No game

I'm here, and I hear you. I cannot go there and get you and take you out for fresh air but if I could I would.
It's so hard to leave the house sometimes, I know. The longer you're in the harder that first step is.
I know this is going to sound weird but try to have your husband read what you wrote.. It will help him understand (if he doesn't already) and perhaps help you make the first steps by getting you out more (yes even if he's tired) you and your child need fresh air even if it just for a little while everyday bundle up and get outside even if it's just in the front or back yard for awhile.

A little early for the combative stage (that usually hits 4 weeks post op)
This surgery is not a cure.. (Duh)
In fact it can be a major head game sometimes. As for bad choices? I guess you can call us all idiots because that's what got us here..
I cannot wax poetic like you, so I won't try. But falling off of the wagon eating a carb laden food is the beginning of the end for some.. It's really hard to know by just reading a post and forming an opinion about it.
Power. I felt I had none when it came to food. I am not an idiot, but no matter what the diet or the therapy my food consumption was beyond my control most days.
Control, I have a shaky grasp on it now.. My hands are tired and weak at the moment..
One taste, one bite.....taste, comfort, relaxing, friend. The hole is there, it is waiting to be filled. I am ( inset months) I am not cured the draw is strong.
I'm happy for those of you that have it all figured out though...

A little early for the combative stage (that usually hits 4 weeks post op)
This surgery is not a cure.. (Duh)
In fact it can be a major head game sometimes. As for bad choices? I guess you can call us all idiots because that's what got us here..
I cannot wax poetic like you, so I won't try. But falling off of the wagon eating a carb laden food is the beginning of the end for some.. It's really hard to know by just reading a post and forming an opinion about it.
Power. I felt I had none when it came to food. I am not an idiot, but no matter what the diet or the therapy my food consumption was beyond my control most days.
Control, I have a shaky grasp on it now.. My hands are tired and weak at the moment..
One taste, one bite.....taste, comfort, relaxing, friend. The hole is there, it is waiting to be filled. I am ( inset months) I am not cured the draw is strong.
I'm happy for those of you that have it all figured out though...

food "addition" I like that.. yes I guess on a bad day I add more and more food..
I guess we all have different reasons for having this surgery. I cannot tell what a persons motivation is when they post in distress sometimes.. I guess I'm not clever enough?
By the way you are my role model too...

A little early for the combative stage (that usually hits 4 weeks post op)
This surgery is not a cure.. (Duh)
In fact it can be a major head game sometimes. As for bad choices? I guess you can call us all idiots because that's what got us here..
I cannot wax poetic like you, so I won't try. But falling off of the wagon eating a carb laden food is the beginning of the end for some.. It's really hard to know by just reading a post and forming an opinion about it.
Power. I felt I had none when it came to food. I am not an idiot, but no matter what the diet or the therapy my food consumption was beyond my control most days.
Control, I have a shaky grasp on it now.. My hands are tired and weak at the moment..
One taste, one bite.....taste, comfort, relaxing, friend. The hole is there, it is waiting to be filled. I am ( inset months) I am not cured the draw is strong.
I'm happy for those of you that have it all figured out though...

A little early for the combative stage (that usually hits 4 weeks post op)
This surgery is not a cure.. (Duh)
In fact it can be a major head game sometimes. As for bad choices? I guess you can call us all idiots because that's what got us here..
I cannot wax poetic like you, so I won't try. But falling off of the wagon eating a carb laden food is the beginning of the end for some.. It's really hard to know by just reading a post and forming an opinion about it.
Power. I felt I had none when it came to food. I am not an idiot, but no matter what the diet or the therapy my food consumption was beyond my control most days.
Control, I have a shaky grasp on it now.. My hands are tired and weak at the moment..
One taste, one bite.....taste, comfort, relaxing, friend. The hole is there, it is waiting to be filled. I am ( inset months) I am not cured the draw is strong.
I'm happy for those of you that have it all figured out though...

