My mom is also very opinionated and controlling. She runs away with everything, planning my wedding, toys and clothes for the kids... I am pretty sure I will tell her pre surgery but I want a date in hand so she knows I'm serious and it's not just a spur of the moment thing. Not looking forward to telling her at all but as many of you said, its my life. Just because she gave me life doesnt mean she gets to run it.
Not too long after I got married she showed up unannounced at my house (she lives over an hour away so it only happened once) and she saw our motorcycles in the driveway. I get the phone call "since when do you have a motorcycle?" I simply said, since I am married, have my own home, have a job and pay my own bills. That was the end of that. I will have to put the same big girl panties on and just put it out there.
Thanks again all.