marielena3155

I put this off a year ago. Got a Tummy Tuck and though I look ok, I'm still fat. I'm reconsidering this surgery and my bmi is 32. I am tired of the constant depression , the inadequacy. I am just done.

Ugh even though I want to do this soooo bad! I'm to scared to follow through, specially with the lack of support. My date is march 25 but I'm seriously doubting ill make it to Mexico. Is just so scary for me

Haha funny that I see this. Today I got my preop an post op diet and I was like omg this is going to be hard can I do this forever?

My husband says that he is just scared and has been very concerned for me.. But look I truly know where I stand. If I do this, it will be forme. I appreciate that he is worried but his absence and negativity just put a huge dent on my love for him.

Wow thank you for sharing. I uave low bmi 3 Kids all girls 2 are very thin my oldest is a tad overweight. I know she wants to lose with me. my husband does not support me at all also saying im lazy And vain because im not ”that Big” what ever that means to him. He is going with me but says its selfish to take thay kind of money away from the family for WLS. I struggle but im stil doing it. Schedualed for next friday. ill support you if no ome else will

By the way... My husband can kiss my ass any day of the week because if there is one thing he can't control is my hard earned money... I'm paying for my surgery with my own money I have been saving. Every time I saved before we had to use it for something for the house or family, not this time sorry. I save 5000 to do this and wether I do it or not he can't talk to me about money.

He has not been supportive in any freaking way

Not economically or emotionally so again... Kiss my ass, I can tell you this process has been real tough and disappointing. We on risking grounds as you can see lol. I have been re evaluating why we are together...If I can't have your financial, physical or emotional support why the hell are you around smh?

He's a great dad and person and all but this has brought things to light that i do not like and even if we can get past it... Is embedded in my soul.

Wow thank you for sharing. I uave low bmi 3 Kids all girls 2 are very thin my oldest is a tad overweight. I know she wants to lose with me. my husband does not support me at all also saying im lazy And vain because im not ”that Big” what ever that means to him. He is going with me but says its selfish to take thay kind of money away from the family for WLS. I struggle but im stil doing it. Schedualed for next friday. ill support you if no ome else will

Thank you so much for that I'm .im still not100 percent convinced and is all due to the complications and my family being a pain in the ass. But I wan to e skinny so bad!

Today was the second time that someone told me that they didn't think i was "big enough" to justify having this surgery. I take this as a backhanded compliment. I'm what's considered to be a low BMI. However' date=' im qualified for this surgery and have full support of my doctors. My bmi is 37.5. I am a 31 yr old female. I weight 238 right now, my highest weight. I'm 5'7". I have about 80-90 lbs to lose to be a healthy weight. I take it as a compliment because its as if they are saying "ehh your not so bad" but it also really hurts my feeling and makes me second guess myself. I'm very overweight, I have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and am at risk of becoming a diabetic. I've struggled with my weight my whole life. I've been bullied, I have low self esteem and I've tried every diet in the book. Twice. I don't know I guess I'm jus feeling discouraged. The funny part is that I was told this as I was leaving my pysc evaluation, in which the physiologist told me he fully supports me having the surgery, thinks I've very well prepared and educated. As I was leaving his office I made small talk with another sleeve patient waiting to go in. As we were chatting he said "to be honest you don't really look like you need this surgery, you look ok now". I thanked him but explained that its been a life long struggle with ups and downs. As I left it really made me second guess my decision. Just because I "don't look that fat" doesn't mean I don't fall into the "obese" category or have health problems because of my overweight. Ugh I guess I just needed to vent. Any other low BMI's every experience this?[/quote']

Girl jump on the low bmi bus... I'm the driver!

All those things you said I go through every day since I decided to do this and is such a freaking struggle! I have even cried! Thinking I must be crazy because no one else see it. I change my mind every single hour of he day but then when I'm at my lowest point I remember why m doing this...

I'm 5'4 202 pounds I do aerobics 4 times a week and recently started to add cycling once a week too. I hate being fat plain and simple. I remember the vivacious girl I was once and I want her back. I lost all the confidence I ever had on myself. I'm not going to lie, I'm really scared I know this will be difficult and I know is no walk in the park. But I'm mostly scared of complications.im not sick now don't want to be sick later either. But the truth is want me back. Losing 60-70 would be a record weight for me but losing at least 45 would bring back the girl I was before, and I just can't do it alone.

