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Hit 165 today. 15lbs to goal!!!!

@it's not u it's me. Thank you for your candid response and I do agree with you. I have no intentions of cheating on my husband. I'm just very saddened and disappointed. I went thru hell and back to get this surgery and had a very rough recovery. I even lost my job over it because I was not covered under disability at work. But I am amazed at myself to see in just 10 short weeks the weight I've lost and the transformation has been just awesome and so exciting. When my husband met me 8 years ago I weighed 130 which was my normal weight pretty much my entire adult life' date=' wore a size 6 and never in my wildest dreams would have ever thought that by age 33 I would weigh almost 300 lbs after moving to good old deep fried Texas. But it happened. I watched my husband pull away for 7 years and again at one point told me that if i didn't lose the weight he'd leave, once again he

never did physically leave but he checked out long ago. So here I am today wearing a size 14 and only 60 lbs away from my goa weight and what do I get from

him....nothing...I don't understand...I am happy again, I'm ready to tackle the world, I'm pursueing my dream and enrolling in nursing school but all I get once in a blue moon is "you look pretty". And he says it with no enthusiasm. I guess I'm just not understanding. I did this for 2 reasons number 1 my health and 2 my marriage, to give not just me but my husband back the women he fell head over heals for. He always used to tell me how beautiful i was and took me places and romanced me, he was so in love with me. He says he still is and wants to be with me and makes things better but those have been just words, no action. So as I feel so sexy and alive again I can't seem to get my husband to respond to me. I'm not arrogant or conceited about the situation, just excited and happy son why isnt he. This is what he wanted....I'm so confused and he's stealing my joy...i just don't know what to do anymore. I feel stuck....[/quote']

Have you told him how you feel? My hub and I are in a similar situation, but I gave him an honest reality check. He finally realized he had to make the decision whether he wants to be with me or not. He felt for so long that he was the one being mistreated in the relationship because I got fat. Poor him. Now he has realized he has to work to keep me because if he doesn't there is a line out the door of men who would be willing to fill that role.

Now I am at a crossroads of trying to decide whether I want this selfish person who before I felt so lucky to have. Not because he treated me well, but because I didn't think I deserved better. Now I know I do, and he knows that I know I do, because I was finally strong enough to tell him.

He is now trying harder every day, and I am not going to make it easier on him. Not ever again. He needs to work to keep me. I deserve that and more. I haven't answered the question of whether I stay or not, but he knows now what he wants. That makes me feel just a bit better I guess.

I didn't think wls would change my life. I only thought it would make me skinnier. I thought I was emotionally balanced and healthy. This experience has done a number on me.

Houston here.

Wow you look amazing.

I didn't feel like I would ever be here either but I feel better about myself every day. Never in my life have I had so much confidence. Feels good.

I wondered that too. We need more activity! How're you? I'm doing great' date=' three weeks post op so far and over 50 down since starting pre op diet.[/quote']

That's great and I am doing fantastic. Almost 7 months and 95lbs down. Feeling like I am closer to being a hottie every day. Lol

So quiet in Texas. How is everyone?

It's been a long time, but I had to come back for an update.

Pre surgery: 266.6

Day of: 251

Current: 172

Best part is that pre surgery I had shrunk to 5'5.5", but now I am back to 5'7". Feels great.

5 month surgiversary today. Down 80lbs overall, but only lost 6 in the last month. I am such a slacker. But some little wins:

Down to 33 minutes on my 5k

24 pants to 14

2x shirts to large

Need to snack less. I am trying to overcome my new personal fear of losing too fast. I have definitely been self sabotaging.

Reading everyone's posts today reminded me I need to track my food again to get back on track. I have 15lbs left to my first day of summer goal. I will make it!!!!!!!!!!!

Grrrrrr! 0.2 again away from my next goal. I always get stuck on that last 0.2. Sooo screw it. I am celebrating now. 79.8lbs down!!!! Woohoo.

Not quite as exciting as saying 80. Lol

I think it's really funny that a bunch of fat people like myself who had to resort to surgery to lose the weight suddenly become experts on the exactly correct way to eat. If we were experts we wouldn't be fat@sses in the first place.

