Andrea757

Update.... Sleeved 7/1.
SW: 280
CW: 189.4
Celebrated 90 lbs lost on my 5 month surgiversary.
:-D
Weight loss is beginning to slow down, I hope that means my hair will be back soon.

Update.... Sleeved 7/1.
SW: 280
CW: 189.4
Celebrated 90 lbs lost on my 5 month surgiversary.
:-D
Weight loss is beginning to slow down, I hope that means my hair will be back soon.

I was in the same boat. I didn't drop a size until around 30 or more lbs. I think I was just stuffing myself into my size 20 pants!

I was sleeved outpatient by dr Clark on 7-16...no problems and he is WONDERFUL! I was very happy with him as my surgeon and really love his staff.

My husband and I have been together for 8 years this coming September... that is if we don't file for divorce before then. Both of us had the surgery, and we are both doing amazing with it. The surgery is not the reason we are getting divorced, the surgery is the reason I was able to realize I deserved more. That sounds bad, I know. But there are very big reasons on why I am filing for divorce, and it's hard to explain without saying exactly why. I will always love him as a friend, and I know for our kids we can keep close and work together, but there will never be anything more than a good friendship. With all that said... I have had a lot of attention since I've had the surgery and have lost all this weight. This is why my husband got the surgery, because he was jealous of the attention I was getting, and he openly admits that. The losing all this weight made me realize that I did not have to settle for this marriage. From the beginning he has ben unaffectionate and I've carried everything. He says his only job is to bring home the paycheck. He wasn't even interested in having sex until we decided to have our first child (and I would of not even had children with him had I known what he was keeping from me). So I have a friend at work that is always complimenting me and telling me how beautiful I am, etc. I am not involved with this guy outside of just being friends, but it really got me thinking about how one day I will meet someone that I will want to have that relationship with. I know that without having the surgery and losing the weight I would of never had the confidence to finally stand up to him and say "This is not what I want, I'm tired of being so unhappy and what you have done to me is wrong." I don't know if my story helps you at all, but I hope it gives you some hope that even if your marriage doesn't work, you are doing this for YOU and no one else.

The issue of the non-affection has been going on for much longer than I have even been considering surgery. And this is the second time he has been diagnosed with depression (the first time being before we were together). He has never been an overly affectionate person, but it has been a lot worse this past year or so. Your post doesn't sound overly harsh, I think I take criticism very well. :-) I guess I'm really hoping that if I loose a bunch of weight he will show more interest in me again, and being with us as a family. It gets old doing everything "as a family" but he is never with us, and if he is, he is emotionally distant.