Julie76

You are a true inspiration for me. I have been dreading the Christmas parties I have to attend this year even though I lost almost 70lbs I have been worried I won't be able to find any nice dresses to wear. I'm just gonna suck it up and go shopping!!

Great job!!! You look absolutely amazing!!!!

So I broke up with my bf. I'm fine and it took a lot of stress away when I finally decided I had enough of the neanderthal mentality he was throwing at me. However.... This has opened the door to a lot of other bs. I was on a date with a new guy and and old friend (who is a guy) walked up to him and told him to his face that he was going to steal me away from him. First time on a date and that! Not good! Not good at all. I wanted to crawl under a rock and hide. Then we went to a cook off the very next day his own step-father told him that he was a lucky man because if he wasn't married to his mom he would steal me away too. That was just insane and overwhelming. However the new guy really likes me and hasn't ran for the hills yet. Thank God he has a sweet soul and not the neanderthal mentality thing going on cause I could see the last bf hurting someone. After a lot of thought, consideration and talking with the new guy, I have realized that I am not the fat, cool chick that guys want to hang out with but would never date. Now I'm the good looking, cool, chick that everyone wants to date. Things have changed so much for me and I'm happy with the out come of the surgery but me as a person hasn't changed anything but my clothes sizes and eating habits. I know a lot of people on here are going to think I am certifiably crazy but I just don't understand what gives people the right. I love the new me and the fact that people are attracted to me but what do you say when people act like this? Should I just let everyone know before we ever start dating that this happens? Cause that would make me seem real full of myself and I don't want to be that person. So confused.

BTW Diva. I love it! I just wish I had a booty like yours!

I think everyone should post their own shadow photos on here. :biggrin5:

I have lost another 3lbs over the weekend! Everyone is worried about me but I keep telling them this is/was the plan! :biggrin5:

Ok... I know it may sound crazy but I have lost 1 pound a day for the last 10 days. Not that I'm complaining at all.... but I'm 3 1/2 months out and have been a slow loser this far and now all of the sudden BAM here we go. Just has me a little concerned I guess. What do y'all think?

I just wanted to update everyone who was concerned... I have broke it off with my bf. I'd like to say that I am sad about it but I have relief also.

I can't wait to get to the same spot you are in! You look amazing! Congratulations!! :biggrin:

I had my surgery on Aug. 4th 2011, and so far have lost 62lbs.

Girl I feel you! I have been the same way since the day of surgery. I really have to watch what I eat.

I will. Thank you for your concern. I have been in that situation before and got out. Some people are just crazy. I will be as careful as possible.

I have never measured. Wish I had. I just use sizes to measure. I have gone from and 18/20 pants to 10 or 11 pants now. XXL shirts to L. My boobs are rather large so I'm not sure I will ever get below a Med. But will shall see! Congratulation on all of your successes!!! Proud to be on such a wonderful site with a great group of amazing people!

That is so wonderful! You look fabulous! Keep up the good work!

Your right. But I think he is trying to control not so much me but the world outside of me.... everyone around me .... More than me. Like making sure no one touches me or gets too close to me. I just don't get it. I'm no super model... just a real live country girl. I love peace and happiness..... and this isn't peaceful at all. He has gotten better after our talk the other day. Maybe.... just maybe, he sees what it's doing to me. Fingers crossed.

Congratulations!!! That is awesome! Keep up the good work! You'll be there before you know it.

With all honesty I do love him. However, I have been through man hell in this life time and will not tolerate it again. I am a very happy person and he has started to bring me down. I am already in counseling for me and asked him if he wanted to go with me. I was thinking that maybe it was me getting the feeling of fleeing a relationship again (which I am notorious for). He had a fit saying that he didn't need help and neither did I for that matter. So counseling is out for him and I have just been trying to get my therapist to help me with these issues. We have been dating for 10 months now. Maybe this is just the real him??? If that's the case I will just have to cut him loose and move on because I will not live the rest of my life this way. I almost did it yesterday but decided to talk to him one more time. Things seem to be better but I haven't been back to work yet since Saturday when he demanded me quit that job. FYI... I have two jobs. A very respectable full time job and the bar tending helps me afford things for my girls that I otherwise wouldn't be able to afford. He thinks I don't need them both but he's not the one that pays my bills. Sorry if this sounds a little bitchy. I don't mean it to be but I am tiring of his bs real fast. Thank you all for the great advice. Please keep it coming.

You are so right. I was totally insecure being heavier because I felt like it just wasn't me. That being said.... He was the macho man with the some what arrogant personality that I was attracted to. Now he acts like a whipped pup when it comes to being scared I will leave him for something better. As far as him loving me when I was heavier and still loving me.... He told me the other day that he likes me way better now and told me I had better not gain it back. So yeah.... There's that arrogance I like but not when it comes to my weight. Something he would have never done before. I know I have to pick my battles and I hope this will all calm down soon but I hope the more I lose, he won't become more of a jackass.

I'm trying to be as understanding as possible. I'm trying to let him adjust. I love him and I'm sure this too shall pass. At least I pray it does.

You look amazing! Congratulations!

Thanks for making me smile. I don't understand how people can change so easy. I haven't changed. Maybe I smile a little more because I'm happy.. Wear different (cuter) clothes (because I needed some that fit)... And yes, men are paying more attention.... But I'm a bartender...and have been since he met me. I always like the fact that he trusted me.. didn't question me about all the guys hitting on me. Even when I was 232lbs drunks still hit on me. He didn't question it then, why now? Don't get me wrong... a little jealousy is a good thing, but now he wants me to quit my job!???? He hasn't even asked me to marry him. I am so ready to say "SHUT UP and get over it already". Sorry just venting. :banghead:

The chart is kinda crazy. But just a guide. You just have to get where you feel the best at. I just never liked being put in a category like the chart does, so it's kinda like me saying "Take that you stupid chart!"lol Congrats to everyone moving on down in the weight department and moving on up in the getting healthier department!!!

So.... things are getting worse! I thought telling him how I was feeling would make things better but NOOO! Now he comes to my work just to see if people are hitting on me. Just don't know if I can handle this.

I just Googled "BMI Chart" and found many to choose from.

Thank you. That makes a lot of sense. I just hope this doesn't continue to be a problem because I do love him so much. I want him to be the person I fell in love with.