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While I was still in active private practice, I was working with a couple who had numerous issues...and the decision of the husband to move forward with band surgery without the wife's "blessing" actually ended up causing the couple to divorce. Let me stress the point though...they had other significant issues.
The reality is that when you live with someone, and are in a committed relationship, they will discover the truth whether or not you want to "keep it a secret". It could also end up causing some additional issues further down the road. You will also need someone who will be able to drive you to and from surgery...and how would you explain your incisions?
My husband is extremely supportive of my choice to regain some of my health, but has also shared that he hates the diet I need to follow now. It's been a major adjustment for both of us.
Try to consider how you would feel if your wife kept something this important and life altering a "secret" from you? What does that say about the component of trust which is supposed to be in a marriage?
I think it's important to have your wife be a part of your journey...do your best to have her get involved with your pre op journey, and help her learn more about why you want this confidentiality and would like to have her emotional support.
It's your choice, however the likelihood of you successfully keeping this a secret from her is unrealistic. Keeping secrets in a relationship is not a healthy relationship dynamic.
Best wishes...

After reading this makes me very happy I have who I have. They are all so nice!

I was banned on 9/4/12 and had my 1st fill today..Not what I expected!! I didn't eat before the fill and I'm now on liquids for 24hrs uugh!! My stomach is growling like crazy.. OMGoodness.But on a lighter note.. for weigh in I lost 19lbs and I feel great!! I can't wait till tomorrow so I can put some food in my belly. Any suggestions ???
~MsChoco1

You know why I ride my own motorcycle! ?!
I suck up to NO ONE.: o )

I very firmly believe ignorance screams while education whispers. It's always those that are most ignorant that seem to be quickest to point fingers and claim a clue they don't have, while those that are educated in the matter have nothing to prove thus quiet.
It's like the old quote- It's better to look a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. These people seriously need to quit removing the doubt.
I had substantial naysayers in the beginning too. They're all now eating big helpings of crow since I've lost 135 pounds in less than 8 months. I find my silent success is all the vindication I need.
As for those that think it's the "easy way out", I usually challenge them to count every calorie and monitor every nutrient they put in their body, measure everything they eat and never eat more than a cup of food, give up carbonation forever, and increase their physical activity and then tell me how easy it is.

Hello my sister! I was banded on 8-22 and have been really hungry on this liquid only post op diet plan! I can eat Soup, Protein drinks, and small amounts of pudding & yogurt (no fruit). and I feel physically hungry if I don't eat something every 3-4 hours. I tend to drink my fluids throughout the day, but have yet to make 2 days with all 64oz in a row. I don't like Water and I can't have my Lipton green tea mixed berry because it has caffeine in it...so Powerade zero and flavored water, ugh. But I haven't had a diet coke in over 3 weeks!!!! It's the small victories...
Consider me your sister in this journey and we'll all get there together. I have my first follow up with my physician on Friday...WIll let you know what he lets me advance to... I won't get my first fill until Oct 1.
Onward! Day by day!

It is absolutely normal to be hungry and be able to eat quite a bit of food right now.
Something that I did after surgery when my hunger returned was measure out my little half cup of food telling myself that if I'm still hungry I can always wait an hour or two and have another half cup. I usually wasn't though.
Just follow your post op eating plan that your doctor gave you, don't rush it. And don't over eat and stretch out you band new tiny pouch. You can do it!

I try not to look too deep into pizza. You screw up... It happens. Next time have one piece instead of 2. That won't hurt a thing...
And look on the bright side...Right now you are not in the green zone... When you are I doubt you will be able to eat 2 pieces. Thats what makes the band so wonderful when used correctly.

as always Mis73's insights are awesome
I too, had a very bad day today and am feeling horrible. BUT if we continue to feel sad/miserable about the fact we cheated, we will be even MORE prone to fail. Keep your head held high and remember tomorrow is another day.
Be honest with yourself about why you cheated and write it down. That way you will be more aware of your pitfalls and how to avoid them.
According to your ticker you ALREADY lost 24 LBS!!!
THATS AMAZING!! Just remember that now you are 24 pounds lighter forever

My response may surprise you, but the problem isn't the fact you had pizza. The problem is why you had pizza. But here's the good part- you are aware of it. That is half the battle.
Don't beat yourself up over it. Just be aware of emotional eating and try your very best not to do it. Tomorrow is a new day so start fresh and optimistic that it will be a good one.

I'm day 7 and also went back to work feeling bloated. Luckily I get to walk around my classroom. The walking helped A LOT. I'm thinking I need to go walk for 15-20 min before work tomorrow SO I can feel less bloated.

Mine were all glued with steri strips over them.

Yeah I have all my skinny clothes hanging in the closet yet my current fat people clothes are wadded up in drawers. Oh yes... I also have some hooker heels that I can't wait to bust back out!!

