StacieM

I felt like I could share here my horrific story that still haunts me. About 5 years ago my boyfriend (now ex) gave me a wonderful birthday present of taking my sky diving, since it was what I always wanted to do. When I went online to do out reservations I started reading and found out i was about 10-15 pounds too heavy to go. I really wanted to go with an instructor tandem (much safer) and well I just couldn't. I was so glad when a few weeks later I broke my foot and could not go. He was 6'6" and weighed all of 169 pounds. He was a runner who could eat everything and not gain a pound. HE is now with a girl who can sky dive... makes me sad. Needless to say seem to be still in the same situation, in a boot cast for a messed up foot just like that time almost 5 years ago. Makes it hard to loose the weight all on your own when you can't excercise on your foot. Got my fingers crossed that insurance says yes and that next year I will be not only skydiving tandem but be so damn good that I go all by myself!:tongue:

I know this may not make sense for you, but your post inpsired me. When we are over weight, an not always a low self esteem, we settle for what we think we can get. It sounds like you love this man, but that you now know that he is not right for you. Nothing to do with the lap band, just loosing the weight has changed your priorities for you. Embrace your new prospects. Yes moving on is always scary, but you feel good about yourself and look great so you deserve a chance to have men interested in you for more than just your personality. Maybe this boyfriend is really meant to just be your bestfriend. Sounds like a great guy who just have different goals, which makes him a just a friend. Either way, I wish you the best. Expect good days and bad days. Don't blame the band and stay positive. Children are not out of reach and neither is the perfect mate. Congrats on the weight loss.

Hi Vivian.... type his name in on the search... you will find LOTS on him. Most people love him, a few don't. He wrote a really good book to read too.

I was wondering if you ever got anywhere with Medi-cal? I gave up for a while (depressed) but am trying to get it started again. So how did it go? Any luck getting them to do the surgery?

Just by curiosity, what did you get your degre in? Wonder if we ever crossed paths? Keep up the good work....

Congrats on your date and GO WILDCATS!!!! (Class of 1995)

So may I ask... how did your DH's surgery go? How is he doing? And why did you choose a different doctor?

Ok so bad news... my ex husband (who provided my health insurance) got fired, I loose my insurance at the end of the month. I am trying to figure out if I might get approved and if I should pay the COBRA (self pay the insurance but it wil be $$$$).... life sucks now...

Bel for so young you are so wise. Thanks for making me laugh, yes I imagined my boobs choking me.. yikes. I have always been large chested (and its not my weight, mom was stacked and really thin...lol) but I am excited at thwm being big and me thinner... It may not ever be a "hot body" but it will me beautiful and make someone else very happy!

Bel.... thanks for saying the slow thing isn't is always true. I know when i lost even 20 or 30 pounds before my boobs just hung farther down... lol... for me I definitely plan on a reduction/lift before anything else.

The skin... if you don't loose weight too rapidly your body can adjust to the excess skin and "absorb" it. Depending on how much and how fast there is a possibility that one will need plastic surgery to remove the excess skin and fat. As for the 2 weeks of liquids... it takes a few days (maybe 2-3) and you get over the need to eat or cheat. I promise you (I did my pre-op diet before cancelling my surgery before) it gets easier. I am still alive it doesn't kill you. Hang in there and know it does get easier and it will all be worth it. God luck.

Congrats to both of you. I was changed insurance and am starting this process all over. Was wondering since I have UHC Choice Plus as well and was wondering what you had to have to submit? Thanks ahead of time for your repsonses.