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I went through the same feelings and doubts you are having. I even backed out the 1st time I scheduled a doctor's consultation. A month later I had made up my mind to commit to surgery. For me, it boiled down to answering 2 questions: 1) Do I want to be in this situation or worse a year from now? 2) Is the pain of staying like I am worse than the pain of change? And you know my answers already. I committed to surgery and was willing to live with the consequences. And vowed not to regret my choice. After all, there was no going back, once 80% of my stomach was removed. So, no use regretting what can't be changed. :-) "The reason I am having doubts is because I am afraid I won't be able to have a normal life - I'm afraid I won't be able to go out to eat with my husband and eat normal (but smaller portion) foods." - Within a year, I was eating anything I wanted. Funny thing was, I no longer had a taste or desire for most of the flavors I used to love and crave. I still love steak, Pasta, rice, pizza... but I don't crave or "need" to eat any particular food anymore. I can be just as satisfied eating chicken breast as I would eating a rice and gravy. ( I was going to say "pizza" instead of rice & gravy, but even I don't believe that statement! But I can honestly say that I can pass on eating pizza without the slightest regret. ) I can eat at any restaurant without fear of not finding something I want. "I'm afraid I won't be able to get in enough Protein and I will lose a lot of hair. I'm afraid I will end up accidentally choosing the wrong food and getting sick all the time. I'm afraid I won't be able to enjoy any of the foods I do now." - For the 1st few months, getting in the recommended protein levels can be a challenge... at least it was for me. I viewed my doctor's recommended protein levels as something to work towards. My only concern was staying hydrated [ which was not a problem, thanks to Crystal Light lemonade :-) ]... the rest would come with time and healing. - Hair loss can be a problem. I did not really notice it, but I have extra thick hair. I only noticed that it was a month longer between hair cuts. In 6 months, my hair was growing normally again. But I made sure protein came first in my diet - that might have made the difference. "I'm mostly afraid I will regret the surgery for the reasons I just listed and I will no longer be my happy self. I don't want to lose the weight but end up being unhappy." - I've found that I'm still me, 2 years later, maybe a bit more extroverted... okay a LOT more extroverted. And my whole way of thinking about food has changed. I used to "know" that I'd be hungry every 2 hours and have to plan for it. I'd get these cravings for pizza, cherrys, hamburgers, that would compel me to go out and get some before I could sleep. That's all gone. Food does not dominate my life anymore. I still eat out at buffet restaurants - I don't feel like I'm not getting my money's worth. I go to hang out with my friends, not for the food. - Once food was no longer the center of my life, I was in control. And it's a great feeling. Being the same size as my co-workers feels great. Not being embarrassed eating in front of others feels great. Eating a small piece of cake or some ice cream at a party - and not feeling like everyone is looking at me thinking, "Look at that fat pig, no wonder he's fat!". Being able to buy clothes that fit AND are the style I like is wonderful - I don't have to settle for what fits. "Today I am on day 4 of my 2 week liquid diet and I cheated this afternoon when I was having so many doubts. I had some chicken, so I'm hoping I didn't mess up too much to have my surgery. I haven't cheated at all other than this evening. " -I cheated on my pre-op diet too. But I limited my cheating to pure protein, no carbs at all!!!!! And I still lost 10lbs in 7 days. From experience, I know that low carb eating keeps my weight down. I just couldn't stick with it long term without the help of VSG surgery. "How long until I feel normal. " - I've never felt normal - pre or post surgery. So I can't answer that one. :-P - I hope this helps put you at ease. And watch my video below on my pre-op freak out and food funerals. That may help too.

Congratulations on doing so well.

I've only tried Isopure unflavored Protein powder - I like it. Just don't ever eat it by itself! It hardened like cement in my mouth the first time I tried to taste test it!

Chicken/steak does that to me too. My 1st 6 months, I had to whopper chop my chicken and mix it in with re-fried Beans - otherwise Frankensleeve would have a fit! Chicken in any form seems to be a very difficult food for many to readjust to after WLS. It still feels like a hard knot at the top of my stomach sometimes. I have been eating primarily pork loin as my Protein source for a long time. It doesn't seem to upset Frankensleeve and pork loin really takes on the seasoning and flavors - unlike chicken breast.

