Sunshine0328

Find out what's causing you to regress. There's an issue that you aren't facing. It may be a really bad issue and you aren't ready to deal with it...but if you start by acknowledging it, then that's a start. After that you can refocus on your diet habits like Master said. You've beat yourself up, now get back to your goals.

Second guessing is normal and expected. It's good that you plan for your new life such as you do graduation (study), a wedding (planner or your mom...lol), a birth, and your retirement. I'm sure that having an "old food" will be tempting, but I'm with Linda, I want this new life to be as close to perfect (food wise) as possible. I've had my 26 years of bad eating I would like to live the next 26-30 eating properly and living life without all this fat.
Nice!! Keep your head up and your eyes on the goal of a healthy new life!
Haters gonna hate. You have to know that this TOOL that you've chosen is going to get you to your goal!!

But my mom wanted me to add her 2 cents..lol
She says, you should always ignore comments made in ignorance. If people don't know you had the surgery they will naturally think your sick or on drugs. She says WLS causes major changes and you can look completely different from month to month. She says don't be offended by their lack of experience with WLS results.
She says when they ask if you're sick, you should ask if they're stupid...well, they're both equally disturbing questions....I "mskeekee01" disagree with this statement..
Mskeekee01 says always smile and always take the high road!!!

I was at a luncheon and I had a lady comment on how much I've lost and then ask if I was losing on purpose. I laughed a bit and told her that I was absolutely losing it on purpose. She then paused, looked at me again and asked if I MEANT to lose weight. (B*tch, please. I was 264 pounds at 5'3". YES. I MEANT to lose weight.)
About ten minutes later, she interrupted my conversation to ask me AGAIN if I was intentionally losing weight. I looked at her, told her that I did NOT have cancer, I did not have a thyroid disorder, I did not have HIV, Addison's, Diabetes, etc. I told her I was sick and tired of being fat and I was LOSING WEIGHT ON PURPOSE and that she could reword her question in any way she wanted, my answer was not going to change.
Shut her up for the rest of the afternoon.

Jealousy. Post some before and after pix here and you'll get some affirmation.

For any believers out there I recommend reading "made to crave" by Lysa Terkeurst. It's been such a great help to me with the realities of head hunger and emotional eating/binging. I'm still post op (hoping for December sleeving) but I really need to get my mind right for this new lifelong journey. Been trying hard to not drink while eating and limiting simple carbs... It's hard, I had an apple fritter and caramel iced coffee from DD today but I won't beat myself up about it cause I'm human and I'm planning to put forth extra effort in my spin class tomorrow (:

I couldn't say it any better. It's def. a life style change. You have to want it more then the next person. One of the first things my Dr. said to me after surgery was "The easy part is done. Now starts the hard part." Basically saying taking a portion of your stomach out is easy, adjusting your life is the hard part. That statement has stuck with me. Take it day by day and give 110%

@ Sunshine yes it is! 11/11 is my day. I just finished day 3 of the pre op diet.

Thanks Jules....this is what I needed to hear..... I need to know you can fail, but if you give it your all, hopefully you get the great results you want. Thanks for being so honest about the food, chips, etc. I am so scared of the what if's...what if i fall back into the old routine.

It is very normal to be thinking you will be one of the few people who dont succeed with the sleeve. just over two months ago i was thinking the same thing going into it. I am now about 2 months and 1 week out and i STILL have those thoughts. why? the sleeve isnt a miracle, i already find myself regressing back to old habits. surgery will not take away all your cravings and hunger. maybe the first couple weeks, but it will change. i have no problems eating food and if i wanted to snack on chips all day, i could. maybe a little at a time, but i still could. it requires hard work and i find that out more and more everyday. it is not easy, and it is not a "cure". i fight for every pound i lose. but it does help get your mind right in the beginning, its up for you for it to stay that way. and i battle with that all the time. but i wish you the best of luck!!

I have the same concerns but because I've successfully lost significant weight (90+ pounds only to regain some and lose some and gain again) in the past I'm hoping i won't be one of those "still fat" post- opers. The reality with WLS is that many who go through it don't really exercise (I know at least 3 women who never or rarely do) so their weightloss isn't maximized or significant ... I plan to incorporate fitness and Portion Control the best way I can with prayer and discipline so I can maximize my weightloss AND keep it off (the hardest part for me)

I think that is my problem too, getting close to surgery and second guessing, questioning everything...wondering if i will fail...or do good. So many people put negative stuff in my head!!!!!