I am almost afraid to admit I ate about 10 crackers with Peanut Butter over the course of this weekend in a PMS induced eating frenzy, for fear that someone will remember 8 months from now and cite it as my reason for not losing my last 3 pounds. I lost those three pounds this weekend, but those crackers will surely be the reason I can't get to goal.

Te hee!

Okay maybe it was 20 crackers, but who is counting.

Oh wait, someone is!!!!!!!!!

NGM....I'm not attacking you' date=' or doing any of the other things you said I did...but I am suggesting that you've been eating high carbs every since you've been posting here. And you've been a slow loser. Predominantly, people lose better on lower carbs. It might work for you. You may be a slow loser, and it's not a race. But you could possibly help yourself by lowering the carbs. If you want to follow your NUT and Doctor's advice to eat higher carbs, I cannot fault you for that. But from many many months ago, you've been posting about your higher carb intake AND losing very slowly. Perhaps the 2 are connected. You may have upped your carbs last week and had an immediate loss, but I have my doubts that it will continue to work in the long run. I think if it did, you would be the first. Varying calories and macro content can lead to immediate short term losses with anyone, but long term success is a pretty straight shot and it rarely involves higher carbs unless you are doing alot of exercise.

That's not me being negative or attacking you in anyway, just an observation from someone who paid attention in class and I won't apoligize for not being a dumbass...even though you will call me a know it all.[/quote']

That's really creepy. Even I don't monitor my own eating patterns that closely. If a complete stranger did, I would start to wonder.

CREEPY!

7lbs down so far 22 to go. This is not going well! Adding kickboxing to my workout routine. Running is not enough.

How has your post op been.

It's been excellent. I had some complications and was very well cared for. Dr. Hollis went as far as giving me his personal cell phone to keep in contact after hours. He is a very caring physician with great bedside manner. His pa Beth is nice but doesn't think outside the box well. She is however very responsive and enthusiastic.

Houston here too. Sleeved 12/6/12 with Dr. Hollis at Memorial Herman Southeast. Good to see some fellow Houstonians!

Going to try this. How many carbs?

Being "head hungry" is normal at this stage Im kinda going through that stage now but it's going away and I'm 6 days out. It's not healthy to eat cheese this early according to my doctor that's what gets patients back to where the started over weight because they try and eat food to early it leaves less room for weight loss. I have heard of people chewing up the food then spitting it out but not completely swallowing it. Be carful it can get stuck and you can get really sick

-Tarah

I do that. Chew it up then get rid of it. Lol

Well juice it!!!

These are great ideas!

Okay so I am going to give this a go. I know the scale has gone down 75 lbs.' date=' and I started out in a TIGHT size 32 & am now comfortably a size 24, and have had many other NSV over the past 4 months. I still don't see it. Someone recommended that I look at side by side pictures so here we go. 3 pictures are me at my highest weight of 418. One is 2 Easter's ago at an Easter Egg hunt with my boyfriend, nieces and nephew. 2 are from this August at Niagara Falls and in my sister's wedding. I was still ate 418 for those. My VSG was on 11/27. I'm not sure how these pictures are going to upload so the pic of me in the black & pink flower dress is from today. My boyfriend's 2 year old niece told me that I looked like a ballerina. LOL. Idk about all that, but hoping that I'll see a difference posting them together.

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You are doing awesome. Great transformation and knowing there is more delight to come is a great motivation.

I use a free app called pic stitch to do side by side.

That's true it does help. Also measuring yourself and using a scale that shows body fat helps too. You will see inches and fat % go down even if the scale doesn't.

The kernels that make a giant bag are only like 1/4 cup. That's it's ultimate volume in your stomach I would think. It's just puffed with air.

I eat there quite a lot since its right by my office. I feel like the lettuce wraps don't have enough meat in them. The pot stickers are good too though. It's good to find a friend to share with too. Then you can order more variety. Although I have to say, calorie-wise, Cheesecake Factory is doing a good job.