When I get the old "man that would taste good" feeling, I go eat some Protein, till I'm full. Then and only then will I allow myself to eat the "goodie". The protein really fills me up, it gets my mind to associate protein with my food cravings (instead of carbs), and I don't have much room in Frankensleeve - so a bite or two of the bad stuff doesn't have a tremendous impact on me. Hang in there, you can do it. It takes time to work past old habits and cravings. Take small steps, do what feels right and you'll see the weight fall off.

I've only tried 3 brands - Premier Protein, EAS and Muscle Milk. Premier chocolate was my favorite and I've stuck with it for almost 2 years. I like my shakes a little thicker, so I toss in a scoop of a powdered chocolate protein mix. It adds 10 grams of protein to my shake too.

A little paranoia is good, but try not to let it paralyze your actions. It will keep you vigilant and on track. I know where you're coming from. I was afraid to transition from full liquids to purees - I was afraid I'd "break the magic" and my weight loss would stop. It takes some time to get used to the idea that the "magic" will continue. You don't have to be in a rush to transition to new foods. Take your time, and get comfortable with one food at a time. As to the cost, I've never bought any of the expensive name brand Vitamins, my doc said just buy a good one. I was taking the generic Sam's Club multi, but recently found that the mulit-vitamins with Whole Food extracts make me feel better all day - and they cost $25 for a months supply. The money I save on food more than covers that cost. Mexican food or any other foods - I would suggest that any foods you eat be as close to the "source" as possible. Meaning, buy them at the grocery store and cook them yourself. By doing that, I know approximately what and how much processing is/has been done to the food. At a restaurant or from a box, you don't know how much sugar/flower/msg or other additives you're eating. I try to get as much nutrition from my food as possible/per bite/per calorie. You can do it! Take one small step at a time. Make the choices that are important and feel right for you. Heck! Call your doctor or nutritionist and ask their opinion! If you have a local support group, goto a meeting and hear other stories and how they coped with their food issues. Keep reading the threads on Bariatricpal, there's a wealth of information. Someone on here has gone through anything you may experience. And, (blatant plug!) watch my Youtube videos. I've tried to go over some of the most common topics and questions I've found on the WLS boards. I believe in you. Now get back to it! And Keep Pimpin' that Sleeve!

At 4 weeks out, this recipe was my primary food. I couldn't tolerate much else, so I was eating it for almost every meal. http://www.bariatricpal.com/blogs/entry/31168-my-favorite-mexican-food/

I was told upfront about all the tests I would have to complete, and EKG and sleep study are very common, if not required by doctors and insurance companies. It sucks that they are blindsiding you with tests they knew you'd be required to take. One thing I did find out the hard way, the hospitals won't do surgery if your blood tests are more than 3 days old, at least in Texas. After letting them draw 9 vials of blood for the 1st round of tests, I find out 5 days before surgery that I had to do it all over again. I'm already nervous about needles, it didn't make it better having to drive 4 hours round trip to my hospital to repeat the blood work test.

Did you take a picture? Did you call Guinness? Thanks for sharing. I've gone through the same thing, but was too afraid to share such a vivid description of what I went through! I've had to strain so hard that I was afraid I'd have an anurism and die on the toilet - like the constipated gangster in the TV series, The Sopranos. I had to train myself to relax my neck and face while on the toilet! I think you deserve an NSV award, just for surviving!!!!

Congratulations! I would chalk that up as a PRE-OP NSV!!! No matter what happened yesterday, no matter what mistakes you feel you made, no matter what setbacks may have been dealt to you, no matter what obstacles you struggled with, today is a new day to start fresh, to return to your journey, to do what matters, to change what needs changing, to improve upon old habits, and to get better - as you are committed to doing every day. Stay strong and keep on pushing on...and never give up on what is important to you, even if yesterday it got further away from you. Pull it back towards you today. Stake your claim. Change your ways. Do what is right for YOU!

