pantala

Ok, when I scheduled my surgery I didn't even notice on the calendar that it was Easter weekend. No biggie, we are not a religious family. I also wanted to keep it as quiet as possible as I really didn't want to put up with the negativity I was sure would come my way so only my husband and sister have known.
But now that I am four days away and leaving town on Tuesday, I figure I would just suck it up and let everyone know why I wouldn't be around for Easter dinner. I am quite grouchy from the pre-op diet and not ready to have long drawn-out discussions about this.
So, it turns out that my mom and middle son are actually very cool with this!!!! You know what they said? They trust my judgement!! Whoa, NOT what I expected!
My daughter, who I sort of thought would understand is quite certain I will die. That's what she said: "So basically, you're saying you might die." NO, that is not what I said but it's what she heard so whatever. My oldest son used to live near the border in TX and is just not comfortable about me going into Mexico but otherwise is ok with the surgery. My daughter-in-law is miffed I will miss Easter dinner.
I know they will gossip about this on Easter but at least my mom and one son will buffer the remarks. Not that I will lose sleep over it. And I feel better about being open at least with my family.
Still feel no need to share with co-workers.......

Ok, when I scheduled my surgery I didn't even notice on the calendar that it was Easter weekend. No biggie, we are not a religious family. I also wanted to keep it as quiet as possible as I really didn't want to put up with the negativity I was sure would come my way so only my husband and sister have known.
But now that I am four days away and leaving town on Tuesday, I figure I would just suck it up and let everyone know why I wouldn't be around for Easter dinner. I am quite grouchy from the pre-op diet and not ready to have long drawn-out discussions about this.
So, it turns out that my mom and middle son are actually very cool with this!!!! You know what they said? They trust my judgement!! Whoa, NOT what I expected!
My daughter, who I sort of thought would understand is quite certain I will die. That's what she said: "So basically, you're saying you might die." NO, that is not what I said but it's what she heard so whatever. My oldest son used to live near the border in TX and is just not comfortable about me going into Mexico but otherwise is ok with the surgery. My daughter-in-law is miffed I will miss Easter dinner.
I know they will gossip about this on Easter but at least my mom and one son will buffer the remarks. Not that I will lose sleep over it. And I feel better about being open at least with my family.
Still feel no need to share with co-workers.......

Ok, when I scheduled my surgery I didn't even notice on the calendar that it was Easter weekend. No biggie, we are not a religious family. I also wanted to keep it as quiet as possible as I really didn't want to put up with the negativity I was sure would come my way so only my husband and sister have known.
But now that I am four days away and leaving town on Tuesday, I figure I would just suck it up and let everyone know why I wouldn't be around for Easter dinner. I am quite grouchy from the pre-op diet and not ready to have long drawn-out discussions about this.
So, it turns out that my mom and middle son are actually very cool with this!!!! You know what they said? They trust my judgement!! Whoa, NOT what I expected!
My daughter, who I sort of thought would understand is quite certain I will die. That's what she said: "So basically, you're saying you might die." NO, that is not what I said but it's what she heard so whatever. My oldest son used to live near the border in TX and is just not comfortable about me going into Mexico but otherwise is ok with the surgery. My daughter-in-law is miffed I will miss Easter dinner.
I know they will gossip about this on Easter but at least my mom and one son will buffer the remarks. Not that I will lose sleep over it. And I feel better about being open at least with my family.
Still feel no need to share with co-workers.......

Ok, when I scheduled my surgery I didn't even notice on the calendar that it was Easter weekend. No biggie, we are not a religious family. I also wanted to keep it as quiet as possible as I really didn't want to put up with the negativity I was sure would come my way so only my husband and sister have known.
But now that I am four days away and leaving town on Tuesday, I figure I would just suck it up and let everyone know why I wouldn't be around for Easter dinner. I am quite grouchy from the pre-op diet and not ready to have long drawn-out discussions about this.
So, it turns out that my mom and middle son are actually very cool with this!!!! You know what they said? They trust my judgement!! Whoa, NOT what I expected!
My daughter, who I sort of thought would understand is quite certain I will die. That's what she said: "So basically, you're saying you might die." NO, that is not what I said but it's what she heard so whatever. My oldest son used to live near the border in TX and is just not comfortable about me going into Mexico but otherwise is ok with the surgery. My daughter-in-law is miffed I will miss Easter dinner.
I know they will gossip about this on Easter but at least my mom and one son will buffer the remarks. Not that I will lose sleep over it. And I feel better about being open at least with my family.
Still feel no need to share with co-workers.......

