Sharpie

so here is a dating story from an older lady. I had a lapband when I was 66. I lost my husband of 39 years a few years ago. He loved me fat or thin. I also lost 3 other members of my family at that same time . I was depressed but knew I had to try to maintain my weight loss. Met a man through a weekly charity poker game. so long story short, he asked me out and I told him up front about my weight loss surgery and I had a lot of apron skin at the time. I still started to feel confident because he always said he didn't care about that, liked me because I was confident. I had skin surgry last Spring and he was by my side and took care of me. Life has no guarantees and it goes by so fast. If a man only cares about you if you are perfect and thin you need to find someone who is genuinely caring and honest. I am very blessed and we are now engaged to be married and he still loves me for who I am. sometimes its destiny. Get out there and live life, and if it's meant to be it will happen.

I'm very happy with my band, and my surgeon did all procedures, but based on my age and other factors he strongly suggested having the band, My insurance would have any of the weight loss procedures. There are three surgeons, and several APRNs handle the follow up visits. My wife had the sleeve, same surgeon,and she is expected to have follow visits and yearly blood work. My surgeon still does lap bands, based on the needs of that patient. If you go for low price, you may get what you pay for. There are Bariatric Centers of Excellence for a reason.
I seldom bother checking in or posting is because the forum has largely turned into a band bashing melee, and I suspect most other long time regulars have left for the reason. This was a great place when it catered only to lap banders. Now anyone with a lap band issue is assailed by VSG cultists.

Apparently, have not posted since March 2016 when my weight was in the mid 170's. Right about then I stopped posting on this site, Stopped exercising and Stopped watching what I ate between meals and let me see I gained about 45 lbs.
My 4 cc lap band has 1cc of Fluid cannot tolerate much more than that. My Doctor caught up with me and am know back on track and have lost 10 pounds. Let me see I am watching what I eat, and exercising either walking or resistance band training.
Stil a lot to be thankful for I managed to stop the madness for awhile have not come close to my original starting weight of 330 lbs.
I am still very thankful for my lap band that I received over 10 years ago.

too much fun, it's good to see you are still here. lurking is fine. I've been lurking myself. my 5 year bandiversery is the 15th of this month. I am still happy I made the decision to get healthy and I have gained about 5 lbs over the past 5 years mostly this last year because of letting my guard down. Dating and becoming engaged this past year has made me happy and I have eaten more . I have to get myself back on the program now so I don't get out of control. Take Care and keep us posted on your progress.

that is so funny Liz, I was completely surprised but of course excited. I am a very lucky woman at my age to find someone who is just a loving, interesting, kind man. We enjoy so many things together. I truly feel blessed. Glad to hear you and Corey are still together.

too much fun, it's good to see you are still here. lurking is fine. I've been lurking myself. my 5 year bandiversery is the 15th of this month. I am still happy I made the decision to get healthy and I have gained about 5 lbs over the past 5 years mostly this last year because of letting my guard down. Dating and becoming engaged this past year has made me happy and I have eaten more . I have to get myself back on the program now so I don't get out of control. Take Care and keep us posted on your progress.

too much fun, it's good to see you are still here. lurking is fine. I've been lurking myself. my 5 year bandiversery is the 15th of this month. I am still happy I made the decision to get healthy and I have gained about 5 lbs over the past 5 years mostly this last year because of letting my guard down. Dating and becoming engaged this past year has made me happy and I have eaten more . I have to get myself back on the program now so I don't get out of control. Take Care and keep us posted on your progress.

Dating at any age is difficult. At age 68 my husband of 39 year passed away. It was a difficult year during his illness. fortunately I had lapband surgery in 2013 and lost 70 lbs. It gave me the energy and mental ability to deal with his illness and I was able to care for him until he passed away. I had no intention to date or get romantically involved with anyone. Felt like I was too old . I went to the gym and helped with my grandkids and felt life was going to be a lonely time for me. I was invited to a charity poker club and started playing twice a week. I met a man who was single had been divorced for many years. We spoke some at the poker club , he asked one of the other guys if I was single. He asked me out to dinner and the next week was my birthday (70) he came and now we are together. He makes me feel so young and happy. I believe dating and being happy is about your attitude but you have to feel good about yourself first. If I had not had surgery and lost my weight, I doubt I would have had the courage to get involved with anyone. He knows I had WLS and is proud of me. He tells me I am beautiful every day. Keep working on yourself then get involved in a activity where you could possibly find someone special.

Okay ladies, Big News.. My guy proposed to me this past Tuesday nite. We normally sing karoke on Tuesday nites with a group of friends. apparently he invited the whole world to this event without my knowledge. We arrived as usual and everyone I mean everyone I knew was there. didn't think about it much except I commented on wow I see people who I haven't seen in months. his response was well I did tell them your birthday was this week so they might have come for that? Long story short, he sang "I Swear" which is by john micheal Montgomery, (country song).. and then asked me to come up front, he dropped on his knee and totally took me by surprise,. gave me a beautiful diamond ring, It couldn't have been more romantic. I am such a lucky woman. apparently my best friend and him had it planned.. he bought champagne for everyone and of course I said Yes.. lol so now my motivation to lose some lbs will be our wedding which we haven't set a date for yet. My 71st birthday is today and I am feeling very blessed. Hope you all are well and have a wonderful holiday.