The funny part was, I found the Splenda brown sugar ... and guess what! It has the same calorie count as regular sugar! So if figured, why pay extra for Splenda brown sugar if it has real sugar in it anyway! And if you use real brown sugar (3 tsp) it only adds 45 calories to the total recipe.

I have had depression for years, waaaayyyyyy before surgery. It has not gotten any worse/better 2 years post-op. I am a little happier overall and my self-esteem is much much higher with the weight loss. But the 2 weeks right after surgery, I was pissed at the world an was ready to fight anyone and everyone - for no reason I can figure out! But, for everything I've gone though, it was sooooooo worth it to be released from the Fat Suit I was trapped in and to realize the dream of being a normal sized person. But you gotta be willing to commit to the necessary changes it will entail. I was a rock bottom before I committed to surgery. You are stronger than you think. You CAN make BIG changes. Imagine yourself a year from now. What chances will you regret not taking? What opportunities will you regret having turned down? Certain sacrifices are worth it. I wish upon you the wisdom to know which ones are right.

I find that even if I eat good carbs - like fruit or if I eat processed foods, I tend to stall out. I have to stick to pork/beef/chicken, that I cook myself and low glycemic vegetables - broccoli, cauliflower, brussell sprouts, green beans, if I want to continue to lose weight. Even an extra apple a day is enough sugar to prevent me from losing weight.

When they put me under, it was literally like I blinked my eyes closed and open them again. It seemed to go that quick. Other than a little scratchiness in my throat - which I wouldn't have noticed if I hadn't been expecting it, everything went fine. I could have driven myself home if I had to. In 2 hours, it was like it never happened.

Here's a link to my recipe for my favorite Mexican puree dish. I literally lived on this stuff for weeks and weeks when Frankensleeve would not tolerate anything else. My Favorite Mexican Dish http://www.bariatricpal.com/blogs/entry/31168-my-favorite-mexican-food/

NSAIDs were on my restrictions list, but it was only temporary. After a month of healing, I had no medication restrictions.

Thanks for sharing your recipe. I was just curious why you didn't eat real oatmeal? Is this recipe for the puree stage or soft food stage? Or your sleeve doesn't like oatmeal? Thanks

I would recommend putting those funds aside somewhere, rather than buying up things that you might need. I wasn't advised to take any supplements pre-surgery. And I've never been advised to take anything other than a multivitamin, B12, and calcium. I've tried different supplements and "super foods" but never felt like they made a significant difference in the way I felt or in my health.

Pineapple and grapes - took me almost 9 months to train Frankensleeve to love them again. And still, sometimes, he acts up when I eat pineapple.

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Thanks for sharing your experience with Miralax. We all go through the constipation phase. And the question of how to get through it comes up often. I'm sure your story has helped a bunch of people. Fortunately, I seem to have gotten past all of that after the 1st year post-op.

Welcome aboard. This is a great community and there are a lot of people that are happy to answer your questions. It's been 2 years, but I can still remember how nervous/excited I was when I committed to surgery. The time from pre-op to finish is really going to depend on your insurance requirements and your doctor. From start to finish, I was done in less than 30 days. But, my insurance was Bariatric Friendly and I was already diagnosed with a co-morbidity (sleep apnea) that qualified me for VSG surgery. Some insurance companies require lengthy doctor supervised diets, multiple sessions with a nutritionist, in addition to the normal pre-op tests done to prepare for surgery. The best advice I can give you is to call your insurance company and ask them for a list of pre-surgery requirements and a list of WLS co-morbidities that they will accept before approving surgery. Then call your surgeon and find out his expected timetable for your surgery. Stay strong and keep on pushing on...and never give up on what is important to you, even if yesterday it got further away from you. Pull it back towards you today. Stake your claim. Change your ways. Do what is right for YOU!

Thanks for sharing your receipe. I'll have to give this one a try. I've had a taste for pepperoni ever since a co-worker heated some up left-over pizza at work. This will be a better substitute.

Hey guys, just wanted to share another NSV benefit from having VSG. Pre-surgery my blood pressure was averaging 143 over 105. 2 years later its averaging 125 over 90. Sometimes it even gets as low as 117/82. I check my pressure about once a week when I make a Sam's Club run. They have a blood pressure machine over at the pharmacy.