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You won't be sorry that you chose to go to him. He is wonderful, as is Dr. Gabe and his other staff.

Best food ever for a sleever..... Lobster in the shell.
Takes a long time to eat.
Not much food.< /p>
Soft Protein.
Yummy!

My fiance and I are both getting sleeved the same day--Sept 30th. I think it'll make the pre-op dieting and all the stages easier by going through it together.

My fiance and I are both getting sleeved the same day--Sept 30th. I think it'll make the pre-op dieting and all the stages easier by going through it together.

Hi, I'm Amy, I've been a Psych Nurse for 38 years. I too spent several years working in Corrections. That was a fun job, but I hated the 12 hour shifts. I had surgery 15 days ago with Dr. Alvarez. I'm going back to work on Monday. Michelle.... you're gonna be in great hands. Call Susan and find out who your "sleeve sister" is going to be. I hooked up with both my "sisters" on line and on the phone. When I got to San Antonio it was like meeting old friends again. We went through everything together and have become great friends. We spent 2 hours on the phone last night on a 3 way call. I'm in Orlando, Linda is in Kentucky, and Nancy is in California. It was a great experience. Dr. Alvarez and his staff are amazing. You couldn't be in better hands. The three of us traveled alone... but we were together through the whole process. My Boyfriend wanted to come with me, and I'm glad I told him to stay home.

Wow. This is like deja vu. I've been exactly where you are. With a guy for 10 years - the loveliest guy, kind, considerate etc. Towards the end of our relationship I was lusting after almost anything male and sleeping with my boyfriend repulsed me because it felt like I was sleeping with my brother! It was unkind of me to keep staying with him just because we were in a kind of happy habit. In the end I did break it off, a few months later I met the lust (and love) of my life, and 15 years on we are still in lust (and love). It is kinder to him to break off now, in my humble and completely unprofessional opinion. Let him find someone who lusts after him just the way he is.

OH wow...this is tough. Not easy to answer, but I don't suggest marrying a guy that you will be divorcing or wishing you could divorce. Life would be hell going into it with the feelings you have already. Not saying you should just give up and dump him, but consider your future, and his, if you go through with it to spare his feelings, or money. (not that you would.....)
I've been married 13 years, and together with my husband for 17, and I am only more attracted to him every day. Have been since the moment I laid eyes on him. Literally. I told the girl standing next to me, "THAT'S the guy I'm gonna marry!!" And i did. He makes my heart go "pitty pat" and when I do the laundry, I take extra time to smell his shirts! My "happy place" is laying with him on the couch, my head on his chest. I could stay there forever. I can't imagine being without him.
That's how marriage should feel. :wub: :wub: :wub:

I've been married for about 12 years now. I am still very physically attracted to my husband, although he has gained some weight. His weight fluctuates though.
Prior to my marriage, I lived with a guy, and even relocated 1500 miles to be with him. Here is what I learned from that:
If you are not married, and you are not attracted (physically) to your mate, you should move on. You can say you will rely on him being a "nice guy" or having the best sense of humor, whatever, but in reality, physical attraction does matter. Especially in the early years.
You have to decide what is important to you. If an attractive and trim mate is important, then you should seek that.
If he plans to get married in Antarctica, and you are not sure, then the trip sounds like hell for both of you.
$3,000 is a lot of money for a trip, but in the big scheme of things, you will recover from the $3,000 loss pretty quick. Don't make a life decision based upon $3,000.

I also have an IUD and no longer had a cycle....until I was sleeved! I've had 2 normal periods since being sleeved June 3. I hope they go away, it's the best part of having an IUD:)

Wait I just realized this was my very first topic. LOL

I took three weeks off , mind you my job is in healthcare im with patients all day and i do 12 hour shifts and running around alot its very physically demanding. I should have taken 4.

I just got my first "you're losing too much weight" comment today. I ran into someone I haven't seen since I was sleeved, she told me how good I looked and told me not to lose anymore weight. I told her I still need to lose at least another 40. She said no just stop now! you're going to look sick! Now I'm 198 @ 5'3 so far from being a healthy weight... which is what I'm aiming for!

Where should we all hook up and talk about how we are doing after surgery? This site? I am Sept 10th with Dr Alvarez in Mex. Anyone else on Sept 10th with him? I know he only does a couple of them a day, anyone on the 9th or 11th with him? I am so looking forward to this......my "fear", nausea, vomiting and a leak. I only hear good things about my surgeon and with great outcomes. I am praying!
My benefit? Let me count the ways....for one, to get back out in the world and feel good about myself, instead of going to work and back home. To wear the clothes hanging in my closet. To socialize, to travel with smaller clothes that i can mix and match easily. To go visit family and feel proud instead of not going because "I don't have anything to wear". To look forward to going places instead of dreading it. To being more active, get into a excercise routine. To getting out of bed on my days off, to being more healthy and being present in my life and live it!
I could go on and on about the benefit. I think about that more than looking at "what food I don't get to eat and the quantity that i eat" anymore. I hate it every time I drive thru to get Cookies to eat at work and hide them so others don't see me eating them. The shame of getting bigger and bigger. My scrubs getting tighter and tighter. My bras getting tighter and digging into my back. The good certainly out weigh the "bad". I am ready to get out of bed and come out of the closet.....or back into my closet and be able to wear what is in there! I want to be honest some day about the secret hell I have put myself through, hope to help others come to terms with their "hell"
And praying that we all will have great outcomes, no leaks, minimal nausea, pain and minimal tears.