Ok, when I scheduled my surgery I didn't even notice on the calendar that it was Easter weekend. No biggie, we are not a religious family. I also wanted to keep it as quiet as possible as I really didn't want to put up with the negativity I was sure would come my way so only my husband and sister have known.
But now that I am four days away and leaving town on Tuesday, I figure I would just suck it up and let everyone know why I wouldn't be around for Easter dinner. I am quite grouchy from the pre-op diet and not ready to have long drawn-out discussions about this.
So, it turns out that my mom and middle son are actually very cool with this!!!! You know what they said? They trust my judgement!! Whoa, NOT what I expected!
My daughter, who I sort of thought would understand is quite certain I will die. That's what she said: "So basically, you're saying you might die." NO, that is not what I said but it's what she heard so whatever. My oldest son used to live near the border in TX and is just not comfortable about me going into Mexico but otherwise is ok with the surgery. My daughter-in-law is miffed I will miss Easter dinner.
I know they will gossip about this on Easter but at least my mom and one son will buffer the remarks. Not that I will lose sleep over it. And I feel better about being open at least with my family.
Still feel no need to share with co-workers.......

Ok, when I scheduled my surgery I didn't even notice on the calendar that it was Easter weekend. No biggie, we are not a religious family. I also wanted to keep it as quiet as possible as I really didn't want to put up with the negativity I was sure would come my way so only my husband and sister have known.
But now that I am four days away and leaving town on Tuesday, I figure I would just suck it up and let everyone know why I wouldn't be around for Easter dinner. I am quite grouchy from the pre-op diet and not ready to have long drawn-out discussions about this.
So, it turns out that my mom and middle son are actually very cool with this!!!! You know what they said? They trust my judgement!! Whoa, NOT what I expected!
My daughter, who I sort of thought would understand is quite certain I will die. That's what she said: "So basically, you're saying you might die." NO, that is not what I said but it's what she heard so whatever. My oldest son used to live near the border in TX and is just not comfortable about me going into Mexico but otherwise is ok with the surgery. My daughter-in-law is miffed I will miss Easter dinner.
I know they will gossip about this on Easter but at least my mom and one son will buffer the remarks. Not that I will lose sleep over it. And I feel better about being open at least with my family.
Still feel no need to share with co-workers.......

Hooray! Mom and I made it home safe! We landed in Pittsburgh around 2AM and I made it home around 4:30am. Shower and then woke up around 2PM. Slept like a rock. I'm so happy to be home!
Thank you all for the prayers and support!
Amanda Rae

Best of luck and thanks to infinity for the pics! I will be down there next week and this was very reassuring - especially for my hubby! I'm sure you'll do great!

Xanax is pretty strong stuff, I don't see how it could NOT help you. Be careful though, it can be addictive and some have "rebound" anxiety when they quit taking it. But just this short time on it shouldn't be a problem.

These are great videos, they helped me make the decision to go with Dr. Garcia.
Thanks for posting them Liz!

Love and Light and Healing Wishes coming your way my dear! Sorry you had an incident, you didn't need that right now. Safe travels, you will feel much better when you get back home.

Best of luck and thanks to infinity for the pics! I will be down there next week and this was very reassuring - especially for my hubby! I'm sure you'll do great!

Hey guys....
I just wanted to say hello and let you know that I am down in Tijuana, Mexico at Dr. Garcias/Mi hospital and my surgery is in about an hour!! Dr. Garcia has come in and spoke with me he is fantastic!! Everyone from Samuel the driver to the nurses and staff so far have been great, The facility is spotless and they use universal precautions and I am very impressed that far!! I will keep you guys updated and post as many pictures as I can so those who have not been yet can get an idea Of what to expect when they come here!!
I have already met several others who have already sleeved and they are doing great!! They are Walking the halls....
So, its finally my turn... Wow... Here we go!! Wish me luck and I'll keep you updated....
To be continued!!

Omg,omg Amy! You knew something wasn't right didn't you? Thank god this was diagnosed before something really horrible happened. Sending love and light.

I'm turning into a smurf!
Amanda Rae

Amanda! You're almost there, after all this! Very happy for you and thanks for the Tom Petty earworm

This is my three month update I was sleeved 12/26. I've only had one stall and I typically lose 4 - 5 pounds a week and I'm ok with that. I work out 5 times a week and try to work in a long walk at lunch each day.
I'm down 3 sizes in tops and slacks. People are starting to notice and that feels so good. I have lots of NSV's. I can bend over and tie my shoes now. I shop in "misses" and the styles are really pretty. I can go up TWO flights of stairs and not be winded. I'm not embarrassed to travel anymore because I fit in the airplane seats and don't need a seat belt extender.
I average around 800 calories a day. I can eat most anything but I stay away from breads, rice, Pasta and sweets I eat lots of chicken, fish and veggies. My "go to" meal is 1 scrambled egg with 2 ounces of sliced ham I have learned the hard way when I'm full and that means STOP eating!
I have had an easy journey. I read the forums every day and have gotten many helpful hints I learn from the vets like OTR, Cheri and fiddle man My heart breaks for those who are struggling and I cried when I heard the recent news of a death. I wouldn't change anything and love what my sleeve has allowed me to do. So thanks to everyone who takes the time to post. It really helps people like me. Good luck everyone

