cantpauselife

The only thing they didn't tell me was how happy I will be. How proud I am of myself. How I'm becoming ME again. I have NO regrets. Everyone is different after surgery. I wasn't hungry at all for about a month after surgery. I had to force myself to eat something. I followed all the rules. I was banded 1/30/13 and so far I've lost 44 pounds. I'm not working out in the sense of a gym workout but I take the four flights of stairs at work...I park far away...I walk my dog every day...I landscape now...I swim with my daughter and I go out with my girlfriends dancing. Stuff I haven't done in yeads due to my weight and insecurities. I eat better and so does my family. I'm not near goal yet, but I have a realistic idea of what that is and for the first time, I have confidence that in a couple years I will achieve it. I'm glad you are asking these questions. Its important for you to know as much as you can. Just remember this is what you make it. You can go as far or not as far as you want it to go.

I feel the same ! Wish I could pause uni and work for a few months so I could get all the appointments and preparation done and get myself on the road to healthy! Oh well! We'll make it fit I'm sure !

I've told my story on a similar thread. I'm being very careful who I tell. I have fingers left over when I count the friends/family that I've told. I have more anxiety about people judging me and watching me than I do about the actual procedure. I've always had issues with people knowing/judging what I eat...from childhood. I'm scheduled for surgery on September 11. My counselor and I are working on my issues and she and I have agreed that for now, I don't have to tell people. I don't have to lie, either. When asked, if I'm comfortable telling the person the WHOLE story, then I will. If not, then I just have to say, I'm watching what I eat and trying to exercise more. That's not a lie. Funny thing, though...I have absolutely no problem telling complete strangers I'll never see again exactly what I'm doing. The guy who delievered and set up the new treadmill in the house..told him. The lady at the grocery store giving me a rain check for the Protein Powder on sale...told her. The lady at the plus-size clothing store...told her. But, the lady in the office next to me...NO WAY. LOL. I realize my issues are not rational. My counselor says that's a good sign...we'll see. I did slip up while talking to a co-worker yesterday and it just came out of my mouth. He smiled and said "good for you." I have a feeling I'm eventually not going to keep secrets. I may be so damn proud of myself for taking control of my life again that I want to sing it from the rooftops...but for now, I'm just humming.

I got more Reinforcement why I'm not telling my coworkers today! We were talking about "master chef" and I mentioned the bigger of the three had WLS and a coworker said "well he's still big!" I was shocked and said "well he just had it done give him a minute!" Lol everyone must think you will wake up from surgery thin! >.<
I don't want or need that negative judgement when I become banded!

I am not banded yet, but don't plan on telling too many people. I usually am very open, but in this case I am shameful about my weight and don't want to talk about it, I guess. Also, if I fail, I will look even worse in my mind.
The thing is, I hate lying so this may be hard LOL. I think I will go with the high protien, low calorie and exercise line as it is really not a lie!! Like some others, I plan on saying it is a hernia operation or a problem with my stomach, again not really a lie.

I've gone about half and half--my family and my best friend from high school know, but I'm not planning on telling neighbors, work friends, casual acquaintances, etc. I don't intend to lie, but I also don't intend to answer any questions I don't want to. It's not a secret and I'm not ashamed, it's just really none of their business.
The funny thing, however, is that I can't stop telling total strangers! The lady at hair Cuttery, the guy at GNC, and the flight attendant from last week all know. The nice thing is they were all so positive and supportive--I'm glad to have had those conversations.

I am really struggling with this. I have a list called "People Who Know" in a LapBand journal I started a month or so ago. Husband, local friend, far away friend, another friend who has weight issues -- she has been most skeptical -- and that's it so far. Hospital peeps, obviously. NOT telling my mother. She is elderly and a source of body/weight issues. I don't want to have to deal with her. We have a son turning 18 and I want to tell him at the right time (near to date), but otherwise I feel like I need my privacy. Except for here -- you guys are awesome.