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I am so sorry this hurt you so much. I have to agree with lipsticklady and others though..obesity is a medical term. It took me YEARS to admit it applies to me. I feel like you put yourself through emotional turmoil when you give it so much power. Its just a word.
I hope you see the humor in the story i will share. In the 1990s a friend was expecting a baby and at nearly 40, that was unusual at the time. She accidentally saw her chart and written in huge letters at the top was the phrase "advanced maternal age". We joked about that for a long time because no woman wants to be called "old" for any reason..haha. Damn doctors.

It's just a medical term. We all suffer from the disease of obesity.
Just like an alcoholic, even if you stop drinking, you are still considered an alcoholic.

@@AngelaWilliamsMD
He removed the obese diagnosis. It was in the visit section of the portal. He was still putting the diagnosis of obese after each visit. None of my conditions exist anymore. I'm very fortunate. I noticed. His notes for each appointment are the same, exactly. Copy and paste.

Maybe in reality it is! But it undermines everything a person has worked so hard to change. To me when you change you are no longer who you were.
I did not go to him for this particular issue. I went for another.
I went to my Gynecologist and not once did she write obesity on the form she was filling out. I know I watched her fill it out.
When it is no longer relevant then put it in my file if you so chose. But not as a diagnosis that is not even there now!
If that is how it is supposed to be then there is a list of things that has happened to me that should be on that damn report then.
That word is horrid to me. I don't care what size a person is. I personally find that word repulsive!
Relevant or not it did not apply to this situation!

I am so sorry to hear this happened to you! I agree, it is a horrible word that always makes me sad to hear. He never should have wrote that, and she never should have shown you. Hang in there, it's going to get better. You are not obese, you have worked so so hard to get where you are today. Don't let some ignorant doctor make you forget that! Keep your chin up

Whenever I go to see the surgeon's office, even though I am 27 months post-op, the word obesity appears on the forms. This threw me for a loop because I am no longer obese. It dawned on me that this is all about insurance. They have to code my visit for insurance billing purposes and since I had WLS, this is the best coding they can use.
I was wondering about your hypoglycemia. There is one form that is tied to meals which is called reactive hypoglycemia. Reactive hypoglycemia (postprandial hypoglycemia) is low blood sugar that occurs after a meal — usually within four hours after eating. Low blood sugar (hypoglycemia) usually occurs while fasting. Signs and symptoms of reactive hypoglycemia may include hunger, weakness, shakiness, sleepiness, sweating, lightheadedness, anxiety and confusion.
Someone told me that it is like a spike in blood sugar followed by a crash. If this is the type you have then you have a bit of control because you can time your meals.

@RJ'S/beginning
I sure hope you get some answers from her. I can't imagine why the specialist wrote that on the referral, you are obviously not obese. I am sorry that word hurt you so much.

@RJ'S/beginning I think she should not have shown you what he said. It was unprofessional of her. It was too upsetting.

I'm sorry this happened to you.

I too had a similar experience as you in some ways. I went septic after 3 days of surgery and was put in an induced coma for 19 days. Like you I had to learn everything again.
It was trying and they gave me little to no hope of recovering. It is almost 3 years now and I have reached goal and am maintaining.
I too have a lovely Trachea scar to remind me of the coma.
I was able like you to look forward and remember why I did it.
So happy you are with us!
Please if you need to talk just message me! Remember that 50 % of the healing process is attitude. The other is hard work.
Sending well wishes your way!

I too had a similar experience as you in some ways. I went septic after 3 days of surgery and was put in an induced coma for 19 days. Like you I had to learn everything again.
It was trying and they gave me little to no hope of recovering. It is almost 3 years now and I have reached goal and am maintaining.
I too have a lovely Trachea scar to remind me of the coma.
I was able like you to look forward and remember why I did it.
So happy you are with us!
Please if you need to talk just message me! Remember that 50 % of the healing process is attitude. The other is hard work.
Sending well wishes your way!

