and I'm the most physically fit I have been in my adult life. The last doctor I saw didn't even know what sleeve surgery was. She kept correcting me and saying "you mean lapband" - very sad!

It's sad that the medical community have these types of prejudices against weight loss surgery (and the obese sometimes). It is sad that some health care professionals see obesity as a personal failing rather than a potentially deadly disease. WLS is the only thing that will cure someone of diabetes. I was advised against surgery by several doctors, fortunately I didn't listen and I'm the most physically fit I have been in my adult life. The last doctor I saw didn't even know what sleeve surgery was. She kept correcting me and saying "you mean lapband" - very sad!

It's sad that the medical community have these types of prejudices against weight loss surgery (and the obese sometimes). It is sad that some health care professionals see obesity as a personal failing rather than a potentially deadly disease. WLS is the only thing that will cure someone of diabetes. I was advised against surgery by several doctors, fortunately I didn't listen and I'm the most physically fit I have been in my adult life. The last doctor I saw didn't even know what sleeve surgery was. She kept correcting me and saying "you mean lapband" - very sad!

I'm in too - just the motivation I need!

It's really strange that I am reading this post. I haven't been on here for 3 months, mainly because I was struggling with my head and I haven't been the model of good sleeve behavior that I was for the first few months after surgery. This is the first thing I have read since logging back on.
I am almost nine months out and I have come to the hard cold realization that my body may have changed but my relationship with food is still the same. When I'm stressed it is still what soothes me and when I'm lonely it is still my friend. I wish that having the surgery was the end of this toxic relationship, however it was not a divorce, just a little bit of a cooling off period. After nine months (with my weight the same for the last two months) I have realized that this is as far as the surgery can take me. The rest is up to me and if I don't change my relationship with food, I am not going to get to my goal. I'm thrilled that I had the surgery and I'm thrilled that I have lost the weight, but sometimes I feel like I am living a lie, I look slim on the outside, but my head is in exactly the same place it was when I was 225 pounds. Thank you so much for sharing this post. I was scared to come back on here because it was always such a source of inspiration for me and I did not want to discourage others and I assumed that others would not want me to discourage them. BUT.....being honest with others and being honest with yourself is a huge step forward. Thanks Dooter!

I'm so inspired to see so many updates from people that had their surgery at the same time as me. I have found the last few months really challenging. I have not lost any weight for the last couple of months, which is entirely due to some bad habits coming back (with full force). I have avoided coming on here for months as I wasn't really wanting to be honest with myself. Reading your updates has given me some hope! I want to recommit myself to staying the course and changing my relationship with food and being healthy (my ultimate goal!). Thanks xx

I'm so inspired to see so many updates from people that had their surgery at the same time as me. I have found the last few months really challenging. I have not lost any weight for the last couple of months, which is entirely due to some bad habits coming back (with full force). I have avoided coming on here for months as I wasn't really wanting to be honest with myself. Reading your updates has given me some hope! I want to recommit myself to staying the course and changing my relationship with food and being healthy (my ultimate goal!). Thanks xx

It's really strange that I am reading this post. I haven't been on here for 3 months, mainly because I was struggling with my head and I haven't been the model of good sleeve behavior that I was for the first few months after surgery. This is the first thing I have read since logging back on.
I am almost nine months out and I have come to the hard cold realization that my body may have changed but my relationship with food is still the same. When I'm stressed it is still what soothes me and when I'm lonely it is still my friend. I wish that having the surgery was the end of this toxic relationship, however it was not a divorce, just a little bit of a cooling off period. After nine months (with my weight the same for the last two months) I have realized that this is as far as the surgery can take me. The rest is up to me and if I don't change my relationship with food, I am not going to get to my goal. I'm thrilled that I had the surgery and I'm thrilled that I have lost the weight, but sometimes I feel like I am living a lie, I look slim on the outside, but my head is in exactly the same place it was when I was 225 pounds. Thank you so much for sharing this post. I was scared to come back on here because it was always such a source of inspiration for me and I did not want to discourage others and I assumed that others would not want me to discourage them. BUT.....being honest with others and being honest with yourself is a huge step forward. Thanks Dooter!

I've been married twice (happily the second time). But I believe that your heart knows the answer (what ever that may be). Sometimes it is hard to hear what our heart is trying to tell us. You are a beautiful women and from your posts you sound like you are becoming courageous and strong. I'm sure you will make the right decision! Trust yourself

I am also facing a psychological battle. For whatever reason I have spent the last couple of weeks sabotaging myself. Otherwise feeling great and down 72lbs (Surgery date: 1 July). I can also eat virtually anything I like now which is a mixed blessing.

i think it is because we have spent so long using food as a source of happiness (at least I did) and after being sleeved it becomes a source of energy (nothing more) and it does take a bit of the fun out of eating. I still go in search of that food hit, but Protein just doesn't cut it when you are looking for a food high

i think it is because we have spent so long using food as a source of happiness (at least I did) and after being sleeved it becomes a source of energy (nothing more) and it does take a bit of the fun out of eating. I still go in search of that food hit, but Protein just doesn't cut it when you are looking for a food high

I feel compelled to respond to your post because your story is similar to mine. I literally became a prisoner in my own house because of the self loathing I had for myself and I missed so many special events as a result. I told people that I was having gallbladder surgery. People asked very few questions. I may one day choose to share my story with more people but for now I don't feel comfortable sharing with everyone. With gallbladder surgery it is also laparoscopic and similar recovery time. good luck

It took me about five or six weeks to feel semi-normal in terms of my energy. The good news is that once the weight starts to come off you will have three times as much energy as you did before surgery. Take it easy and don't push yourself too much.

I think that I have to accept that I am the same. I wish I could have the occasional piece of chocolate but unfortunately I still find my self control around this type of food is really low and If eat any type of carb I spend the remainder of the day fighting off sugar cravings.