Hello Everyone,
Today I have been banded for 1 week 1 day. I lost 10lbs during my sugar busters and I finally got the nerve to step on the scale last night and I had lost a total of 12 more lbs for a total of 22 since I have started the process. I am so excited about this new journey and life style.

I had the ultimate test of willpower today. I am sitting in a faculty meeting around 3:45, and we have about 50 pizza delivered, every topping, every type. They sit four pizzas at every meeing table. I wanted a slice so bad, but i knew it would only get stuck, make me hurl, and probably make my already tender tummy hurt even worse. i have not had to throw up yet and I know my will power will probably be way less once i know my incisions have healed and it is less likely that i will damage my band. BUT today right as I drink another bowl of beef broth i fell damn good about myself. ·

hello my fellow 8/30 twins. TOday I was hungry. I ate my broth and a shake. waited 15 minutes and decided to have another shake and bowl of broth. Well silly me i had two spoons of broth and a sip of the shake. Guess I have my Breakfast for tomorrow. And now the gas is killing me. THis is going to take some getting used to. BUT, I know I am lucky. I had no back or shoulder pain just abdominal gas. and pain at the incision and port sites.
Good luck my fellow banders we will get thru this

Wow I love this site. You guys make every day a little easier. I truly am thankful for all of the support!!! And woohoo to all of you for making it thru another day of temptations BANDED AND PROUD BABY!

I had the ultimate test of willpower today. I am sitting in a faculty meeting around 3:45, and we have about 50 pizza delivered, every topping, every type. They sit four pizzas at every meeing table. I wanted a slice so bad, but i knew it would only get stuck, make me hurl, and probably make my already tender tummy hurt even worse. i have not had to throw up yet and I know my will power will probably be way less once i know my incisions have healed and it is less likely that i will damage my band. BUT today right as I drink another bowl of beef broth i fell damn good about myself. ·

I had the ultimate test of willpower today. I am sitting in a faculty meeting around 3:45, and we have about 50 pizza delivered, every topping, every type. They sit four pizzas at every meeing table. I wanted a slice so bad, but i knew it would only get stuck, make me hurl, and probably make my already tender tummy hurt even worse. i have not had to throw up yet and I know my will power will probably be way less once i know my incisions have healed and it is less likely that i will damage my band. BUT today right as I drink another bowl of beef broth i fell damn good about myself. ·

I had the ultimate test of willpower today. I am sitting in a faculty meeting around 3:45, and we have about 50 pizza delivered, every topping, every type. They sit four pizzas at every meeing table. I wanted a slice so bad, but i knew it would only get stuck, make me hurl, and probably make my already tender tummy hurt even worse. i have not had to throw up yet and I know my will power will probably be way less once i know my incisions have healed and it is less likely that i will damage my band. BUT today right as I drink another bowl of beef broth i fell damn good about myself. ·

I had the ultimate test of willpower today. I am sitting in a faculty meeting around 3:45, and we have about 50 pizza delivered, every topping, every type. They sit four pizzas at every meeing table. I wanted a slice so bad, but i knew it would only get stuck, make me hurl, and probably make my already tender tummy hurt even worse. i have not had to throw up yet and I know my will power will probably be way less once i know my incisions have healed and it is less likely that i will damage my band. BUT today right as I drink another bowl of beef broth i fell damn good about myself. ·

I had the ultimate test of willpower today. I am sitting in a faculty meeting around 3:45, and we have about 50 pizza delivered, every topping, every type. They sit four pizzas at every meeing table. I wanted a slice so bad, but i knew it would only get stuck, make me hurl, and probably make my already tender tummy hurt even worse. i have not had to throw up yet and I know my will power will probably be way less once i know my incisions have healed and it is less likely that i will damage my band. BUT today right as I drink another bowl of beef broth i fell damn good about myself. ·

I had the ultimate test of willpower today. I am sitting in a faculty meeting around 3:45, and we have about 50 pizza delivered, every topping, every type. They sit four pizzas at every meeing table. I wanted a slice so bad, but i knew it would only get stuck, make me hurl, and probably make my already tender tummy hurt even worse. i have not had to throw up yet and I know my will power will probably be way less once i know my incisions have healed and it is less likely that i will damage my band. BUT today right as I drink another bowl of beef broth i fell damn good about myself. ·

I had the ultimate test of willpower today. I am sitting in a faculty meeting around 3:45, and we have about 50 pizza delivered, every topping, every type. They sit four pizzas at every meeing table. I wanted a slice so bad, but i knew it would only get stuck, make me hurl, and probably make my already tender tummy hurt even worse. i have not had to throw up yet and I know my will power will probably be way less once i know my incisions have healed and it is less likely that i will damage my band. BUT today right as I drink another bowl of beef broth i fell damn good about myself. ·