Men will pay more attention.
Unfortunately some women stop a friendship with a female friend, when she loses weight. Hate to put THAT out there but we have some shallow sisters that get a wee bit (jealous?) when we lose weight.

Just drink one meal at a time. Don't look at it as a whole. One meal at a time. Stay away from being around food as much as you can. The third or fourth days are the worst. Then after that it seems to get easier.
This gives you a great start to the process of WLS. The shrinking of your liver makes it easier for them to do the surgery and gives you a better chance of success.

Just drink one meal at a time. Don't look at it as a whole. One meal at a time. Stay away from being around food as much as you can. The third or fourth days are the worst. Then after that it seems to get easier.
This gives you a great start to the process of WLS. The shrinking of your liver makes it easier for them to do the surgery and gives you a better chance of success.

Who gets to draw the fine line? Who gets to say what is written here and what isn't?
I think that all areas need to be discussed and all different ways of looking at things. After all. It has been pointed out to me in many threads as I made comments that I was not saying the right or correct thing.
Well, guess what. I know that people get scared, and people feel buyers remorse and people might not even know why they made the decisions they have regarding WLS. Realizing that they are just human and that this entire journey is not as easy as they thought it was going to be.
If we all learn something from a thread like this, great! But the last time I checked, I can make errors in information and ideas and hopefully someone would help me see my mistakes and teach me better without putting me down. Or laughing at me.
It all comes down to helping one another instead of waiting to pounce when we read something that is not true. I am not offended by the way if it is me you are referring to.
I understand your feelings on this as well. I just think that we are all human beings.
Now I step down from my soap box!

And round and round we go!

ummm.... last I checked this is a weight loss surgery SUPPORT group... not a 'tell us to just diet and exercise' group. That's great that it was quite easy for you, but I'm told enough in society that surgery was the 'easy way'. I certainly don't need to hear it when I'm looking for support.

Hey, guess what? I learned how to eat responsibly, exercise properly, reset my metabolic rate too! I too, don't follow the typical American diet. 95% of the time, I don't eat processed food, and eat nothing but lean protien, nuts, legumes, fruits and veggies. I rarely eat sweets. I feel the healthiest I've felt in over 20 years. And I had (GASP) weight loss surgery!
So you do you, I'll do me, and we'll all go on living happily ever after. Sound good?

My pride. I had to swallow my pride more times then I can count over the last 3 years of this experience. And it is not over yet. I am waiting for skin removal and my pride is being called into question again as I show my body to the professionals that are going to help with the surgeries.

I agree with your logic @@VSGAnn2014 concerning threads, topics and forums.
But as you said it is in your opinion, just as it is in mine! It is difficult to put everyone in the same category. As everyone is different in so many ways.
Dialogue is good, learning is good, instruction is good. it is all good!
But there is a way of expressing thoughts, principles, information and ideas without being harsh, rude or belittling others. That is my opinion.
The way we communicate with each other behind the mask of a computer does not give us licence to say what ever we see fit because it does not matter. No one really knows me or you. I concern myself with the possible negative affect because I told it like it is in my books. Instead of treating others with understanding and compassion like I would like to be treated.
I know that this comes up all the time on the forums. Around and round we go. I feel this way, you feel that way and we defend our way of thinking and that's okay! I just worry about those ones that aren't as disciplined in their thinking not to give a dead ratz behind what others ( complete strangers ) think or respond to threads that they have written.
I think that a lot of people have been treated with disrespect for a long time dealing with the issue of weight. Why add to it other then it gets a lot of people looking at the thread to see how it's going to turn out!
It is exhausting! But that is just my opinion. It doesn't mean anything really.

I do hope that when you get a little further down the road and the confusion of what to do next will escape you ( maybe not losing weight, stalls or even maybe gaining some back ) as it has for most WLS patients @@scarletwitch19 I hope that some one does not say the things you have said to this person. I agree that there is confusion in her thought process and even some misinformation, but it is her feelings and thoughts that she has taken the time to write out hoping for understanding.
I would say that there are things about WLS that you don't know or have not been privy to because you never had to deal with them.
Not every one has had a lovely experience with WLS. Not every one is prepared even if they think they are for what you have to do to be successful or deal with the emotional, physical or mental changes that can and do happen to many after surgery.
I say never say never when it comes to how you may feel later on. Never point out mistakes that you think you may never make. And never say you must be doing it wrong...... And then laugh. Because the last thing that is funny is everything we have all gone through; good experience or bad to get where we are today!
It is hard work and plenty of changes and fortitude to continue in this journey!