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Glad to hear of Joy in this group! Life continues to change.
So happy for Sharpie and Liz to enjoy their lives with a great person

Tomorrow marks 11 years for my good ole lapband
Things are well. I have less than 1 in my 4 capacity band and is fairly on my shoulders... this is where it gets a bit rough.
Silly me, kinda thought I understood And went along. Now I am up a size and over 15 lb gain... still happy. Still rather normal
Feeling, but no more.
New sleep meds have helped and. Life goes on

JWM. I'm always glad to read your posts. New house. Empty nester
No husband ...is that all there is? I'm ok if it is

Sharpie, I’m so happy for you! What a joyful Christmas! Liz, that’s funny!! Julie, your eleven years of success truly inspire me!

These were great posts to wake up to today.

that is so funny Liz, I was completely surprised but of course excited. I am a very lucky woman at my age to find someone who is just a loving, interesting, kind man. We enjoy so many things together. I truly feel blessed. Glad to hear you and Corey are still together.

Okay ladies, Big News.. My guy proposed to me this past Tuesday nite. We normally sing karoke on Tuesday nites with a group of friends. apparently he invited the whole world to this event without my knowledge. We arrived as usual and everyone I mean everyone I knew was there. didn't think about it much except I commented on wow I see people who I haven't seen in months. his response was well I did tell them your birthday was this week so they might have come for that? Long story short, he sang "I Swear" which is by john micheal Montgomery, (country song).. and then asked me to come up front, he dropped on his knee and totally took me by surprise,. gave me a beautiful diamond ring, It couldn't have been more romantic. I am such a lucky woman. apparently my best friend and him had it planned.. he bought champagne for everyone and of course I said Yes.. lol so now my motivation to lose some lbs will be our wedding which we haven't set a date for yet. My 71st birthday is today and I am feeling very blessed. Hope you all are well and have a wonderful holiday.

Hey girls , bet you thought I had dropped off the earth.. still here still doing well, I am a little bit over my goal weight, now 135, I think I have been happy in love and eating out too much. had my skin surgery in March, feel so much better without the apron. my guy has had a few health issues but overall we are still doing great, went to Vegas in June going to go again in January.
I will try to attach picture . I think about all of you often, we also had a hurricane and were without power for 5 days It was difficult but no damage and no injuries. keep praying for the people in Puerto Rico it must be horrible for them.I'm like you Liz, no exercise and no control over sugar again. long term success is difficult. I still am happy I Had it done and have restriction, too much sometimes not enough other times. I had a hard time logging in , forgot my password but finally figured it out.
I will be checking in more I need all the support I can get.

Okay ladies, Big News.. My guy proposed to me this past Tuesday nite. We normally sing karoke on Tuesday nites with a group of friends. apparently he invited the whole world to this event without my knowledge. We arrived as usual and everyone I mean everyone I knew was there. didn't think about it much except I commented on wow I see people who I haven't seen in months. his response was well I did tell them your birthday was this week so they might have come for that? Long story short, he sang "I Swear" which is by john micheal Montgomery, (country song).. and then asked me to come up front, he dropped on his knee and totally took me by surprise,. gave me a beautiful diamond ring, It couldn't have been more romantic. I am such a lucky woman. apparently my best friend and him had it planned.. he bought champagne for everyone and of course I said Yes.. lol so now my motivation to lose some lbs will be our wedding which we haven't set a date for yet. My 71st birthday is today and I am feeling very blessed. Hope you all are well and have a wonderful holiday.

Hey girls , bet you thought I had dropped off the earth.. still here still doing well, I am a little bit over my goal weight, now 135, I think I have been happy in love and eating out too much. had my skin surgery in March, feel so much better without the apron. my guy has had a few health issues but overall we are still doing great, went to Vegas in June going to go again in January.
I will try to attach picture . I think about all of you often, we also had a hurricane and were without power for 5 days It was difficult but no damage and no injuries. keep praying for the people in Puerto Rico it must be horrible for them.I'm like you Liz, no exercise and no control over sugar again. long term success is difficult. I still am happy I Had it done and have restriction, too much sometimes not enough other times. I had a hard time logging in , forgot my password but finally figured it out.
I will be checking in more I need all the support I can get.

Hey girls , bet you thought I had dropped off the earth.. still here still doing well, I am a little bit over my goal weight, now 135, I think I have been happy in love and eating out too much. had my skin surgery in March, feel so much better without the apron. my guy has had a few health issues but overall we are still doing great, went to Vegas in June going to go again in January.
I will try to attach picture . I think about all of you often, we also had a hurricane and were without power for 5 days It was difficult but no damage and no injuries. keep praying for the people in Puerto Rico it must be horrible for them.I'm like you Liz, no exercise and no control over sugar again. long term success is difficult. I still am happy I Had it done and have restriction, too much sometimes not enough other times. I had a hard time logging in , forgot my password but finally figured it out.
I will be checking in more I need all the support I can get.