Did I get your attention???
Ok, curiosity... when I answer posts here, I am always coming from a perspective of a "food addict"
But many times I have people write back...
"But I don't have an addiction to food"
Which I always think to myself YEAH RIGHT!
Don't beat me up I'm being honest!!
What can I say I'm pessimistic, I also laugh when people say they don't eat TO MUCH so they don't understand how the are fat.. I AM FAT BECAUSE I EAT LIKE A PIG (alone mostly)
Today I thought about, "what if I'm wrong?"
I mean...I am me and I am addicted, how do I know how the next person is???
I'm curious as an addicted fat person how is it for those of you who are not addicted?
Oh and on a side note if I am wrong, then I'm also jealous because I would give anything not to have this problem (addiction)

No, then I sell them actual donuts.. I mean what have those bi*ches ever done for me???

I've been reading this thread for the last couple of days.... I have started to answer once or twice only to erase and say why bother.
The fact of the matter responses from people that are further out often fall on deaf ears to the newly or about to be sleeved..
They (I did too) like to here the good not the bad.
Yes I have (not had) a food addiction. I am a binge (in secret) eater so I can relate to those of you that do it in secret.
When I first talked about wanting this surgery my husband said "why? You never eat".. I have since opened up to him and told him my dirty secrets.
Ok first off the sleeve DOES NOT CURE food ADDICTION! I need to get that out there. I read lipstick lady's response about it stopping her by throwing up. And another poster two weeks out agreeing with her and assuming this is the way it's going to be for everyone. Not so.
I love you lipstick you know that! But not all of us puke. I have not puked since being in the hospital.
Also the first 6 months? You are still healing believe it or not and for some of us it's easier to stay on track.. I say some of us because more and more I read posts from people that are very early out and are already falling back into their addictive ways. I didn't only because I was scared and followed what my doctor said to do.
Ok things change after the so called "honeymoon" period eating gets easier and you get hungrier and your capacity increases all at the same time like butter said.
But let's get back to addiction. I am an addict I ate when I was not hungry I ate till there was pain. So the pain of being full is not a new sensation.I would stuff food and I would wait and eat again. Obviously my need for food was not my stomach it was my head (and my mouth that constantly watered for food and the want to chew, taste).
The sleeve did not cure this. Yes it's a great tool and I've lost some weight, But I fight my addiction everyday still. Maybe I'm just hard core messed up..more than the rest? Maybe not. I see lots and lots of people that have had surgery and lose initially only to gain it back.. So I'm going to guess I'm not the only one that's got a problem with food.
I still wake up thinking about food and a lot of times I go to bed thinking about it. I still sneak into the kitchen and stuff something in my mouth when no one is looking (yes as I said I am a sneak eater) I'm succeeding for the most part. But I am still an addict and I will be the rest of my life.
Also the fact of the matter is junk food goes down so much easier than dense Protein ( you know the stuff we are supposed to eat) so it can really play with that addicted brain that wants more and more.
My name is Laura I am addicted to food and I'm a year out from VSG surgery.

Haha!
I just looked at my drivers license yesterday it says 170 but there is a big face of 235 staring back out at me there! How could they let me lie so bad!

Or this...

Shoot, nobody ever told me that.
If I had a dollar every time, I'd be broke....

Well that's good, they are probably grasping at straws then because they are scared.. And I would be too if my daughter wanted a surgery.. It's just what parents do
Listen I'm 47 and didn't tell my own mom until a week before my surgery I did this for me, no one else and I didn't need the drama.
But when I did tell her she was at first pissed but then asked "well can I at least drive you or something because I want to be involved"
If they are not willing to at least listen to your research. Then nicely tell them you love them and you are doing this (surgery) and you hope that at some point they can give you the support that you will need.

Do you live with them?? If not they really don't have much if a say on what you can and cannot do.. But if you do I can see how that would be difficult. When I first mentioned surgery to my husband he said absolutely not! And he's in the medical field!
I asked please just come to a consultation with the surgeon with me.. It really helped, during that consultation he understood what I was going through. Also his fears calmed about the surgery itself after talking to the surgeon and getting his questions answered.
Ask them to at least go to an appointment with you or an support group. As far as happiness we need to work on that too and therapy I feel should go hand and hand with surgery

Girl.. You just didn't post all that in the mans room!
Get ready for the private messages to start!