I agree with your logic @@VSGAnn2014 concerning threads, topics and forums.
But as you said it is in your opinion, just as it is in mine! It is difficult to put everyone in the same category. As everyone is different in so many ways.
Dialogue is good, learning is good, instruction is good. it is all good!
But there is a way of expressing thoughts, principles, information and ideas without being harsh, rude or belittling others. That is my opinion.
The way we communicate with each other behind the mask of a computer does not give us licence to say what ever we see fit because it does not matter. No one really knows me or you. I concern myself with the possible negative affect because I told it like it is in my books. Instead of treating others with understanding and compassion like I would like to be treated.
I know that this comes up all the time on the forums. Around and round we go. I feel this way, you feel that way and we defend our way of thinking and that's okay! I just worry about those ones that aren't as disciplined in their thinking not to give a dead ratz behind what others ( complete strangers ) think or respond to threads that they have written.
I think that a lot of people have been treated with disrespect for a long time dealing with the issue of weight. Why add to it other then it gets a lot of people looking at the thread to see how it's going to turn out!
It is exhausting! But that is just my opinion. It doesn't mean anything really.

I agree with your logic @@VSGAnn2014 concerning threads, topics and forums.
But as you said it is in your opinion, just as it is in mine! It is difficult to put everyone in the same category. As everyone is different in so many ways.
Dialogue is good, learning is good, instruction is good. it is all good!
But there is a way of expressing thoughts, principles, information and ideas without being harsh, rude or belittling others. That is my opinion.
The way we communicate with each other behind the mask of a computer does not give us licence to say what ever we see fit because it does not matter. No one really knows me or you. I concern myself with the possible negative affect because I told it like it is in my books. Instead of treating others with understanding and compassion like I would like to be treated.
I know that this comes up all the time on the forums. Around and round we go. I feel this way, you feel that way and we defend our way of thinking and that's okay! I just worry about those ones that aren't as disciplined in their thinking not to give a dead ratz behind what others ( complete strangers ) think or respond to threads that they have written.
I think that a lot of people have been treated with disrespect for a long time dealing with the issue of weight. Why add to it other then it gets a lot of people looking at the thread to see how it's going to turn out!
It is exhausting! But that is just my opinion. It doesn't mean anything really.

I agree with your logic @@VSGAnn2014 concerning threads, topics and forums.
But as you said it is in your opinion, just as it is in mine! It is difficult to put everyone in the same category. As everyone is different in so many ways.
Dialogue is good, learning is good, instruction is good. it is all good!
But there is a way of expressing thoughts, principles, information and ideas without being harsh, rude or belittling others. That is my opinion.
The way we communicate with each other behind the mask of a computer does not give us licence to say what ever we see fit because it does not matter. No one really knows me or you. I concern myself with the possible negative affect because I told it like it is in my books. Instead of treating others with understanding and compassion like I would like to be treated.
I know that this comes up all the time on the forums. Around and round we go. I feel this way, you feel that way and we defend our way of thinking and that's okay! I just worry about those ones that aren't as disciplined in their thinking not to give a dead ratz behind what others ( complete strangers ) think or respond to threads that they have written.
I think that a lot of people have been treated with disrespect for a long time dealing with the issue of weight. Why add to it other then it gets a lot of people looking at the thread to see how it's going to turn out!
It is exhausting! But that is just my opinion. It doesn't mean anything really.

My pride. I had to swallow my pride more times then I can count over the last 3 years of this experience. And it is not over yet. I am waiting for skin removal and my pride is being called into question again as I show my body to the professionals that are going to help with the surgeries.