Julie76

Hi everyone. I hate to be posting this but I really need some help getting motivated again. What I don't need is hateful remarks from anyone. I don't mean to be rude but a lot of people on here have been very negitive and that's why I have strayed from this website in the past. My problem... I have become a grazer. I eat close to 1300 calories a day at last count and I only started counting because I felt the weight coming on and started weighing myself again. I have gained 10lbs from my lowest. This has all happened in the last month. I have been under a lot of stress which has contributed to the problem but I thought I was past the emotional eating crap. Part of the stress is some negitive stuff from my boyfriend... part is bills that have increased since my boyfriend... well, lets just face it... the stress is my boyfriend. He quit a job making good money just to come home and be with me because he thought I would cheat on him. His salary was cut by $30,000 easy. Crazy huh? Yeah.... Stressed? Maybe a little! Now the question is... How do I get around this? Get rid of him? IDK! He really is a great guy. It seems I put food in my mouth just so I won't say what's on my mind. Has anyone been herein this situation before? What did you do? How did you cope? Thanks for reading.

I do agree....however, keep in mind this is a tool, not a magic bullet. You have to work this tool. I'm a year out and having grazing issues.

By the way.... I have been very good with my eating today. I believe it's because I'm back here at VGS. Thank you all so much!

Lloyd! No hen pecking necessary. I value everyone’s opinion. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I don't want to leave him at all. I never tell him that he is the reason for my stress and yet another reason for my stress. I should be talking to him in a way of not letting him believe I'm stressed because of the money. However, the insecurities do bother me. I'm not sure how to deal with him thinking I'm going to leave or cheat all the time. We are together every second that we aren't at work so I'm not sure when I'd have a chance anyway.lol I do love him very much.

Oh, I'm sorry.. He has a job ... just a lot less paying job. But your right.

I think he would. He is a great guy. Not a villian. Just insecure.

I'm sure working out the money situation would deffinatly make it better however, he has some control issues he will have to work on. I think every woman likes her man to be a little jealous but he has become over the top.

"As far as negative comments, sometimes it's good to take a step back from a public forum and surround yourself with your core people who are supportive, but honest!!" I do have some great ladies that I meet with offten and I think they have helped me keep my sanity.

Thanks you guys. I think control issues are the deep root of the problem. He is just so scared of losing me now that I have lost the weight. Crazy because he is fit and has never had any issue with weight. I know this is really my problem and I choose to change my life once and I can do it again. I think the working out instead of eating is a great idea. Just thinking before I put it in my mouth will help. I will be more conscience of what (healthy vs. bad, bad, bad) I put in my mouth. Thank you again and please keep them coming.

Ok. So here are mine so far and I guess you could I'm done (because I have been at the weight for a while now).

Sleeved August 4, 2011...Down 92lbs

Nope.

I started out the this journey at 232. Never really thought I could reach my 135 goal... but this morning I got on m y scale and it said 140.2! I think I may just get there. It's been almost 10 months. Who knows... maybe on my 1 yr anniversary I will be at goal.

I don't exercise alot. I was doing some zumba toning and then I had a tumor removed from my leg and haven't got back to it yet. I do stay active though. I ride horses alot and I'm always on the go. If I could say "the secret is ...." I would have to say that it's all about listening to your body. You know when that next bite your about to take is going to be too much. Just don't take it. Your body tells you when it needs sugar or carbs and it tells you when it doesn't. All we have to do is listen. Hope this helps.