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Haha lol @ butterthebean!!! I figure I've eaten enough to last me a lifetime

I'm so sorry the "why me" question is one doctors don't focus on enough, but it's your journey and your life and it has it's own meaning, try putting you illness into the whole of your life- is this part of the struggle something you can handle? Is it what you need to truly move on from the past? And could this untimely death remind you of what could have awaited you if you didn't change your life? Everything happens for a reason, death is part of life, but you still get to live!!! We're all thinking of you & praying for your recovery!

I agree with above but also suggest some therapy to help I'm worried the uncontrollable eating will jeopardise the safety of my sleeve post-op so I want to get a handle on it pre-op... At 1-2 years out we may gain weight otherwise!

Yes I was going to suggest a therapy pool, but just be careful there is a lot of exercise involved in getting in there and showering after etc, I know because I've had to take my mum there, carry her bag, support her while she showers, wait in line to pay etc... She also has lupus which causes raynauds so she has trouble doing things with her hands such as weights or using her walker, so this also limits her exercise. But her weight does fluctuate significantly depending on diet, so I think you can get to a healthy comfortable weight without it, but obviously you would be happier (endorphines and all that) if you could find some daily activity that suits your fitness level happy travels

Oh & yes some scarring of uterine lining may be responsible for decrease in libido and orgasm, however it is mostly associated with hormonal and psychological changes in the patient, so there is no definite either way. Supra Vaginal Uterine Amputation VS. Hysterectomy: Effects on libido and orgasm Pentti Kilkku1†, Matti Grönroos1, Toivo Hirvonen1 and Lauri Rauramo1 [...] Acta Obstetricia et Gynecologica Scandinavica Vol. 62: 147-152 (Volume publication date: 1983)

The idea that female orgasm causes miscarriage is fundamentally untrue and in scholarly sources such as bernds & barash 1979 is only mentioned very tenuosly in regard to other mammals spontaneous abortions. further more this pseudo-scientific concept has been ignorantly misrepresented by male chauvinists such as Todd Akin to suggest that when women are raped the orgasm they recieve from the rape causes them to "shut the whole thing down.” This is of course incorrect as : "The national rape-related pregnancy rate is 5.0% per rape among victims of reproductive age (aged 12 to 45); among adult women an estimated 32,101 pregnancies result from rape each year" http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/8765248/ The female orgasm is still as much a mystery as the male nipple and unless you have been diagnosed with implantation trouble then feel free to enjoy your sexuality. I use implanon contraceptive implant with my 7-year partner. It has the best contraceptive qualities, although the main reason for removal is troublesome bleeding. I haven personally experienced this... *peace*

Hi blokes! Sorry for the intrusion but I thought this might be the best place for this because it was written by a bloke I adopted my beautiful dog Rosie from a lovely lady named Joanne and it turns out she is the sister in law of Mel Gibson- that is, she's married to Chris Gibson. Anyway she gave me a copy of his autobiography and I really enjoyed it its a simple easy read but is motivating and reminds me why I'm trying a new way of doing things. Anyway he follows his own path, which I'm not necessarily into, but it may interest you or a loved one. Anyway, it's called Memoirs of a Fat Bastard How I Lost My Gut and Gained a Life By Chris Gibson Available here: http://www.fishpond.com.au/Books/Memoirs-of-Fat-Bastard-Chris-Gibson/9781405039901 And a small excerpt: Chris Gibson is one fat, drunk, angry bastard. He's tried every diet: Atkins, South Beach, Pritikin. Problem is, he still can't get his pants on in the morning. And he got none of the genes of his movie star brother Mel. In his early 40s with a job he hates and a lifestyle that is killing him, Chris is having more than a mid-life crisis. He's having a life-and-death crisis. Memoirs of a Fat Bastard is a bittersweet account of how a middle-aged man on the road to destruction turned his life and health around on his own terms. It's a telling and frequently hilarious story of the ways in which some men can lose their way, and the way back to finding meaning and happiness amid the competing pressures of being provider, family man, and all-round good Aussie bloke. P.S. I didn't get a discount on Rosie in return for plugging the book I just like the book and the person who wrote it Peace & Love

Nnonononono!!!! This is my own oersonal demon! Don't tell me they're ok!!! Im trying this everything in moderation thing but unless I'm on my deathbed I ain't goin anywhere near the deep-fried salted skin of a pig! Just no for me... No... Ok who am I kidding ~ hi I'm Beth & I'm a food junkie~ please don't trust me around salted meat products of any kind!!!

Yeah sorry about the oz/gram thing I was just soooo anti-googling right then! Yeah in aus 3 oz is about the size of our regular one-serve tunas tins and it's the amount I eat in one sitting pre-sleeve. Although to be fair if you sat like 20 oz of tuna in front of me I could polish it off but would feel very fishy :~o

I agree with peacequeen re: My carbo-phobic mum likes iceberg lettuce, she uses them as little scoops for chow mein or antipasto etc..I'm a proteiny person normally although I've recently started experimenting with carbs, they make up about 40% of my intake at the moment and I found my favourite crunchy bread-stitute is ryvita whole grain crisp breads. Of course they'd be for later on, I just thought of them... Ummm other than that try the recipe section I suppose...

Lol- the fat way!!! Mwahaha!!! I mixed a little extra light cottage cheese in with my tuna yesterday instead of mayo- couldn't taste the cheese but it made the tuna a little less salty and less dry... Oh and I love a little raw onion and or celery in my tuna... I can imagine mixing tuna into tabbouleh would be nice... Mmmmmm making me hungry!!!

Fingers and toes crossed for you! Best wishes and sooooooo jealous! *peace*

I'm blevarre on myfitnesspal why don't you start there? Good luck!!

I think At this stage maybe you would find some counselling helpful in your decision. It seems to me (been there, done that) that you have a lot of self-esteem issues and maybe you're worried if you lose weight again you might not know who to trust... The funny thing is I made a lot of new friends in the early stages of anorexia that couldn't give me the time of day when I was in rehab, but as I more than tripled my weight I have met the love of my life and some lifelong friends... Sure the weight can make a difference but you need to know who you really are before you can let other people back in again I hope this helps, I'm set for June 2013 and as most on here know am taking this time to be thoroughly sure I'm ready for this step mentally! peace