I am having the same thoughts and fears and I think this is normal. I plan to strictly adhere to the diet the best I can. I know we all will slip, but I want this surgery so bad that I am praying for the miracle of everything going as planned and looking good again. Good luck!

I have 10 days of pre op liquid diet so I haven't started yet, but am very excited to do so!!! I have another dr visit tomorrow the Friday starts my liquid diet! It's just around the corner! Definitely going to eat some homemade bread for Halloween though

Hi there!! Looks like I'll have some company with me the week of Nov 11th (my surgery date)!!
I'm getting more and more excited about this...
Detox is going wonderfully!

I am scheduled for November 20th in Tijuana! Super nervous, but very excited!

Our Facebook November support group is shaping up really well..lots of hand holding.. up to 50 members.. always welcome new ones:-) We would also
love a few more men on board, admit they are currently quite outnumbered. Message me your email if you are interested in an invite!
Good luck all of our Friday sleevers..Sending good thoughts!

My pre op appt is tomorrow and surgery is Monday 11/4. So excited!!! Getting surgery in Victoria, Tx. W/ Dr. McDaniel

Oh by the way I'm a November girl too (the 13th)
and yes I know it gets harder. I have my struggles too..

Ok brush it off! No use beating up on yourself now. You still have the sleeve.
This is going to be hard trust me. But cut out all the crap cold turkey. Don't starve yourself but fill up on lean Protein and veg only. It's going to take awhile to get over those cravings but once you do. It will be easier to to stick to a clean diet and start losing again.

So happy for all the November Sleevers! Please continue to post after surgery! Good luck and God bless!

It really is a personal choice. I also won't lie about my surgery if asked, but there are some people I did not share it with. I am proud of my decision to have surgery. It was a positive pro-active step in my owning where my health was and doing something about it.
Sunshine hit it on the head. This is a tool. You make it successful or not. You have to do the work and make the lifelong changes. Anyone that says it is a cop out, is uninformed. period. That is where I drew the line at who I told. Those close to me that I knew to be open minded and accepting of things they didn't know about, I felt comfortable sharing with. Before I shared with anyone, I had all my own questions answered and knew I could speak from a place of knowledge and facts. I know a bunch of folks that believe what they believe and that is it. I also know people who talk too much about other people's business without all the facts. Those two sets of people I don't share any personal information with. It is my news to share or not share and I asked those I told to respect that.
I also have a very close friend who was not as supportive as I had hoped, nothing really negative, but absolutely nothing positive either. Oh well. I can be happy enough for the two of us on this one. I try not to let it effect the friendship. You are making a very positive decision for YOU. Try not to let other's shortcomings influence your feelings on this. If you know you have all your information, and are confident in your surgeon and your ability to follow through, then take comfort in that. Anyone who can't get on board, then you'll have to take this trip without them.
Stay strong and good luck on Thursday!!

I have made the decision not to share with people as well. I do not want people thinking I am too lazy to get up and work out. This is my last resort, many people do not understand that. So I choose to keep my trap shut...
However, Sunshine0328 you made a great point! Perhaps I may change my mind after reading that...!

My date is Nov 11th!! I'm on the detox diet. I even got a bit excited today when I added my ticker!!
All labs are great, the pre-op doc appointment is done. I'm just waiting on the visit with anesthesia doc.

I too told a very dear friend about this surgery and my desire to have it done. Right away I felt her bristle and then she stated that she thought I was using it as a cop out and that I just wasn't trying hard enough.
First off, she's as heavy as I am. Second, she has no clue of my struggle, my pains, my tears, my desire to live like the thinner inner person that I am. I have mulled over her words, they gnawed at me. Then the PA said something that made perfectly good sense. This procedure is a tool. A tool to help you achieve your goal!
So who couldn't use a tool to help them. Cars are tools. Clothing, jewelry, shoes, the gym, diets, exercise, etc. are all TOOLS!! We can use whatever tool we see fit that will get us to our goal.
So I am proudly going to have this surgery and I will gladly share my story with anyone who asks. If there are those who are too narrow minded to see that this tool is helping me to become a healthier person, then that's theIr dumb ass loss, I refuse to allow that negativity to slow my roll! LOL
Oh, and that "friend" has stopped calling/texting etc. since she now has a plump boyfriend to share her lifestyle with (eating). Let's see who's healthier and happier this time next year!