1. If you think it is a magic bullet.
Bariatric surgery is not a magic bullet. It will help you lose weight but the responsibility is on you to keep going and maintain that loss. Regaining all of the lost weight is very possible and not even that uncommon.
People who do not commit to a healthy lifestyle after the surgery are highly vulnerable to regain. Unlike diets, regain with surgery is delayed. On a diet people usually gain weight back within a few weeks or months. With surgery, people won’t begin to regain the weight until 18 months to 2 years. People who feel like surgery is a magic bullet will not be prepared for the commitment and will end up on the road to failure.
2. If you think it will be easy.
Bariatric surgery involves an extensive process of nutrition counseling, temporary liquid diets, and pre- and post-surgery meetings and preparations. Most clinics will ask that you lose some weight before the surgery, start on a special diet, and exercise. If you find a clinic that does not ask you to go through multiple steps like this you should find a new clinic. A good clinic will prepare you for success by giving you the right nutrition, behavioral, and exercise support before and after surgery. If you view these steps as a hassle, then you are not in the right mindset for surgery and will be at high risk of weight regain in the long run.
3. If it is in the back of your mind that if it doesn’t work you will just try it again.
Even though people like Carnie Wilson had a second surgery, keep in mind that most people do not. Some surgeons will not want to do a second surgery for you. In fact, they may lose hope in you. Surgeons want to set you up for success. They might not want to take the risk of an additional surgery unless they are very sure you did not squander the results of the first surgery with a blatantly unhealthy lifestyle. Surgery is an intensive and invasive process, only plan to do it once.
4. You Haven’t Truly Made Committed Attempts to Lose Weight.
One of the criteria to be eligible for surgery is that you have had numerous failed weight loss attempts. Nearly everyone on the planet meets this criterion, right?! Well, no. If you can’t honestly say that you put your heart and soul into previous weight loss attempts, then you aren’t really meeting this criterion. If your reason for not losing weight in previous attempts was because you were too busy or stressed out to make lifestyle changes, these problems will not go away with surgery. You will need to make the very same lifestyle changes. The difference will be that regaining the weight you lost from surgery will be 10 times more demoralizing than it is from a usual diet attempt. Once again, if you aren’t committed to making lifestyle changes, surgery will not make a long lasting difference.

Well ok Justin... Let me try and help you out...
Your profile pic right now looks a little round and....Well... Featureless.
I suggest that you turn into the light at a slight angle and tilt your chin down just a touch.
And voila!!

Shoot, nobody ever told me that.
If I had a dollar every time, I'd be broke....

I'm rich!!!

Shoot, nobody ever told me that.
If I had a dollar every time, I'd be broke....

Mission statement
Welcome, to the 5:2 group. We consist of members that are at least a year out and almost at goal or have reached goal and put on a few pounds while in maintenance.
we are not trying to exclude anyone, but this method is not for the newly sleeved.
Please talk to your nutritionist and try the diet first to see if its something you can do. Then if you want to make a commitment to it, send us a message and you'll be invited in.
http://the5-2dietbook.com/

No, then I sell them actual donuts.. I mean what have those bi*ches ever done for me???

Umm... I'm not sure about everything you are trying to say.
But glad you got it all figured out.

I get hungry... But being further out I can eat more and it stays with me longer.. I DO still have head hunger! My mouth wants food from the moment I wake up until I go to bed somedays..
So I still fight that..
But hunger.. I know the sleeve takes that "away" for some. But my question is to the ones that get pissed when they feel some hunger (not you earth) sometimes. They say "I was told I would never feel hungry again" "I've been bamboozled"

Isn't hungry natural? Your body feels hunger for a reason it needs to be fueled.. To think that you would never get this natural sensation is a bit odd, right?
Or am I talking out my azz again?

Your nut is a nut...
Fage plain 0% is one of the best things we could eat. Heck it's on most of our "ok" lists by name (plain Greek not Fage)
Listen, I'm all for following you surgeon and your nuts advice..
But! I'd demand a explanation and if she's not willing, move on to the 2nd nut they offer.
By the way the first and only time I met my nut? She was chugging a diet soda..