I'm nervous about the actual surgery. The closer I get the more I realized no amount of internet searching or worrying is going to change the actual outcome of the surgery.
I worry about leaving my 16 month old without a mother and my husband without someone to love and take care of him.
I'm more excited at this point. I want to take dance classes again, go on hikes, bike. Workout comfortably. I want to finish school with my major in fashion design. I let my weight stop me from finishing too many things and I'm ready to not have my weight dictate what I feel I'm worthy of. I'm 25 and I want to enjoy the rest of my years and participate in things every fit, young person should! No not weekend pub crawls...I would love to do a mud or color run one day soon!

I'm anxious that I'll go through all this and not lose weight or experience issues as a result of the surgery. I'm anxious about having surgery - never fun, but I don't think it's going to be that big a deal really.
All that aside, my excitement outweighs everything else. Everyone I've talked to who've had the surgery all say they wished they'd done it sooner. I'm ready to take my life back. I am fortunate because I am active and can do most things I want but I am looking forward to having stamina - getting down on the floor and not groaning when I get back up. Getting off my high blood pressure medicine, not worrying if I'll fit in rides at the amusement park. Most of all...I'm excited to fit in cute clothes. (I don't care what you say - large sizes are made to make you look...large & dowdy)

Hi I am new to the group. This is my first post. So strange. Literally as I was reading down through these posts the surgeon's office called and said I got my insurance approval. I am scheduled for September 12th for the sleeve!

I just found out today that I am tentatively scheduled for September30th. I am excited and scared.

Read lots and lots. I systematically read every thread on the first page of every forum here, and some of them, I read more than that. You have to prepare yourself. All the resources are here. At first I asked questions, and then I realized most of my questions had been patiently answered by helpful people over and over. They'd also answered questions I hadn't yet thought to ask in other threads. I learn so much on this forum daily, it's very empowering.
You'll do fine

I've heard that from people on and off my whole life depending on what my weight was doing at that time. I have an unbeatable answer that I guarantee you, will make them drop the topic.
I simply tell them they only think that because they haven't seen me naked
GUARANTEED conversation stopper, esp if you say that to people at work. I'm evil that way

Why am I ashamed that I had to have this surgery? Why am I not comfortable telling people that I had WLS? I am very open about my life and my choices, I don't seek other's approval nearly as much as some do, and I know I did the right thing for myself.
So what's the hang up here?
I've been wrestling with this since before the surgery. I've told a few close friends and family, but I live my life out in the open, it's one of my "trademarks" that I am very open about life and emotions—all except for WLS. I have no idea what I will tell people when they notice. And my time is running out. I'll be back on the road pretty soon, and I'm already down 20 lbs, so it's not too long before someone is going to say something (although they all swear they don't realize I've put on 45 lbs in the last year so who knows.)
I'm very driven, very type-A, very goal-oriented. If I want something, I go after it with a single-mindedness and a sense of purpose that is hard to miss. But here's the thing. I went after weight-loss with a vengeance too. I can't tell you how many different things I've tried in the last 4 years. One month is was all Paleo (put on 10 lbs). Then it was all vegetarian (lost nothing). Then it was Fuhrman's recommendations (blood sugar went up 20 points, lost nothing). Then it was everything in moderation, calories down to 1200 (lost nothing). On and on and on.
And then that very Quest to reach my goals led me to WLS. So however I get there, I am (probably) going to hit my goal to lose weight. Mission Accomplished, right?
So why don't I see it that way? Why am I ashamed that I have to admit I could not lose it on my own, and had to have surgery? Is it because I think it makes me come across as someone with no self-control? Trust me, I have self-control, that was not the issue. Is it because I think people will see me as a failure? Trust me, everyone who knows me professionally knows I am not a failure.
So what is it??
My husband had the best analogy today. He said to look at it as troubleshooting. That I kept trying this and that, and everything else, and I finally found something that looks like it will work. So take pride in your persistence, and in finding a solution and be happy. He's totally right.
So why do I still feel ashamed that I had to have this surgery?
I know somebody else on here has to have gone through the same thing and come out on the winning side, and I would love to hear your experiences. Thanks in advance for helping me.

So very sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in all the great memories you shared with him.

So very sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in all the great memories you shared with him.

Thanks Coco, it does indeed. To be honest, I share most of my bizarre thoughts, most of the time. Just maybe not ones so personal. After all, how could you even bring in to general conversation 'yes, I have a big belly that hangs like a once pregnant cats and if you stretched it out enough, you could more than likely cover a sofa with it!'. Some segue's are impossible to achieve - even for me! x