Congrats!! What wonderful news. Funny story in a similar vein....Corey got down on one knee last night as we were walking around the Christmas Shoppes in Union Square and one of the vendors got so excited...he thought he was seeing a proposal until I dashed the guy's hopes. I knew that Corey was down on one knee tying his shoelace.

I’m trying to get used to the idea of dating. I’ve met a half dozen men on Match for coffee, and I think something is subconsciously sending me back to the food. I really love my new life, my new home, and the freedom of being a true empty nester. I’m not even sure why I feel the pressure to find a partner. I like the attention, I suppose. Man, this is complicated.

But WLS is the "easy way out", right?

Nope. Nope. Nope. The struggle is real.

It's much better for me banded than without, but I am eating between 1200-1300 calories a day and I can't get below 178.

If I'm not vigilant or if I make too many exceptions, five to ten pounds comes on immediately.

Lisa, I do love my band, but if I were doing this for the first time today, I would opt for the sleeve.

I just had to get a new general practitioner because my other one retired. I will miss him. He was the one that approved me for weight-loss surgery. So I found another doctor in the same location, and I told her I was a bariatric patient. I asked her if she had other lap band patients in her practice. She said oh yes but you must be the poster child for LapBand. Most of my patients do not have success with the band.

I was taken aback by that comment. It also made me a bit nervous. In terms of long-term success I mean.

Well, I just keep thinking that Alex here has had success for over a dozen years. So far, I have not had one stitch of trouble with my band. I know I am at the right restriction level because I still do get stuck if I eat too quickly or don't chew well enough.

So for today I guess I'm in good shape. This final 30 pounds won't come off unless I up my exercise, and I am just too lazy and unwilling to do that. So for that, I have nobody to blame except myself.

Went to schedule a fill... dang, Dr retired... trying to find a new Dr to fill... all are about 45 minutes away. Some do not adjust bands..
Harder task than I thought
Back to mixing Protein Drinks.
I swear I am not going backwards... too far ...
Harder than I thought.
Still apparently have "fat brain "
"syndrome. Sigh
And I'm trying to track down surgery documents from almost 11 years ago, and my original Doc has retired.
Life still goes on. Choices to make every day

How are my peeps? I’m frustrated with ten pounds that won’t budge since summer. I did a two-day P rotein S hake reset this week and I thought I’d never make it. lol. How the heck I managed six weeks post-op on l iquids is beyond me.

so here is a dating story from an older lady. I had a lapband when I was 66. I lost my husband of 39 years a few years ago. He loved me fat or thin. I also lost 3 other members of my family at that same time . I was depressed but knew I had to try to maintain my weight loss. Met a man through a weekly charity poker game. so long story short, he asked me out and I told him up front about my weight loss surgery and I had a lot of apron skin at the time. I still started to feel confident because he always said he didn't care about that, liked me because I was confident. I had skin surgry last Spring and he was by my side and took care of me. Life has no guarantees and it goes by so fast. If a man only cares about you if you are perfect and thin you need to find someone who is genuinely caring and honest. I am very blessed and we are now engaged to be married and he still loves me for who I am. sometimes its destiny. Get out there and live life, and if it's meant to be it will happen.

so here is a dating story from an older lady. I had a lapband when I was 66. I lost my husband of 39 years a few years ago. He loved me fat or thin. I also lost 3 other members of my family at that same time . I was depressed but knew I had to try to maintain my weight loss. Met a man through a weekly charity poker game. so long story short, he asked me out and I told him up front about my weight loss surgery and I had a lot of apron skin at the time. I still started to feel confident because he always said he didn't care about that, liked me because I was confident. I had skin surgry last Spring and he was by my side and took care of me. Life has no guarantees and it goes by so fast. If a man only cares about you if you are perfect and thin you need to find someone who is genuinely caring and honest. I am very blessed and we are now engaged to be married and he still loves me for who I am. sometimes its destiny. Get out there and live life, and if it's meant to be it will happen.

so here is a dating story from an older lady. I had a lapband when I was 66. I lost my husband of 39 years a few years ago. He loved me fat or thin. I also lost 3 other members of my family at that same time . I was depressed but knew I had to try to maintain my weight loss. Met a man through a weekly charity poker game. so long story short, he asked me out and I told him up front about my weight loss surgery and I had a lot of apron skin at the time. I still started to feel confident because he always said he didn't care about that, liked me because I was confident. I had skin surgry last Spring and he was by my side and took care of me. Life has no guarantees and it goes by so fast. If a man only cares about you if you are perfect and thin you need to find someone who is genuinely caring and honest. I am very blessed and we are now engaged to be married and he still loves me for who I am. sometimes its destiny. Get out there and live life, and if it's meant to be it will happen.