All the sleeve is is something to help you lose weight. If I start eating small portions of McDonald's everyday, then yes, I will gain.
The sleeve is a tool designed to assist you in losing weight. Sure, it's major surgery, it's my first surgery, but realistically, smaller portions DO NOT = weight loss. You can start drinking milkshakes at every meal, along with chips and crackers, and in 2 weeks, you'll see exactly why that is.
I'm not going to stop calling my sleeve a tool. My sleeve helps me, it doesn't do all the work for me. I also have to put thought into what I eat and what I drink. Exercise is another tool.
I am sorry for your loss. The loss of a parent is hard, I lost my mother at a young age.