I rolled on as the sky grew dark
I put the pedal down to make some time
There's something good waitin' down this road I'm pickin' up whatever's mine
Here we go!
Amanda Rae

Yay! I'm going the day before you w/Dr Garcia, so will see you there with Cindy and Deborah! Glad you jumped aboard!

Arrived in San Diego safe and sound! Looking for away to kill time... Tomorrow begins that giant leap towards a New Life, sleeved!
Amanda Rae

Mostly clear. Plus we've been staying in Lancaster and sightseeing every where. :-)
Amanda Rae

Hi to everyone, including you stalkers!
I am three weeks out from surgery (Feb. 21st with Dr. Garcia in TJ through Ready4AChange) and I am feeling great! This week was very exciting as I added mushified deli turkey slices and "real" Soups to my diet. I've got one of those blender "wands" and it has been perfect for blending Protein powder into Soup.
My "go to" items right now are chocolate Protein Powder in (slighly cooled) Decaf coffee each morning and unflavored Protein Powder mixed into an 80 calorie dannon light greek yogurt at lunch. By afternoon, I've already had almost 60 grams of Protein. The Water intake is a struggle...my water bottle (with crystal light) is my constant companion. I also treat myself to a daily bottle of Vitamin Water zero. This surgery was the best thing that I have ever done for myself... I'm 66 years old...wish I had done it decades ago!
I donated a bunch of my "fatest" clothes yesterday... I have about 5 sizes worth of boxed clothes from prior weight losses! It is such an amazing, freeing feeling to know that I will never go back to this size/weight.
My recovery has gone better and faster than I ever could have imagined! Thank you so much, Dr. Garcia and your team!

Hey everyone, I just wanted to share a story with everyone that might help others be more open with talking about getting WLS done. I will admit that I have not told everyone I come across that I am planning on getting it done in May but I have told everyone that is close to me. By profession I am a hair stylist so I have clients that over time have become friends and I have told a handful of them what I am getting ready to do, not only because it doesn’t bother me to share but also because they want to know why I am taking a short leave. This story really revolves around one of my clients.
We'll call her Marie. Marie has four kids, three of which have had their own set of struggles. One is bi-polar, one has been on and off drugs, and one has struggled with obesity her whole life. Her daughter that has struggled with obesity lives in New Mexico and Marie lives here in Washington State. They don’t get to see each other as much as they would like but try to make a visit twice a year.
So one day she’s in my chair and we are having the "talk" about my sleeve getting done in May. She was tentative and of course had tons of questions because I am going to Mexico to get it done. We talked about it for almost the entire two and a half hours she was there and most of it was her asking questions.
The next time I saw her she said OMG do I have a story for you. Well in the time frame since I has last seen her, her daughter had come to visit from New Mexico. She said she went to the airport to pick her up and couldn’t find her till she was right in front of her. She had lost close to 65lbs since they saw each other last! She was in awe at the progress her daughter made. Well it finally came out during her trip that she had gotten the sleeve done in Mexico last November with out telling anyone except her husband.
So Marie is telling me this story and I'm gasping and omg-ing in all the right places lol and she finally says. "If you and I hadn’t talked about this last time I was here I’m not sure I would have reacted the same way in being supportive and happy for her because I may have just been in shock and scared to death that she did all of this with out telling me. I don’t think that I would have handled it well and probably hurt my relationship with my daughter because she told me she was most scared to tell me thinking that I would not support her. I cant thank you enough for being so open and honest about your journey."
So I guess what I am getting at here is I know not everyone wants to share with others and that’s fine everyone has their own path there is no right or wrong just try to keep in mind you may help someone else with their journey by sharing and not even know it.

But don't you think that if a person "gained more self confidence" and their partner saw that as a "threat" that would indicate some underlying problems to begin with? It would sound like some unhealthy control issues to me.

I had my surgery March 13th byDr Fernando Garcia, he is the greatest surgeon! I felt safe in his hands during the surgery.The hardest thing to deal with was the darn drain.Right now I am downstairs in the marriot in the computer room. I highly recommend Dr Garcia. Also recommend staying at the marriot in Tijuana they treat you like royalty here. :wub: