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Yes, the band is a tool, but without a proper fill, that tool is still in the toolbox, LOL!!! I agree with Blossom's statement. My weight loss has pretty much stopped since December! I feel I need another fill and I've had 5 since my surgery in October. I'm at 2.00. I've got to get in for another one. Thanks La Madam for letting us relatively new bandsters know that the fullness is more in your chest. I get that tight feeling sometimes at the beginning of a meal. So I stop eating for a few minutes, but then it will go away. I was able to eat a whole cheeseburger Happy Meal the other day. (I know I shouldn't have, but I'd been out all day and was starving.) But that's just what frustrates me! I think if I was properly tightened I wouldn't be able to do that.

Again, thanks to all. I'd forgotten how easy it is to look up things here as well. I went back to the "fills" forum and found lots of good information. I do think I haven't reached my "sweet spot" yet. And it's nice to know I'm not the only one who's fills seem to come and go either. I'm making a mental list of all the wonderful things in my life, my grandson being first on the list, my band, my health, improvement in the health of my husband, my wonderful daughters. I have a lot to be thankful for. Problems that seem insurmountable aren't most of the time. Things will get better. Now to call the doctor's office and schedule a fill and maybe an appointment with the counselor! Hugs to everyone.

Thank you guys so much. It really helped just to get it all out and "talk" about it. Just doing that has helped me get up and get more organized with my job search and make some lists already. And yes, Marie -- you're so wonderfully logical -- it will help me a lot to just think of one step at a time, one day at a time, when it comes to re-attacking my weight loss. I do need to visit you guys on a regular basis to keep me on track. I've had 5 fills I think and I'm at 2.00 cc's. I got the last one just two weeks ago. Sometimes I think I'm not tight enough and sometimes I think I just eat the wrong things. What does it really "feel like" to be as full as you should be? Do you "know" when it's finally right? How much food should be enough? And Dr. Johnell's office is still so supportive. Are you still getting your fills there Kim? Cutting off my daughter's financial support has been both a burden and a relief Penni. I know before they're totally stable (if ever) I'll give in and help them again and I know I'm probably not doing them any favors. There's just no one else who can help them. It's their wedding we're paying for in July and it's just too hard to postpone it. Lots of things are already paid for and ordered. She already postponed the original date from February to July. I don't dislike her fiance, I just wonder (do all parents do this?) if she couldn't have done better. Just for instance, he barely graduated high school and she's a college graduate. Thus the reason for her ability to get a job more quickly than him. And unfortunately for him, our first son-in-law, father of our grandchild and who lost his mother, is such a perfect fit into our family. We just love him. He's so hard working, mature and personable. He's a hard act to follow. I have given a lot of thought to going some other route career-wise and I may just do that if I can hold on long enough. Unemployment checks don't come fast enough do they! Sorry for the unburdening. I just thought this would be the perfect place for the support that I need for at least one of my problems. I never expected such loving responses about everything else.

I am very sad, mad, embarrassed, whatever and don't know where else to go. I need some help. I'm afraid to confess because I can't take getting criticized for making stupid decisions, or no decisions, and not following the rules. First the confession, I am sabotaging my weight loss. My surgery was Oct. 28 and I've lost a total of about 25 lbs., 5 of that before the surgery. I've been on a plateau of a range of the same 3 lbs. for nearly three months now. My only real loss was right after the surgery. I eat all the time. In my defense my band isn't tight enough. I'm calling on Monday. But it wouldn't matter. I sit and snack on things I shouldn't and eat too much at meals. I don't drink enough water. I watch too much TV and I can't make myself go to Curves. And I'm getting worse. Then let me start with my excuses. It's been a difficult three months. My daughter quit her job in December and came home from Florida with no job -- her and her fiance too -- and I've been helping them along financially because no one else could. I'm tired of worrying about that but they have no one else. Then I lost my job of 10 years the end of December, I guess mostly due to a bunch of buyouts of the company I worked for, but probably due to some mistakes I made too. Then my husband lost his job through no fault of his own, the company just ran out of money. We are not broke, don't get me wrong, but the beating my ego has taken over this is terrible. I turned down one job offer, only to have another one fall through. Now the only things that seem to be out there are at half my old salary. So I'm trying to make some decisions about what do to with myself -- go back to school, take a lower paying job, etc. It seems like all I do is sit at the computer looking for a job. My husband is looking too but neither of us is getting anywhere. And we have a wedding to pay for in July. In the middle of all of this our son-in-law's mother was killed in a car accident. You wouldn't think that would be such an issue for me. But she was very tall and slim and so cheerful. She was younger than I am and I have survivor's guilt I think. It makes me sad to think she'll never see our grandson again and he won't remember her because he's only two. My daughter did get a good job, but still can't pay all her bills. Her fiance doesn't have a job yet. We're hoping for one on Monday. I have pretty much cut them off to fend for themselves but she owes me/us a lot of money my husband doesn't know about. He's not happy with her choice for a husband -- probably if I admit it neither am I. He'd go ballastic over all this and I can't handle that either. I know life could be so much worse and I'm not complaining about it. These are just some of the things I've been dealing with. I just can't seem to get my act together and focus on my weight loss. I went through all of this to not succeed. I know 25 lbs. is a good loss, but I'd gained 10 - 15 lbs. prior to going for my first consultation. So actually from last Spring I'm only down about 10 lbs. I'm so embarrassed to see people who know I've had the surgery (which is just about everybody) because I know they're thinking that I'm not succeeding even though they don't say so. I sometimes really wish I'd had gastric bypass like some of my freinds. But I know it could have been so much better if I wasn't cheating so badly and put forth a better effort and it's not really the bands fault. I don't know what you guys are going to say. You are so supportive of each other. I'm so, so disappointed that I'm not at at least 30-40 lbs. lost. I need some help desperately. Please don't e-mail me at home though. I wouldn't want my husband to read this. And don't get me wrong, he's a good guy. He has his own serious health problems and can't handle anymore stress. I know I'm depressed but I'm already on medication and don't want anymore. I just want some success - SOMEWHERE! Thanks for listening.

Great news Kim, I was banded by Johnell and didn't think he did fills for other surgeon's patients. Glad to find out that he does. I'm due for my first one Dec. 10 and I feel just like you. I'll be the only one who's slow to feel restriction and slow to lose. Right now (4 weeks from surgery) I don't feel much restriction at all and have to remind myself to watch how much I eat.

I just realized that was a dumb question, since I found the "sticky" but I can't get to the site.

Hi, I tried to get to this site and it seems to no longer be there. I can never get in enough Protein without a shake or two. Could someone tell me how to find a "sticky"? Thanks

Good luck Ryan! You'll do great I'm sure.

Hi Mary, I was banded by Dr. Johnell on October 28. I'm just getting used to my band. So far have lost about 15 lbs. but none in the last week. I "lurk" a lot here too and learn all sorts of things from this site. I discovered there's a good reason for following the eating rules and will certainly go back to them as best I can. I'm not filled yet and I think I might have been eating a little too much just because it goes down fine. How did you do with the first few "very strict" weeks? Congratulations on your loss. I too hope to get to 160 or so from a high of about 250. I just want to be able to say I am no longer obese!

You guys crack me up. I needed that laugh Penni. That "sustained fart" was a hoot. What I've noticed more after banding is not quite a burp but like a roll of gas bubbles coming up.

Hi Kristy, Welcome to the club. I'm a new bandster too. Banded on October 28 and have lost about 15 lbs. too. It's great to get into a whole new set of numbers isn't it! We're off to a great start! I understand your concern about the heart problems. I have been through similar issues with my husband. He had his mitral valve repaired in 1993 and now has cardiomyopathy. He has always kept himself in great shape with running and the repair surgery went very well. We were shocked to be told this year that he had the myopathy, probably from a viral infection he had two years ago. The heart seems to be forever susceptible to invaders once you've had a problem with it. Being in good shape is what's kept him going. His doctor wonders how he does what he does. You're smart to take care of yourself now. Health was the big reason I did this for myself as well. I'm 52 with a husband, two daughters and a wonderful grandson I want to be around for. Good luck. This is a wonderful site for all kinds of support and information.