Hi' date=' i fly in in march 25th. Will be at Mi hospital for Surgery on the 26th. Look forward to meeting you![/quote']

Great ! See you then, god willing

Thank you brainy babe I appreciate your kind words.

I also should have mentioned' date=' since you are a Feb sleever, you might still be on liquids, or light foods.. When you start added more denser foods (proteins), such as deli meats (turkey), you will feel full longer than when you are on the liquids.. If you want a menu of my daily foods let me know...[/quote']

I would love a menu!

I also should have mentioned' date=' since you are a Feb sleever, you might still be on liquids, or light foods.. When you start added more denser foods (proteins), such as deli meats (turkey), you will feel full longer than when you are on the liquids.. If you want a menu of my daily foods let me know...[/quote']

You guys are awesome... I'm so happy I found this forum. You guys have been my light in the dark

You are awesome for doing this

<waving> Hi!

I'm in Florida' date=' too, farther north in Jacksonville.

I'm not seeing Dr. Kelly, but rather Dr. Illan instead. I'll be there the week before you, but may see you in passing as I leave on 3/26. My surgery got moved from Mi Doctor to Hospital florence, which is the same hospital Dr. Kelly uses, I believe.

I'm sure Lora will be a great resource for you in finding buddies who may not frequent this board. There are some patients of my doctor who have started a private Facebook group. If there isn't something similar for Dr. Kelly, it could be a good tool for you to create to get to know other patients using him.

~Kat[/quote']

Thanks kat!

Bid daddy joe I'm also march 26

March 28th' date=' flying in for early admission on 27th[/quote']

Yayyyyyy! I'm leaving the 25 nice to meet you

Hi I'm traveling from Kissimmee fl to dr. Kelly n march anyone up for some group support ? I would love to know who is also planning for that week?

Congrats Jennifer! I am in Kissimmee and wanted to go with Dr. Kim but my insurance coverage through my employer excludes any type of WLS and I couldn't afford the 18K self-pay price tag. However' date=' I am being sleeved in Cancun on March 8th - very excited! Looking forward to hearing about your journey...best of luck to you and your husband! [/quote']

Hi I'm going to Mexico too. For the same exact reasons,,,, it's nice to know someone in Kissimmee! I'm here too, lets chat sometime. I'm going to dr. Kelly

I compete here in Florida we are doing mud endeavor in march 3 days before my surgery ( yikes )

My husband is training for savage race in July... If I'm well by them I might just join him!

Yea I think of anything agonizing me, that is my toughest issue

Complications leaks and or worse hospitalization. I'm afraid of how my little girl would handle the situation if I went through that. Also the head hunger

I'm a march sleever... Can't say I'm excited but I want it over lol

Measure some.... All I can say is thank you and I have the utmost respect for how much of you you decided to share with us. If this doesn't help anyone else, know that I will be reading your whole story all the way to dr. Kelly's OR. He was my choice from the beginning ... He just felt righ

I saved since September and by march I will be ready to go with dr. Kelly!

Hi I'm 30 I 5'5 weight 209 pound bmi of 34.6 looking forward to doing this surgery to see if I could get my happy back. Lol I have not ONE supportive family member including my husband ( he thinks I'm just freaking lazy) and due to the lack of understanding, I have been yes and no on this surgery, one minute yes one minute no. And is truly based on their opinions not mine.but I'm miserable, to the point that my marriage is in jeopardy and I'm turning into a hermit. I've lost my self confidence, my self esteem and going to the gym is agonizing. I'm having a hard time getting through this but I seriously need to have this surgery. I'm scared and anxious of it because I have a little girl and it makes me feel bad and guilty that I'm putting myself in danger due to being somewhat shallow and wanting to be skinny. My little girl is thick too and I don't wish this self doubt, confidence lacking, can't look in the mirror way of living on my worst enemy... So I really don't want her to ever feel like that either. So I'm stuck do I do it out of vanity and own it, or not do it keep struggling being unhappy until I completely breakdown but everyone else will be happy with my decision to not do it. Smh