debk21

I would also recommend getting a second opinion...are there other bariatric surgeons in your area? Continue your research & good job on your initial loss!

I totally agree that it will all be worth it in the end. Hang in there & jump through all the hoops. You'll be glad you did. We understand the vent & are here for you. Good luck!

The only thing I didn't see you mention was Protein. Where are you on that? If you're at around 50-60, I would recommend upping that to 80-100 gm per day. Sorry for your frustration & I hope it breaks soon. Deb

What it feels like is...rebirth! I have soooo much more energy now and WANT to do things, instead of avoid them. I like what I see in the mirror (Finally) and it's even fun to get dressed in the morning. I get to pick out just the right outfit instead of just figuring out what I have that I didn't wear three days ago and covers what I want it to cover...you're going to LOVE it! Best wishes to you on this journey. Other than choosing my fabulous husband, it's the best decision I ever made. I hope you'll feel the same. Deb

I promise you that everyone wonders that same thing when they hit that first dreaded stall. It will work. Trust your decision, trust your doctor and trust your peeps here. Have you tried measuring? Sometimes when the scale is not moving, the tape measurer is...let your body catch up with all these drastic changes and BAM, you'll start losing again. Keep your water and protein up and keep the faith! Deb

Thank you for your insight. I see where you are coming from and it makes sense. In my defense, I just want to say that I have been paying it forward since 2010, just on another forum, but there was no way for you to know this. I guess when I posted this, I had forgotten that you all had not traveled this journey with me, as others have, and didn't know me from Adam. Consider me schooled. LOL on the finger wagging Nun comment. That made me laugh as I got a visual on it...I'll hang around and try to help some people here as I've been helped/helping elsewhere and maybe this will prove that I'm not just a money grubbing vermin. No hard feelings here and I hope you feel the same. Deb

I self payed in the Dallas/Fort Worth area for $12,500. This was in 2010, but I don't think the pricing has changed much since then. Good luck to you both. I hope she can find something affordable and it's nice of you to try to help her out. Deb

Thank you for your well wishes Steve. I totally agree with you. You CAN get this information here as well as on other forums, free of charge, on a daily basis...if you are willing to wade through all the posts. As a Pre-Op, I searched and searched for a book written by someone who had experienced this surgery and at the time, nothing was available. After reaching goal and maintaining, I wanted to fill that need. I thought it was important to "pay it forward" in a way that was not available to me. I apologize if this is offensive to this community, but I will continue to "put it out there" to attempt to help those who are unsure if they can succeed or don't receive enough information from their surgical teams. Best wishes to you all! Deb

Shame on you two for ridiculing what you don't understand. Wow! This really feels like when I was obese and people made fun of me behind my back...sound familiar? Thank you for reminding me why I bypassed this site after joining in 2010. The post was about the questions we ask ourselves pre-op and what those answers are/were for me. The point was to help those who are asking those same questions and allay some of those fears. I believe I mention my book at the end of the post to show that I actually know what I'm talking about, but your comments border on rude and I don't take that crap from anyone these days. Remember, you get what you give. I choose to educate and enlighten, not belittle and ridicule. Good luck to you both on your journeys and I hope you learn some manners along the way. Deb

I'm 2 1/2 years out & I can honestly say this is the best decision I ever made. Went from a size 22 to a 4 & have more energy than I ever thought possible. Keep that upbeat attitude & you can achieve your goals. Best of luck to you all! Deb

It will get better every day. Congratulations! Sending healing vibes youryour way! Deb

with me, it started in my face & worked its way down...I guess everybody is different. Maybe you'll get lucky...