SusanR

Since word is out, not much you can do about it. Don't provide any more details! Most people will not be content with knowing about the surgery. They are going to want details!! How much did it cost, how did it go, how much can you eat, what are you eating, and the big on: HOW MUCH DID YOU LOSE??? SAY NOTHING!! that will kill them on the inside, trust me lol!
Your boss took away your choice to keep this a secret, but you are in control from this point on. You got the time off that you needed, so forget about her. But from now on her and all the rest can only watch you get skinny but not be privilege to any more information.
I am so sorry you went through that, but you have control of your life again!! best of luck dear.

I agree DON'T ROCK THE BOAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I retired after 30 years at one place and i always lived by that moto, no matter what. I have seen a lot of people cause themselves so much grief by rocking the boat.

I have the same fears. I have been at my job longer, but I just know telling my boss that it will eventually get around the office. The fact that your boss only thinks of the negative (i.e. you missing work for surgery and not you potentially dying by being obese) just confirms that there is still a lot of stigma around this type of surgery. I'm so sorry that you have to go through it.
My suggestion is to let it go. Going to HR or talking to her about it will just make it worse, and right now you need to stay positive. If word gets out, it gets out - all you can do is be true to yourself, be honest and do what you need to do to secure your physical and mental health. The only opinion about your medical history that matters is yours and your Doctors. If your boss does anything to specifically call you out, that would be the time to involve HR. Otherwise, save yourself the stress, stay off the boss' radar and keep doing your job so you can get PAID. That's all that matters, bottom line, is that you do your job and that they pay you to do it.
Don't rock the boat. You have way more important things to deal with than someone elses prejudice. Be the example of how WLS is a positive thing.

This is a very personal journey for you, and your boss was extremely out of line! My guess is that confronting her on the issue will only make matters worse and you said that you need your job. You could always go to HR, but that isn't always the best idea either/ depending on your company. Good luck to you and I wish you much success!

Hi there. I remember those feelings very well. I also went to TJ and had Dr. Garcia and thought "What have I done". I still wanted a cheeseburger 3 days post op!!!! It probably took a good 3 weeks to not feel weird when I ate anything and the whole diet for the first 3 weeks sucks anyway. It isn't until I started eating "normal" food that I started to get into a groove.
I am loving my sleeve now at 6 weeks out and have lost 38 pounds in total, so feel and look quite different already too!
Hang in there....it does get better....but it takes time and patience.
Just drink your protein shakes and give it some time.
I promise you will feel differently in a few short weeks and you will also be a lot lighter! :-)

Hang in there! All your feelings are normal.
You must remember you are doing something positive for yourself-surgery is not a punishment ...